lets put betting aside.. and suggest that with ABSOLUTELY NO IMPACT TO the ROOT MASS ... i doubt it will die.. unless you let him mow it again .. and again.. and again ... it will most likely.. regenerate the top part .. and probably bloom late.. out of cycle ... repeated mowing all summer long could be detrimental ... most root structures are storage units for next year.. so how well it regenerates green .. to store food for next year ... will result in how well it does next year ... but this early in the season ... i doubt there will be a big impact ... if any now.. what we really need to discuss.. is this guys use of power tools ... or in the alternative.. his ability to earn enough money.. to hire out these kinds of jobs.. lol and in his defense.. you need to work on delineating the flower beds from the lawn ... thru edging ... so go easy on him ... he was just trying to help ... [and God help me.. not the plastic edging] ... dont worry about it .... back to betting.. the odds are heavily in its favor ... here.. let me put it this way.. early summer hail storms.. can do EXACTLY the same thing to plants.. and 99% recover.. w/o looking back ... ken

Hi Mark I enjoyed your website very much, thanks for sharing, got tickled on plants that are making it and some hope. ha I have pacific pearl and playful. Pacific pearl is just starting to leaf out, hope for a bloom this summer, bloomed last year, playful also. Playful in the ground is just starting to leaf out, very slow. Am excited too have second year plants, hope for blooms this summer. You and your wife look so happy, great pictures. Karen B.

Thanks Marie. I am in therapy and go each week. I think you're right in that he is scared he's going to lose me too. My therapist has suggested that when I do speak to him to see if he will get help since this is so overwhelming for him. Thanks for your reply.

I think it's wrong for him to make such a drastic financial decision without your vote too. i think it's wrong for him to make such a life changing decision without you feeling comfortable with it. I think him being a clean freak and not putting his foot down on her disgusting habits is absolutely disrespectful towards you.. especially since you are the one cleaning it up. If he is the absolute love of your life and you think you can't live without him, then i would suggest (and maybe this is crazy) getting a house with a connected inlaw suite situation and putting her in it!Maybe then you can have "family time" when it is right for you. i know i will get criticized on that one.. ok it does sound crazy lol..but this child doesn't seem too concerned with anyone else, does she? Kids aren't stupid. They know what they're doing.If you can afford it, get her counseling and keep her busy with summer programs. In the long run, kids like a little discipline and order, whether they realize it or not. You've got to start all over with this girl and decide to make her new upbringing a project you both agree to or.. well.. RUN!!! The only reason i'm not starting my input out with "RUN!!!" is because i live with my boyfriend and he is the sweetest, warmest, kindest boyfriend ever. However, when his girls disrespect me he puts his foot down because he knows i'm taking on alot. They are over every other weekend and the only reason i am taking on this situation (not wanting kids AT ALL)is because he deserves my love and attention. He is all the things most women crave in a boyfriend and i love him dearly. We have a great relationship, so i put up with life being not what i planned on. Having said that, if we were to break up, THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO WAY I WOULD DATE SOMEONE WHO HAD KIDS, unless they were adults and out of the house and normal and excessively kind to me. i stopped mid way through your story and said a prayer for you.. and i'm not even religious. If he can't make this situation easier for you, and you still want to see him, then do so, from the luxury of your own clean, dreamy place. If he can't compromise, let him clean up his own mess. We've got to stop supporting men who can't support the things we hold dear.