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Comments (5)I am still clearing out unwanted & not much used items. I think I will be ready though as once I get out these things the rest won't be difficult to pack. My clothes will be the next hardest thing to do. I have several sizes.. My daughter won't be sending anymore candles but I will store what I have. They will go under my bed. I use them almost everyday. I did read on the net about the soot they put off so won't burn more than 1 at a time now. I do love my candles. I already know I am allowed to burn them there. I have the tarts U use an electric burner that I can use & no soot. When I visit VA I will have to stop her from buying me more. I may need some of the tarts though. I think U have to be 60 to get in these apt (not sure). I looked up Studio Apartment. It said it is usually 350 - 425 square ft & mine is 515 square ft with separate rooms..1 bedroom. I sold almost $1000 so I am buying me a new chair for my living room.. mine is a overstuffed recliner.. it has to go. I already have a love seat for a sofa. It is kinda overstuffed but hope I can make out with it. I really don't want to put the money out for a new one when this one is in very good shape. I also will buy a new end table with a door if I can find one. That will be good storage space. I have an extra chest of drawers that I'm sure I'll use for storage. It will be a good place for computer stuff. I have a very long kitchen table now & it won't go. I was my husbands late wifes & her daughter wants it.. fine with me as it is way to big. I will start off with a card table with a pretty cloth on it. I will wait till I find one like I really want before I buy. I am getting rid of my old dishes which was also his late wifes.. I want some of my own & only a set for 4. I'm trying to leave a lot of the past behind. We had a good marriage but was too short.. only 4 years. My 1st marriage was not to good & it lasted too long.. 38 years. I like to make ear rings but only allowed myself 1 tall container with the best beads. The rest has to go. If I use most of these I can always get more. I really think it is a good move for me to get off this farm & go where I won't have to bum rides everywhere.. Sure I will need rides some but not everywhere I want to go. At least they have taxies there & give seniors a big break. Thanks for the answers & tips.. I can use all the info I can get :o) Dar...See Morehelp-daughter's 1st apt-TINY! and she's scared!
Comments (8)would she be less scared if she had a roommate? Of course, she got her place, but if it ends up too hard for her, maybe that would be a move to make once her lease is up? Of course she needs to not own very much, since she has so little space. That'll make it easier to be broke, because she wouldn't have room to store anything she might buy, anyway. She should get most of her pots&pans, dishes, incidental furniture, etc., from family & friends. If you aren't able to provide her with some stuff, be sure to mention her new living situation to friends, folks at church, etc. People love to be able to help out by giving away stuff they don't want. Even small stuff, like an extra mop, a bunch of extra dishtowels that don't match my kitchen but are perfectly new, stuff like that. of course, w/ an efficiency, she needs to carefully select the stuff she DOES get, so encourage her to decline stuff that won't work. Big, tall bookcases provide storage and keep the walls from looking blank. If she can't make holes in the wall, she could use the new Command adhesive hooks and poster squares from 3M; Staples carries them, as do Wal-Mart type places. Cloth is a good way to add color if the walls are white. Maybe curtains over the bookcases, to hide the clutter and provide a big expanse of color. Bedsheets are a great way to get huge pieces of brightly colored cloth, and sometimes you can find them pretty cheaply if they're being discontinued, etc. And even if she doesn't sew, she could use iron-on fusible webbing tape to make hems, or even to make casings for curtain rods. She needs a filing cabinet of some sort--that's the most useful thing, actually. A place to keep her lease, her receipts for her rent, her insurance cards, etc. She is now her own "business unit," and she needs a way to manage her records. That was the part that surprised me the most, and found me the least prepared. I knew I needed pots&pans, sheets, towels, etc. But it never occurred to me that I would now have official records, and would need a place to keep them. And being organized on the business side will lessen that "I'm out of control; the world is out of control" feeling that makes ANY move scary for anyone. (maybe it's worse for her?) And help her set up routines for bill paying, and paperwork filing? And for regular cleaning, as well. Even something as simple as helping her put together a list of phone numbers to post beside the phone--the building's manager, the emergency plumber, the fire department, a friendly neighbor, the pizza place, any other person or business that would be the go-to person for whatever area makes her nervous--might make her feel that she can cope. And I wish there were a book about how to care for an apartment. I know my mother once remarked that even though my sis is a messy slob, she and her DH always keep their apartments in good enough underlying shape that she always gets her deposit back. There may be papers all over the floor, and shampoo bottles in every corner of the bathroom, but the carpet is vacuumed regularly, there are no stains, and there's NO mildew or soap scum in the bathroom. The link between "cleaning regularly" and "keeping the physical components of the home from sustaining physical damage" is a strong one, but I didn't realize it until I actually owned the place I lived in, and lived there for a while. i didn't notice it, as a kid. So that's a caution for her--she needs to clean regularly, esp. in the bathroom and kitchen, and to clean up spills PROMPTLY--in order to maximize her change of getting her deposit back....See Morecollege/dorm cooking advice!?!
Comments (11)If she has a suite with a kitchen, then by all means I'd get her kitchen stuff but as many have pointed out, most dorms don't allow anything because of the risk of fire. I graduated a few years ago and our dorm had a gorgeous kitchen but we weren't allowed to use it for ourselves, only for functions. We had a microwave and mini fridge in our suite and those were the only things allowed. If she doesn't have a kitchen and she has roommates, I'd also check with them first because when you're sharing a small space with no kitchen, someone frying up chicken can get disgusting really fast for the other people. I would not have been happy if one of my roommates regularly made herself a cooked dinner in our room. Not to be a downer but I don't know anyone who lived on campus and cooked, even in the dorms with kitchens. A huge part of the social aspect was the dining halls or going out to eat with friends, even if the food wasn't amazing. Most people ate big meals in the dining hall and kept fruit and cereal and other snacky type things in their room. If she has an apartment, that's one thing but I wouldn't go crazy for dorm stuff until you have more specifics and see how she adjusts. Storage space is also at a premium so she might not have room for a bunch of gadgets she won't ever use....See MoreShopping for a Daughter's College Dorm . . . OMG!!
Comments (86)Thank you all so much for taking the time to give me/us these suggestions! Emily & I have been sitting here this morning, rereading every one of your posts and adding things to our ongoing lists to do, to take and to buy. They have helped so much. You've helped us both by suggesting things we hadn't thought of and you've also saved me money, because I'm not having to ship off things DD will need but we'd forgotten. And yes, I do realize that there will be local stores that she can shop at for forgotten items, but as I mentioned here before, we've been there and done this with DS nine years ago. Let me mention it again for any other new freshman parents: the local stores in the area will be a nightmare to shop at that move-in day and for at least the next week afterwards! Most needed items will be quickly sold out and the check-out lines will be staggeringly long with stressed out, frazzled parents and students. Been there, will NOT be doing that one again this time! Lisa: thank you for that suggestion! I'd hadn't yet thought of her immunization records, but have just added this to our list. Suero: thanks for that link. I've made a list of things we need to check with housing about. Lazy: yes, the school does provide bed, mattress, desk, chair, etc. I'm with you on the stores and madhouse there will be at them that first day/week ;^D Gotta run errands with DD once again. Will be back later to check on this thread once more. Lynn...See Morekudzu9
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