Hateful grandmother
Jody
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Grandmother Memories
Comments (12)Well I just don't know if it is my age that makes my memories so different than your "Grands that canning, cooked, etc." or it was their station in life, so I have been reticent to write (it is so different!). My mother's mother came from a lineage that delighted in family ties, and all the aunts, uncles, and cousins all talk amongst themselves saying, "Do you remember living on so-and-so street?", as though they spent all day long every day outside on that street playing together. Sounds great. She came from a huge family and there were always kids to play with, much unlike her husband. He also came from the upper crust of society, attending the local prep school here, and was a football player. An only child, his brother having succumb to disease early on. He loved chemistry class and ultimately became a chemist (I've written about him before when he died, you may remember). They only had two kids and so were able to dote on them pretty well and did so. They'll both tell you that had it good growing up. It would seem they lacked approval on the mom's part, but dad's quiet humor made it bearable. I loved to spend the night at their house and awaken to bacon and oatmeal cooking. Sis's oldest would loved to go into Gran's pantry and get out the bananas and peanut butter, feeling quite grown up as he did. We went to their house after church every Sunday and ate supper. They entertained all of our boyfriends and our friends we hung out with. The food was good and the laughter even better. Most of us remember Grandaddy the most as he had a vocabulary of grunts and would nod his head towards the door when it was time for Gran to quit talking and them to leave. My dad's mother never talked about her childhood. Couldn't tell you a thing about her. She had five children of her own and raised them by herself since her husband died of lung cancer by the time dad was in his midteens. Dad is the third oldest, so I imagine the little ones were really little. And I also think his dying keeps my dad from knowing just how to be a dad to older children, but I digress. She worked every job imaginable to keep them clothed, from school crossing guard, to swim instructor (she couldn't swim????!!!!), hospital dietician, etc. She worked so hard and slept so little, there is a story that ends with an unknown motorcycle in the garage. She would never drive a motorcycle. Never. Picture PeterPan collars trimmed in lace with cardigans. She loved to hold you in her arms and sweetly smile, saying, "just let me look at ya" and then would giggle her infectious giggle (my lil sis has it too) and hug you closer. She liked to have cookouts and picnics so that everyone could come to her house and hangout. Guess she had her big family later in life. But come we did. And had a great time. I guess my grand had time to spare and spent it keeping the family close to their hearts. That's the same as you guys. My son only has my mother and father. He knew Ed's mom pretty well, but wasn't really all that close and never knew Ed, Sr. It's sad for me to think Ed has lost both parents so young, but it's even worse to know my LF will not get to know them or enjoy them like we did....See MoreMiss my mother and Grandmother
Comments (1)Look in the phone book, papers, contact medical center YMCA etc for grief support groups. There are many resourses avaiable. Many of these are quite resonable and or free. If you have other relatives this will help. Start a journal to write memories...See MoreJeri, can you help me with Grandmother's Hat?
Comments (13)You would be surprised just how much shade Grandmother's Hat can tolerate in hot, intense climates. The fact is, she and MANY other roses will appreciate the shade with the increasingly greater intensity of the direct sun and UV. It isn't "hot" here, yet. Even when it gets "hot", it won't be anywhere near what the old climate is and even here, the more shade I provide, the better the plants grow and flowers last. I don't have GH here as I expected the high humidity due to our proximity to the ocean would give her fits, but her offspring are enjoying not being in many hours of direct sun. I second the comment about how easily she roots, and can even sucker if happy enough. If I knew whether she was free from RMV, I would suggest you try rooting her for root stock because of her ease of rooting; strong, straight, nearly prickle-free canes and her amazing vigor. Propagate a bunch of them and spread them around the garden. A hedge of her is a sight to behold!...See MoreIdeas For Use of Grandmother's Old Dining Room Hutch and Buffet
Comments (31)I live by William Morris' quote: "If you want a golden rule that will fit everything, this is it: Have nothing in your houses that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful." Your pieces are lovely, no question, but that doesn't mean they are right for you. Keeping things because you have a sense that you "should," regardless of whether that comes from guilt, love, memories, or any other reason is really, truly not a reason to keep them. My mother is on Hospice (my father died in 2012), and when she goes probably almost everything in the very large family home will be sold to antique dealers (if it has value these days) and in a massive garage sale. There are five children and I know four of us want very little. My other sister, who might take more, can't because she lives in low-income housing and has only a small studio. I wouldn't take any of it because I have what I love acquired over the years--and I want no more. To me, it's better that it be sold to someone outside the family IF that someone will love it and make it theirs than for it to stick around, unloved and possibly resented, just to keep it in the family because those kinds of feeling, which will grow with each year it takes up room, will eventually lead to just getting rid of it any way, any place....See Morefraker
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