Just an idea. For less than $100 you can get a BIG AeroGrow hydroponic garden system. The 'Classic 7 pod' garden. It is $99...shipped free, and you get everything you need for the first garden...all she has to do is put in water, plug it in, and add the seedkit, and watch it grow! I think that might be the answer for you. Maybe??? She can grow, flowers, herbs, veggies, salads, what ever she likes. I have 3 of the big gardens, the Classic 7 pod ones, and they are soilless, come with their own lights, basically you add water,plug it in, put in a seedkit, and watch it grow! While I am NOT a fan of the company at all! Frankly they are rude, and slow to help, and run out of replacement parts frequently, even when you have a warranty, if you need parts. BUT, it is pretty reliable. Easy to use, once you know how to use it. You can plant your own custom seeds, and barely spend any money at all, after she gets use to using the garen. Maybe this would be her speed? She can even root cuttings of favorite plants, or root things to put outside after they are rooted. They root fast inside under the lights in the garden. After the initial investment, all you buy are seedkits at $15 each, at like once every 4-6 months, new light bulbs every 6-9 months,$15 for 2. And once she is use to which ever unit she has, it can cost next to nothing, by planting her own seeds, in her own seedpods that she can buy on EBay, at a much lower price. A seedkit from AeroGrow is now $15...use to be $19...I now make my own seedkits, for less than $5 each. I buy in bulk on EBay, and then buy seeds for $1 a package,that can last for several gardens. It is really clean, no dirt, no bugs, no disease, and like I said, after the investment of buying the garden, either small,medium or large, all you do is add water,you get a seedkit with your first purchase, (gives you practice), and then plug it in, set the light timer, and it is pretty much self reliant. Its an idea. Trust me, I have no love for that company! But my 3 gardens have been very reliable, and in south Fla, I can grow petunias in the heat of summer,...or variety of salads in a matter of 4 weeks or less,or root cuttings of plants in as little as a week or two! Everything grows very fast,and if anything fails, they do replace them. THAT they do pretty fast. But in general, their customer service,even with a 1 year warranty that comes with every garden,...they DRAG their feet. But it would probably make your wife happy,and you can buy used ones,in great shape, for nearly half price on EBay or Amazon.com

The Other Side...I think we agree on this topic slightly more than you give credit...what I said was: "There is healthy bonding with your child that is less "child centered" and establishes more independent children" I think from the sounds of it you have formed a relatively healthy attachment to your kids while fostering independence at the same time. My post was really more directed toward unhealthy "spouse replacement" type attachments with children. Your example of letting a 4 month old cry until they vomited is interesting and debateable of course. It is easy to judge without all the info. From your description it sounds on the outset horrible, as it conjurs images of a child left to cry for hours in abusive neglect, however, without the full story I reserve my judgement. Is it possible the parent not adequately burp the baby and the baby vomited after less than 15 min of crying? The parent did go in and change them. It is possible that it was not as abusive as it sounds, but rather a very normal process every parent must go through to allow their infant an opportunity to learn to "self-soothe" in order to develop good sleep habits that last a lifetime? It sounds as if you have the one child? Regarding the 16 year old world traveler. I can't say in this day and age I would send my child (16 is still a child) to travel alone in europe. I suspect it was with a school group (that is not alone)? Otherwise...I cannot give you the "way to go" you are looking for. I simply cannot agree that it is a "good" thing that your 16 year old "did" europe all alone. I am glad you and your ex Husband agreed...I presume a lack of closeness was not what broke up your marriage then? Regarding the pill swallowing...if you can swallow food...you can swallow a pill. Unless you take your sustainance via a straw...you can swallow something that big. Unless someone can show me in the DSM a diagnosable illness that precludes you from swallowing something smaller than stuff you put down your pie whole 3 times a day...I am not buying it! Your mother did you a disservice not teaching you that life skill earlier. I plan to ensure that every one of my children can swallow a pill. Sorry that hit a nerve...It is ridiculous!!!! Its a flippin pill! ok you can yell at me now. Ha ha

disengaging : I did like your presentation. I wish I can present my case just like that. There are times words won't come under lots stress. People such as yourself open up a door, I see it as wow, that is polite way to put it in... Great that tells me what I try to say it... In that aspect I do appreciate your letter. I really I have friends such as yourself, where I can discuss something of this nature, get a unbiased opinion. I was little bit frustrated with other posters, It is possible I was under stress, I am the one going through the good and bad, these people are not going through I am going through, at the same time trying to trap me, and make me look bad than worse. I understood my fall and my raise. I am trying to get a second opinion, because I do not want to run into the same path which was devastating path which caused me lose the person who loved me so much when we were together, now she is on the other side, it is gone. I am trying to recoup the loss and trying to get my head straight. When a baby trying to walk it falls few times, we try to help them out, rather finding faults that the baby should have held to the chair, if the baby did not, who to blame. That kind of talk is not help at least me. There were times, I try to type fast, lots of typos, irregular sentence formation. I am not a writer to impress everybody here at the same I have to present my case here so that some one is humble who could point out misbehavior and suggest possible solution. That is all I need from people such as you and others. I never thought I would come to a message board to discuss my issues. When things were rocking and rolling, never thought about there is a message board of this sort. Time and place, my action brought me here. I am still proud myself for seeking help, instead become alcoholic or drug addict or living a low life for ever and never get a break. We open up the opportunity, we shut the door. It is always we. What meant is that individual. Thanks for reading, I am not here to pi.ss people off, I learnt a lot from this message board. I would say I added more knowledge coming to this board. I will continue search for help if and when I needed it.

If you get a garage door as above ^^ then find a front door that matches. I like the white option @Celery gave you, but I would suggest a better white than your current one . Can you post a close up of the stones? Or just go dark like the option above.