My best friend moved away

11 years ago

My best friend of almost 9 years moved away today. Her and her family are moving from New York State to Wisconsin to be closer to her daughter. I sure will miss her.

Kittywhiskers

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Georgysmom

11 years ago

((((((kittywhiskers)))))) It's always sad to say goodbye. I know you will keep in touch, but it's not the same. Many retirees move to be closer to family and family is so busy, they don't get to see them that much anyway. Hope it works for your friend.

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grandmamary_ga
11 years ago
I'm sorry that your friend has moved away. But on the bright side you have a new place to visit. It is always sad when a friend moves to another area. But there are ways to stay in touch. Internet, telephone and skype. Be happy for her and you too. Our grand children have mostly all moved away and we only have one who lives her now. His dad still lives in the area but it is a drive for us to see him. So we enjoy our great nieces and nephews who live nearby.
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User
11 years ago
Yes, you will definitely miss her. Most of my closest friends have passed away and it's really hard sometimes. Be happy for her and be sure to stay in touch.
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eld6161
11 years ago
I hear you. It is reasonable to feel blue. After a certain age, I have found that I am not replacing friends. I am lucky to not have lost a friend through death, but one just moved and one long time friend I just don't get to see as often as I used to.

Invite her to come back and visit you in a few months. This way you will both have something to look forward to.

I have a sister that I am close to. She lives twelve hours drive away, so we don't see each other very often. But we text, talk, send emails etc. It does keep you connected. But, we do try to see each other at least once a year.
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socks
11 years ago
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Did she encourage you to come see her? If so definitely do that. Otherwise stay in touch by phone, Skype or Facebook. My friend over 40 years lives only two hours away, yet we only see each other two or three times a year. But we talk on the phone every week and email often. I'm sorry she's moving and know you'll miss her
jemdandy
11 years ago
If you do decide to visit Wisconsin, plan to come after the 15 th of May unless you like chilly, uncertain weather. We do not get much of a spring. its more like late winter that suddently slides into early summer during the last 2 weeks of April. Our summers and fall are nice. In northern Wisconsin, June can be a rainy month.

From about Dec. 20 through Feb. 20, we do ice boating, Ice fishing, skating, sail skating, cross country skiing, and in some years, snowmobiling.
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sleeperblues
11 years ago
You should come and visit. We live in a beautiful state with friendly people. Sorry she left, good friends are hard to come by.
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User
11 years ago
I'm find I am not replacing close friends either. I think, for me, part of it is, so many years invested into a friendship, and not that many years left ( I'm 71) to start over? I don't know. Well, that sounds depressing and it's not a good attitude to have. Maybe I don't want to be hurt again by losing another friend?

Anyway, do stay in touch with friends while they're still here. :)
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