Wearing Nice Slacks to Rehearsal/Welcome Dinner for Wedding
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Need a nice joke to start off wedding speech.
Comments (27)If you are going to be really emotional, how about having your DH give the speech? I live in the States so it may be a regional thing, but usually there is the toast by the best man and if there is any speech by a parent, it is usually a welcome-type given by the FOB. Just a thought since it seems you are having a bit of anxiety over the emotion tied to the content of your speech. I don't think I would be able to get through it without a river, so I wouldn't even attempt it. Perhaps the more you rehearse, the better. Does your DD know you are doing a speech, and if so, does she know the content? Thinking if you could practice it in front of her (being the emotional trigger) may allow you to get through it with less tears when you give it at the wedding. However, if you don't want your DD to hear it prior to your giving it at the wedding, is there someone else you could practice with, a really good friend who has a DD, with whom you are very close? Your own DM? Just trying to think of a way for you to pull some of the raw emotion out prior to giving it at the wedding. Tears of joy are totally normal, but if you are crying a river, will you be able to get through it? Five minutes is a pretty long speech. Any event, I hope the wedding is wonderful. It sounds as tho no doubt it will be. Congratulations! I would love to see pics, so please snap a few to share here....See MoreTo bring you up to date - rehearsal dinner
Comments (14)LOL! Well, Melvalena, I hope you won't be disappointed. This was from the decorating forum, not the wedding forum, so with apologies to the others for the off-topic post, here is your answer. **** Origin of the term: When we bought our house, it had a big, beautiful living room right in the center of the house, a lovely little study in the front, an enormous family room in the back, and no dining room (the previous 2 owners didn't cook). We use a dining room a lot, often for big groups, and although we used our living room in our old house, we realized that we mostly used the small space in the middle. So we turned the living room into a dining room, and the little front study into a ... what to call it? It serves the function of a living room, but it's too small (about 11 x 12) to call it that, and I just couldn't get myself to say "parlor." My daughter (then 11) named it the "schmooze room," because, she said, "That's where the adults will go to schmooze after dinner." ("Schmooze" is Yiddish for "chat.") When, years ago, I asked the decorating forum for advice on decorating it, the term kind of caught on, and a few other posters now have schmooze rooms, too, and developed a sort of philosophy about it. It seems a lot of people (who are lucky enough to have the space for it) like having a lovely and/or goofy little retreat of a room that doesn't have to be so practical. The (tongue in cheek) guidelines are these: - No computer, TV, or most other electronic items (opinion is divided on radio/stereo, with some people saying it depends on the type of music). This is a room for conversation, reading, and long, schmoozy phone calls (IF you bring a cordless in from another room -- no phone plugged in there). - No leaving anything here. This room always looks nice, even if everyplace gets cluttered. - Try to make any snacks or beverages you bring in special, or at least in a decent dish. No bags of chips. - As this room isn't a heavy use room like a kitchen or bath, it's a good place to be a little impractical, idiosyncratic, and whimsical (like fringe near the ceiling) in your decorating. E.g., this is the place to choose fabrics because the color or texture thrills you, not because they will be durable or not show grease stains (see previous guideline), and bold colors that you adore but that you might be afraid you'd get sick of if they were in the kitchen. - Preferably located out of earshot of TV and children. Children welcome, but for non-messy, grown-up behavior only (no running, fighting, or art projects). Pet rules depend upon how well your pet obeys rules! Lots of people (especially Monablair) on the decorating forum helped, and I feel their presence whenever I am in there. Here are a few pictures of our schmooze room (the artwork is different now, and the colors aren't QUITE as vivid as they appear in the photos)....See Morerehearsal dinner invitation wording
Comments (10)Sweeby, I hate "dressy casual"! To me, that translates to, "Casual, but we don't trust you not to show up in ripped jeans and a filthy T-shirt." sweet pea says that that is indeed what some people do. Well, maybe so -- but (especially given that those people probably would dress that way no matter WHAT you put on the invitation) I wouldn't insult the other guests by indicating that assumption. Personally, I don't think I'd write anything other than "black tie," "dressy," or "casual," on an invitation, and and I really hate "original" things like "festive casual" or "celebratory attire" -- they are just plain confusing, and they sound like the hosts are trying too hard. We recently went to a wedding the invitation to which said, "No neckties!" I know the couple wanted it casual, and they probably thought the wording was cute, but I felt that was just plain bossy and controlling. Some of the older male guests (including the groom's father) feel very uncomfortable NOT wearing a tie to even a casual event (not a picnic or softball game, but you know what I mean). They could just have written "casual" and everyone would have dressed appropriately, and if some men wore ties, so what? Beats antagonizing your guests before the wedding even starts. You can dress your bridal party to match (and, ironically, they DIDN'T), but not your guests! In fact, I am more and more not writing anything at all. The style of the invitation and the time, type, and location of the event really give anyone who cares all the information they need. Suppose you got an invitation with paper and font that are pretty but dignified, a (readable) script font, and fairly formal wording: Please join us for Rehearsal dinner Saturday, June 31 7:30 pm La Palma Ristorante / at our home 123 Main Street AnyTown Muriel and Waldo Quilter RSVP: (000) 555-1212 or this one, on day-glo paper with a border of balloons and a goofy font: WOW!!! With just 24 hours to go, let's pull out all the stops and have a bash in honor of Petunia and Cuthbert! Clambake -n- kegger Saturday, June 31 Party Beach 7:30 p.m.-??? Wouldn't you know how to dress for each of these parties, without being given a dress code? For your party, quilter, I would either write nothing regarding dress, or, if you feel that it is still ambiguous (like if it's at a home), then I would write "casual." If the invitation is anything but ultra-casual, people will know to dress decently. No one is going to wear dressy party clothes. If someone wears nice jeans and a nice top, and someone else is in a suit, it isn't a disaster -- after all, you might very well see both at a good restaurant. The guests don't have to match each other exactly, and you don't want to risk casting a pall on your party by appearing overly controlling of the guests' clothes....See MoreWho is invited to the rehearsal dinner?
Comments (22)your poor cousin! Her course of action sounds sensible. And once she's clearly communicated this (perhaps in a nicely worded letter sent "return receipt requested" to MOB, groom, and bride? LOL! But seriously, she should put it in writing), she needs to cut off contact w/the MOB as much as possible. Because she SURE doesn't need to spend her mental and physical energy trying to pick a wine that will not break her bank! The groom and his wife-to-be need to point out to the MOB that the groom's beloved mother is fighting for her life, and shouldn't be stressed at this point. And the poor bride! Her mom is gonna make her look like Bridezilla! And it think it's really crummy for the bride's side to create a HUGE wedding and insist that the groom's side pay the alcohol bill for them all. It's one thing for the groom's side to pitch in, but neither side should be bankrupting the other....See MoreUser
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