PSA... DON'T play "doctor"!!
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Comments (20)Thank you....I will do that. Sorry if I sounded like a whiner LOL! I know I need a lawyer...I guess I just needed to unload. It's just so frustrating to even talk to her. I don't mean to sound cold hearted, I really didn't mind helping her....but to go out of my way to be good to her, only to be berated is getting old. I really appreciate the advice. Another thing I'm dealing with is her dog LOL! She has a little Yorkie who I am worried about...it got very sick last week, and I had to take her to the vet for stomach problems. We couldn't figure out what kept making the dog sick. Yesterday I found out that she has been feeding her dog CHOCOLATE BARS! LOL! Her sister had brought her some candy, and that is what she was feeding her dog. I told her that chocolate is toxic for dogs , and she said "Well she likes it, so you don't know ANYTHING and she can eat what she wants!" So now I am going to have to protect the dog from her too I guess *rolls eyes*.......See Moreopposite of low libido - don't envy me.
Comments (21)Hiya, hiya! First, Suntide, I know what you mean about your male friend. I have one, too. (he's my male best friend, actually) Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined anything more than friendship between us. I've known him for 10 years, and he's NOT the cheating kind. Neither am I. But, slowly and surely, and very very cautiously, things seem to be edging towards something more. Would I leave dh for him? You betcha. I've always told his wife what a lucky woman she is (she agrees, and 5 minutes later, forgets all about it and takes him for granted again). Plus, during the last two years I've been in search of a job with enough creative moxy to keep me inspired, plus financial muscle to keep me off welfare, so I can get a divorce. Is it stupid to get a divorce this late in life? My choices are 1) Stay Miserable and Married or 2) You Ain't Dead Yet -- Take A Chance. And yes, the cream does help. Of course, I don't know if it helps just by itself (... ladies? please chime in :-) or if it's the combination of homeopathy + cream. The only thing it's not helping, is the insomnia. And bone pain. Muscle pain? My memory-foam mattress feels as hard as a rock nowadays. I'll be laying on my side and my hip will wake me up, hurting, like it's mashed against some immoveable surface ... like concrete. Am I making any sense, or am I just burbling? %-) Cindy...See MoreSometimes I just don't know...
Comments (7)Definitely, back into counseling for this little guy. He's got so much to deal with and needs to learn effective coping strategies to replace the ones he's using now. One specific suggestion for the mean outbursts: Help him phrase his statements/requests/complaints in ways that are more positive and less hurtful. If he mutters "Move your fat butt!" respond "That didn't come out right. Please try it again using nice words and a nice voice." (Adjust to your child's age and understanding.) The key is to keep it short, NOT negative (he's already in a foul mood), but get him to express himself in ways that are socially acceptable. Help him find the words to say what he means, but in ways that are kind and polite. If he actually says the words (with proper inflection), it'll make a big, big difference. It's really hard to stay angry when your tone of voice has to be pleasant. The first few times, you may need to add explanations like "Your words and tone of voice were rude and hurtful. When you're asking someone to do something for you, you need to ask nicely" - but not for long. If SS sees you and Dad speaking kindly and respectfully to each other, he will know what's acceptable. He'll just need to be reminded that it applies to him also. When he rephrases his request nicely, praise him. If it's only marginally acceptable or still rude, have him try it again. Seriously! It'll get boring and ridiculous fast, but so what? The idea is for the kid to learn that if he asks nicely, he gets what he wants. If he's rude, he doesn't, and he has to try again (over and over) until he does ask nicely. (My kids are rarely rude to me anymore because it's just such a pain in the behind for them if they are.)...See MoreChewing Fingernails, Don't Know if You Can Help...
Comments (10)background check is a good idea, thanks. the kids are fine now, they're with their parents & grandmother, calling cps would be wasting cps's time & resources. if Lucy does indeed move to an apartment & take the children with her & move the guy in, & if at that time her husband doesn't take the children, then, yes, cps would have to be called. good idea, tos, maybe husband can get some assistance. yes, Lucy has been diagnosed; that's why she has meds. meds that she isn't taking, but she has 'em. & her husband does know the whole idea; he's just hanging in there & hoping it'll blow over. & maybe it will, so far she hasn't moved, & in her depressed frame of mind I don't know that she has the necessary ability to follow through. yes, I agree she doesn't need more children. I just think that the fact that she had so many so fast might have something to do with her depressed state. her husband hasn't had her admitted to a hospital because he, for the time being anyway, doesn't have any way to care for the children 24/7. I'll let Sandy know, & she can encourage him to check into those programs. maybe if he gets some housing & daycare assistance, her husband can get her into a hospital; at least he & the kids would have a safety net if or when she crashes. thanks, tracy, for your helpful suggestion & for your empathy & supportiveness. these children's safety may depend on someone not directly involved, someone whose problem it isn't. if this young mother does indeed move out & take all these little ducklings with her & move the "new guy" in, her husband can take the children back, but he'd have to have a way to take care of them. & if the new guy hurts them before their father can make arrangements, then cps will get involved, but a great deal of damage will have been done. thanks to all; I'll pass your suggestions to Sandy, & I know she'll appreciate it....See More
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