My Mom would have been 80 the year she passed-my Dad as well.

They passed 16 & 18 yrs ago.

Mom was 38 when she had me,the 5th of 7.

I am crowding 59 now.

My mother was 78. She died (presumably) from a blood clot after a surgery. I had spoken to her on the phone and was on my way to visit when she died. My dad was just shy of his 90th birthday. He was ready to die. Wanted to to die. His general health was pretty good for his age but he was just as he said, tired. He probably could have lived for many more years but he simply didn't want to. As they say, pneumonia was his friend in this case.

Mother in law died a day past her 80th birthday. She had been failing for some time and struggled with severe arthritis which left her disabled since her mid 40's. DH's dad died in his forties when DH was 11 or 12 years old. He had a bad heart from childhood rheumatic fever. Today the problem would have been correctable. back then it wasn't. DH lived for well into adulthood believing "heart disease" ran his in family. I found out from questioning his mother that his dad had St. Vitus which led me to the rheumatic fever discovery. DH is 69 and his heart is strong. ;-)

Father died of lung cancer at 71 and mother died at 92.

My father died at 90 and was happy to go. My mother died at 76. She had given birth to 11 children, so taking that into consideration, she lived a long life.

We were talking this morning about our parents and how old they would have been if they were still alive. My father-in-law died first, when hubby was 24, then my parents and mother-in-law died in an 18-month time frame much later.

My mother was 73 when she died (would have been 90 this year), my father was 81 - (would have been 97). Hubby's father would have been 101, but died when he was 60 (cause of death - restaurant food - in my opinion - he worked away from home and was only home on the weekends). Hubby's mother would have been 99 and died when she was 84.

My father had a heart attack at 55 and passed away. My mother lived to be 96 and was still very sharp. She died peacefully on the 4th. Of July, 2008.

My alcoholic father died of liver failure/complications @ 68. My mom was 83 and on her 4th husband. :0)

They're both still alive and in poor physical health. He'll be 77 this year and she'll be 74. I'm glad they're still here. Hugs to everyone who is missing their parents.

My parents are still living, dad is 74 and mom is 70. At this time, they are still both pretty healthy.

My mother's death, at age 80, was due to heart issues. My father's death, at age 89, was due to complications of diabetes.

My Dad died at 73 of cancer and Mom at age 87, she had Alzheimer's. She was the first to die of her 10 siblings and all the rest have lived in to their mid to high 90s.

Dad was 95 and my Mom was 96 when they passed. Dad in 2004 and Mom in 2009. I sure miss her.

Mother, 58. Father, 80

My father died at 73 because of a car accident. My mom died a few years ago at 93.

My parents married and had children young (much too young on both counts). They've each had a health crisis in the last couple of years, but are active and only semi-retired at 79 and 78. My FIL is not as active, but still independent, at 86. My MIL died 10 years ago at age 75, from complications of lung cancer. She was a heavy smoker.

My husband, who was asthmatic and had other respiratory problems, died suddenly at age 53, five years ago. Reading the posts from you, pekemom, and others who lost their fathers at a young age, while their mothers lived into their 90's--I don't know whether to be optimistic or depressed.

My dad died at the age of 45, I was 13 at the time. It was the result of a motorcycle accident. Mom is 79 and lives with me. I am 54.

Mom is pushing 70. Dad died at 63. All the men in my family die young. Unlike all before me, I don't smoke, and I'm vegetarian. So maybe, just maybe, I'll maximize my gene potential. I do drink though... did I mention we all die young?!

Very interesting to see others' history. My dad is 78 in pretty good health, my mom just turned 73 - in not so good health as she went to the hospital on Christmas Eve with CHF...and now she won't take her meds and fights every doctors appointment. I am flying up to see them in two weeks as my sisters are going crazy with her stubbornness and now it's my turn to deal with it. I wish she would have made lifestyle changes years ago.

My mom died at 72 and my dad at 85.

My mother was 93 when she died.. She lived a full normal life right up to the last minutes. She had been to the market and was unpacking groceries when something happened. When we could not get in touch with her soon after, we went over to check on her. It was very traumatic finding her. My father died at 95 a year after suffering a stroke which left him unable to walk without assistance, affected his speech and memory to a degree. My father-in-law suffered from a unspecified progressive neural muscular disease for about 10 years before his death at age 80. Mother-in-law going strong at 99 1/2 years old. She lives alone a distance from both sons., her choice to the dismay of her sons. She takes 2 buses to a senior center for lunch and bingo. She does not take any medicine, not even an aspirin. She recovered from a broken hip several years ago. She tripped on a curb after spending the afternoon at the casino. She walks upright without a walker or cane. Her memory is failing though. Today my mother would have been 99, my father and father in law 100 yeas old. At 65 years old, I am lucky to have had my parents well into my adulthood unlike so many others who suffered loss at your next age. It must have been so hard.

Both of my parents are 75 and both in good health. My dad has always be active and he still rides a bike many miles most days. My step parents are also still alive and they are 75 and 72.

Dad died at 89 and Mom at 94. Good genes.

Both of my parents died at 85. They married when he was 44 and she was 28. I am the oldest of their 7 children. My youngest brother was born when I was 15. My mother was 44, my dad was 62. Incidentally, my father, at age 80, was the proudest man in the audience when his youngest son graduated from college with multiple honors.

As for me, I'm 93, and when I see a doctor I have learned to expect the comment that I "don't look like I am 93." There are days when I feel it, though. One grandfather, one uncle, and two aunts died at age 93. I sometimes wonder if that is the "magic age."

My dad died at the age of 77 and ten years later my mom died at the age of 77.

My mother is 95 and in poor health, Parkinsonism. She's suffered greatly for the last 4-5 years. My father is in excellent health at 92. They were in their mid 30's when they got married and I'm the "baby" at 58.

My Mom died at 61 - cancer.

Dad died at 87 - body finally wore out. Funny, his doctors said that due to the lung problems he had from WWII, he shouldn't expect to live past 60. He out lived them all.

My parents are in their early 80's and very healthy. My grandparents all lived until their late 80's, early 90's. My FIL passed last year at the age of 93. He played 3 sets of tennis everyday until his late 80's. I attribute their longevity to the fact that all are/were very active in someway everyday. They also never considered themselves to be old and refused to say the word. They have/had a very positive attitude about everything. I've adopted their philosophy and hope it works for me as it has for them :)

My mother was 9 years younger than my father. My dad passed away at the age of 85 and my mom was alone for 9 years, dying at the age of 84.

My dad died at age 49 of a massive heart attack. He would be 107 now. Mom died at age 92, 10 years after a stroke that paralyzed her left side. Complications from surgery for an impacted bowel took her. She would have been 104 last Thursday.

Dad had 7 siblings, all of whom died from heart related issues. Four of them before age 50. Mom had 10 siblings. Heart issues or stroke took most all of them. One was a suicide. Fortunately cancer has not affected either side of my family. We can do things to somewhat sidestep heart problems....but cancer seems to have it's say no matter what we do other than take steps to try control our environment or by not smoking.

I should add here that I am now 74, brother is 80 and sister is 84. We all have heart disease and have had surgery/and or stents, the medical interventions possible today. Sister had a stroke that would probably have been catastrophic were it not for the medical intervention that was not a part of medicine just a few years ago. Medicine has come a long, long way in the last 50 years, so it is likely that the now generation will live longer than our parents did.

Mother, born 1905, died at 73 after developing 'a blood disorder' three years earlier. She died of leukemia. Her mother, a Scots immigrant at 16, lived into her nineties. Her father, whose Scots ancestors immigrated before the American Revolution, died after a stroke at 54. She was an only child. I am her only child, now almost 75.

Father, born 1911, died at 83, after being on dialysis for ten years. His kidneys were compromised by medication for high blood pressure. His mother died at 72. (She was born in a silver-mining town in Colorado where her father was a doctor and where three younger sibs died in childhood and two brothers died in their twenties.) His father lived past 100. He was one of seven, one brother dying at seven of adrenal failure. One brother died about sixty (alcohol), and his eldest and youngest brothers lived past 100. One sister lived into her eighties; the youngest died in middle age after multiple amputations (diabetes and alcohol).

I often think of how my then-young parents experienced events that I see in movies or read about in novels based in the early 1900's. They lived through huge changes in the world and in our daily lives. It's with some wonderment that I realize that *I* have lived through times that younger people are studying as 'history'!

mama goose, my father, who died at 53, had cancer...my mother was taken care of by my youngest brother until she died at 90, she just gave up, quit eating...Now all 3 of us are in our 60's, older than when our father died.

Thank all of you for sharing your stories...

my dad was 61, complications from diabetes... my mom was 79, brain cancer. it was horrible., she was gone in 10 months from diagnosis., i miss her everyday!!!

my maternal grandmother was 84., grandfather was in his 50's, never met him., he had mystenia.

paternal grandmother 73, complications from diabetes. grandfather 92, he aspirated on food in the hospital., that was really sad.. he was in good health otherwise.

Thank God none of my siblings or me has diabetes, it is a debilitating disease over time. hopefully i got my paternal grandfather's gene's. drank a glass of red wine every day, he said that's why he was "so old"!! Saluti, everyone!!

Dad died at 73 from cancer....mom at 90 from ALZ.

dad was 77 and died the same day as elvis...mother was 89 and passed just before her 90th...at least he got to see the all the grand kids...

My Dad died at 60. I found out the next day I was pregnant with my daughter. My Mom died in my arms, she was 71. Both my in-laws are still alive. MIL is 77, FIL is 83, and has alzheimers. I fear the disease will kill her before him. Very, very hard on the care giver.

My Mother passed away in her 30s...I was 7 at the time.

My dad lived on until he was 80. He never remarried.

He had been married before he married my mom. He lost her in child birth They had an 19 month daughter and the baby she had when she died.

Dont think he wanted to try it again.

Sorry for all of you that lost a parent while you were children, it's hard enough as an adult.

Daddy was born in 1894 and died when he was 75 from a fat clot following surgery to repair a broken hip. Mother was born in 1904 and died when she was 90. The only medication she took was for her thyroid. One morning while eating breakfast, she just departed this world. Daddy was 52 and Mother was 42 when they adopted me - I'm turning 70 this year.

Two weeks after her 38th birthday, my mother died from cleaning a rug. (Carbon tetrachloride isn't sold for that purpose anymore.) I was 9.

My dad lived to be 90. He had heart bypass surgery at 86. The surgeon said they didn't usually operate on people his age, but he was in such good health otherwise. Four years later he got prostate cancer--something all men will get if they live long enough, at least that's what his doctor told me.

I like Texas Gem's article too, as I was 30, 32, and 35 when my children were born. I lost a pregnancy, very early, when I was 41.

This is an interesting thread.

My father died of cardiovascular disease at age 82. He had fought in WW1 in France. Mother passed away at 96 years of age. They married in Oklahoma in 1920. Dad was 24; Mother was 16. She was from a family of 10 children. To start their lives together, they leased farming land on an Indian reservation and one day when they had gone to town, their cabin burned taking all their possessions. All they owned at that moment were the clothes they were wearing. Somehow, they made their way to Illinois to seek shelter with Dad's
parents near Ottawa, IL. Dad took a job at the glass factory and then
the Great Depression hit and he lost that job. They had their share of tough times, maybe more than most, but their marriage stood like an unmoving boulder in a rushing stream of water.

My mother died two years ago of a massive heart attack at 76. I had just been texting with her that morning, and my dad called me an hour later to tell me she was dead. Daddy is 78 now, but in extremely poor health - plus he smokes like a chimney. He is still in deep mourning for my Mama, and I'm surprised he didn't die within weeks of her.

My mother's mother also died at 76 (metastatic breast cancer). My dad's dad died at 81 (heart attack). My dad's mother died at 92 of pure meanness.

Mom will be 82 in March, dad 84 in April. Both are very healthy, mom only takes 1/2 a statin pill a day. Dad goes to the gym (he walks there, about a mile) every day. In the summer he rides the stationery bike, in the winter he swims.

My Dad died on 6/7/8 at the age of 82. He was a physician who quit smoking cigs when I was a baby (I'm 56) because of the health hazards, but took up cigars. When I was 14 he was diagnosed with oral cancer and had a radical neck surgery to get the lymph nodes. It was a trying time, Mom had to work a menial job at his hospital just for health insurance. But he survived for many years after that, worked as a physician until a few years before he died. I had the privilege of taking care of him for about 18 months before he died. I was always a "Daddy's girl" and adored him. My Mom is still alive and 83. She will be 84 in June and is pretty active. She only takes one low dose med for slightly elevated blood pressure. Still has all of her marbles, does the NYT crossword every day and works on the Sunday one for a few days, along with the cryptoquote. I am taking her on a cruise in May, just me and her.

Dad at 61 of colon cancer, mom still chugging along at 95, with bypass heart surgery at 85. Her main problem is rls for which she is now on dilaudid, which makes her sleepy and often forgetful. Who knew my mother, who could barely finish half a glass of wine, would be dependent on such strong drugs at this age? How we wish there were a better alternative, but she's tried 'em all.

I posted earlier about my own parents but just wanted to tell everyone of you who have lost your parents that I pray for you. It is so hard to be without your folks and I hope my children/stepchildren miss me half as much as I miss my own parents.

For those who still have your parents...appreciate them as flawed as they might be

My Mom died in 2001 of cancer (metastisized through breast, bone and lung); my father passed away at the end of 2014 of dementia. Mom was 75; Dad was 90. I'm currently 62.

Dad died at 46 of brain tumor/cancer when I was 19 (now 56). I think of him daily and talk to his picture. He had 5 girls but I was Daddy's girl. Mom will be 80 this year and has fought breast cancer, but has other issues helped with meds. DH's parents both died at age 57, two years apart, one of a heart attack, the other of some kind of cancer. DH is currently 58.

I usually stay out of threads like this but I did want to join others in saying that I'm sorry for those who had a parent die when they were still a kid and so had to grow up lacking a second parent. Also for those parents who died before achieving the longevity they and their loved ones expected they would have.

My Dad died suddenly in 1984 at the age of 66, he worked at Chrysler's for 46 years and had just retired. My Mom died in 2002 when she was 80. She died at home from pancreatic cancer but also had Alzheimer's for more than 10 years before she passed away. My maternal Grandparents lived well into their late 80's, my paternal Grandmother died when my Dad was 6 years old and my Grandfather when he was around 72 a few months after being in a car accident where he was a passenger. i miss them all so much.