Darn it! I went too far !
linnea56 (zone 5b Chicago)
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Comments (4)I really don't think that you'll have much luck with an unestablished one unless you are ready to give it some fairly significant heat assistance. It's trunk will start to die some where around 25f. I'd say you'd have a chance for a re-sprout if you give the root ball a pretty thick layer of mulch with some plastic over it to keep away excess moisture. It would probably be a lot easier and far more reliable if you could bring the tree indoors in the winter or in your garage if you can keep it from freezing. I've never grown this plant but, these protection methods will work for a lot of tender plants. Chris...See MoreDarned if I do and darned if I don't
Comments (85)Snookums - I read a bunch of responses then just jumped ahead to put in my .02 cents. I've learned a few things having been married once before my current husband. #1 - You may have a spouse that is never satisfied. #1 was like that and it's part of their demoralizing way of controlling the situation and getting you to jump through hoops. LESSON LEARNED - No one spouse can carry the burden of making the relationship work, making it happy etc. Refuse to be the burden carrier if this is the case. Couple of suggestions: You could say, or have the attitude that his level of satisfaction regarding decorating, home improvement is level A but since you like it at level C that you will bring it up there as you see fit. You're not asking him to agree to it, you're just telling him. What about the next time something needs doing, he hasn't done it after 2 askings that you just go ahead, hire a handyman and have it done? When he squawks tell him, hey you had your chance to do it, you obviously didn't deem it important so "I took care of it for you. Aren't you glad honey, I took that load off your plate." One of two things will happen, especially if you do this every time, he'll either begin to do it himself if he doesn't like spending the money or he'll be fine with it as you've handled it. If he's not fine, then he has to do it by deadline A or again, you'll take care of it. As many have said, when throwing his fits, walk out of the room or refuse to respond telling him when he wants to have calm, rational, nonacusatory conversation, he can find you, until then, you've got other things to do. With DH #2 of 13 yrs, he has a higher standard when it comes to some cleaning issues that bug him and don't bug me. He's a busy body and I just tell him, hey, I'm willing to bring it to this level, if you want it better than this or whatever, then you can take it from there. Yes, at times I do feel a twinge of guilt but that is my own fault for even feeling it. Luckily I have a very DIY DH, mostly because he'd rather do it than spend the $$ and he's very talented in many areas and can do it. So I'm grateful. Plus nobody could accuse him of being lazy. Does your DH have a high level of frustration when he can't figure things out, get them done etc.? Maybe this is his throwing smoke so he doesn't have to deal with that issue (thre real fire). Better to not do task, than feel frustration or inadequacy over not being able to do it. You follow? Again, you doing it or better yet handyman could be an answer here. My house is my haven from the outside world and I'll be D&^@ed if anyone is NOT going to let me make it that way. Keep doing what you're doing girl!!!! We're with you. :)...See MoreHelp - my stairs went from too busy to too boring
Comments (41)Nancy -- our before pictures look like mirror-image twins! Your makeover is gorgeous! Great job. I love the picture frame molding in the last few pics (and DH says he'll help me do it) -- agree that with the gallery photos it's too much, so I'm thinking I'll aim for something like Nancy's artwork. Squirrel - why do you say you're fired? I think they look terrific and like the border/stencil option -- would be a way to tie together the light and dark woods if I end up staining the treads. LOVE your portrait, it's true you have super powers! You asked about the tile -- I am pretty sure it's original to the house (late 60s). Thank you all for your help!!! I will post after pics (but it will take me a long time to get to it!) First step is to fix the wobbly banister, because I don't want someone messing up my paint/staining when they come in to fix it....See MoreAm I 'too far along' to go topless?
Comments (67)Thanks, D-ro, enduring, Francoise, and Herb. I am happy with this. I appreciate your comments. I forgot to mention that, as part of the decision process, I constructed fake "uppers" from cardboard boxes, and hung them on the walls. I also used tables and sawhorses to simulate countertops. I could then swap upper locations around easily, going back and forth between the layouts posted, say, on Wed, Sep 28, 11 at 19:40 and Thu, Sep 29, 11 at 13:38. This made it easy to sort out issues like possible crowding of the big window, the overall airiness of the kitchen, lights in the sink area, and the difficulty of reaching above the shoulders into the upper cabs with a laden soup bowl. Therefore, I am more confident in this arrangement than I was when only relying on Sketchup. Francoise, you are so right about how hard MW placement is. After this struggle, I have concluded that chest-high is the only really good placement; this either means in the middle of a tall cab (like CluelessinCo) or hanging below un upper (like someone posted recently... Dianalo? remodelFLA?). I didn't want to give up the pantry to do the former or effectively give up the counterspace to do the latter, so the drawer was the next-best alternative. Funny that I never really understood that about MWs before....See Morelinnea56 (zone 5b Chicago)
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