Feeling worried about Craigslist post
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Comments (21)I think I'd be careful how I spent it, but if you will enjoy the process and this is your "bucket list", then I'd go ahead (again, carefully). The longer the wait to do it, the shorter the time you will enjoy it. I have done things many times and wondered why the heck I did not do that sooner. I am very cautious and it sounds like you are too. I bargain shopped and am pinching pennies til they scream, lol. However, I have waited a long time to get a home that is done and is where I feel is our family nest for the long term. I work hard and save everywhere else, so this is our splurge. I think it may also make your dh happy to see you getting what you have waited for for so long. It would be lovely if he could enjoy it for a while with you. If he is with you on this and likes planning and working on it with you, this could be a project that gives you time together and it may be therapeutic to see tangible results. We can't always control our health, so maybe controlling your surroundings is a way to feel a little power again. I do like that your focus is on looking forward. I would just caution that you do not mortgage more than you could get for the house, although since most banks won't let you do that anymore, that is less of a concern. You don't want to find that you can't afford to live there and yet can't afford to sell later on. I'd also hate to leave any heirs with a financial mess. You do not owe anyone to make them rich, but I'd hate to have my passing make someone I love poor. I do like your plan for taking on a roommate or renting out an apt. It is a great fallback position and a way to generate money regardless of your health. We rented out part of our first house and it helped us be able to move along and gain equity enough to now be in our second house and in the process of fixing it up. Some people were aghast at having to live with a tenant downstairs, but then again, most of them are not as well off now as we are ;) I wish you and your dh all the best and hope you have longer with him than expected....See MoreWorried about cold feel of carrara marble counter
Comments (1)I have a similar kitchen (except we have white marble atop the white cabs, and a maple butcherblock on the black island), and it overlooks our family room (with similar warm tones). I think it works really well together! This is the family room, and on the far right of the photo you can just make out the marble countertop (separating the family room from the kitchen proper): And this is the kitchen from the family room: I think things have a way of working themselves out ... and if it's all your taste, then it's unlikely to be strikingly incongruous (like a Pawson kitchen with a Bloomsbury family room!)....See MoreTo those who feel bad when someone posts about grammar
Comments (28)I tend to be long winded both in written and in speech. I figure if someone wants straight to the point, they can skip my post if they desire. So please feel free, because I feel a long winded moment coming on here. I do tend to write matter-of-factly, so I'm sure there are times when people take offense to it. I would imagine some if it would depend on the person's mood. I can be sensitive myself at times. Usually I let a lot of things roll off my back, but if I am pms'ing it's often not so easy. Thanks ovaries! I have tolerance for other people's differences and would consider myself a very accepting person. I consider myself to be very empathic and can often see where another person is coming from, but I'm also not afraid to speak my mind. This is probably where trouble finds me. LOL I find what bothers me the most is the gang mentality that happens all too often on anonymous forums. It's not what's being said, it's that people all start jumping on the band wagon against someone and it's not even necessarily to do with what a person was asking. I've felt this with myself and I've seen this happen on other posts and quite a bit on Houzz. I have jumped in more than once to "stand up" for someone. Usually it's because I hope people realize that maybe they are being harsh against the poster. Again, it's not usually about people disagreeing with the poster but how they go about it. In most cases jumping in doesn't help. LOL My husband always asks me why I even bother. I think for me personally, it comes down to certain trigger words in posts that set me off. Sometimes those trigger words don't effect me, but if there are hormones involved, I can get testy. It's not that I'm so upset that I could drop kick someone through the screen, but I do get annoyed. Ok, full disclosure, I couldn't drop kick someone even if I wanted to. Usually, the majority of the time when I'm "debating" an issue, it's simply that, debating. I'm very, very rarely heated. I don't know why so many people just automatically assume that if someone disagrees with you they are heated. I can't even count the number of times I have laughed in exasperation because of something being said over and over again. It's like beating a dead horse. If you have something new to add to the conversation, please do, but stop repeating the exact same thing over and over again, especially when someone has already answered the question. It really does usually make me shake my head and laugh. There could be an entire post about someone complaining that I do not agree with, it rarely bothers me. This is usually true, even if it's something that I feel is an attack against something I do or believe in. I am definitely not one to shy away from standing up for myself. I come from a long line of people who are not afraid to speak their mind and are stubborn to boot, but life is too short to jump in to try and change someone's mind on every post you disagree with. So please note: 1) If I seem "angry" in my posts, I'm likely not 2) I will likely sound more upset 1 week out of every month 3) People on message boards are still real people and have real feelings. You might disagree with someone completely on one post and then totally agree with them on the very next one....See MorePain sufferers...do you worry about the holidays?
Comments (63)I do understand Kathi about age and concerns. Not to compare, but my 84 year old mom has had a couple of surgeries. All was well and she wishes she wouldn't have put them off as long as she did. She's a lot like me and thinks stuff will improve with time....(yeah...no it's won't). But...I said to her, what if you have one more year to live and are able to do it pain free? What if it's 5 years? Ten? Kathi, wouldn't you and your husband be so happy to know that the next 10 years of his life would be spent pain free? Sorry to be all opinionated when you didn't ask, but this episode (and the positive prodding of folks on this great forum) has REALLY gotten me thinking about quality of life.... It matters, you know? I was pretty much in a state of "well, there's another day out of the way"...and that's no way to live. I was wishing my life away...not good. ANYHOO enough of me and my doings. I really hope your hubs gets to do whatever is best for him...and that does OF COURSE include getting to be as pain-free as he possibly can....See MoreUser
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