Fired vs Quitting with new job in place? Any difference?
John Tunners
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Comments (12)***This is totally IMHO-YMMV**************** Do not have him quit without having another job. If he thinks a firing is in the near future, he *really* needs to ramp his job hunt into overdrive. There is nothing more terrifying for a sole bread winner than having a wife/hubby and young children with no job and no insurance. Chances are, he'll jump into the first job he's offered, rather than a job he loves. So, a year from now, you'll be in the exact same situation. How serious is he with his job hunt outside his company? How many resumes has he sent out? How up to date and well done is his resume? Chances are, with only one year in editorial, he'll end up with a tech job again. DH was in a similiar position this summer. He'd been with his employer for nearly 10 yrs in a few different positions inclduing this one which he'd had for about a yr. He wasn't miserable, but he was tired of the industry and could tell he'd hit the ceiling with this employer. He'd been casually job hunting for months. Then, out of nowhere, his company announced they were looking to trim 1/4 of the entire workforce. They offered voluntary seperation packages with a good severance package to anyone who volunteered. DH took that as an opportunity to kick his career hunt into overdrive. He sent over about 50 resumes, got several interviews, and eventually got 2 good offers. He was fortunate that one of the offers was exactly the type of position he'd wanted. He gave his official notice and three weeks later started the new job. He was one of two out of his department to announce plans to leave. Everyone else chose to take their chances and let the deadline pass them by. They were caught off guard a few days later when the company began massive layoffs. They were completely unprepared to enter the job search. So, now it's the slow season in hiring and the severance package will run out 10 days before Xmas. They're scrambling to update resumes, hone interviewing skills (most of them haven't interviewed outside the company for a decade), network, even simply evaluate the job market. I know the idea of realizing a dream is a tempting one, but reality is that this may not be the right time. DH ran a small consulting business on the side for a little while and still does contracting on the side, so we'd talked about doing it fulltime. I'd have to work for insurance, assuming I could get a job with benefits, and occasionally put the kids in daycare. There would be start up costs, as well, legal questions to be answered. Also, in order to qualify for small business loans, he'd need a really good business plan done. It was going to take months to set this up and get started. Not to mention getting clients into the pipeline to earn a steady income. See where I'm going with this? Can you survive without a real income for at least a year? I'm not trying to discourage you or your DH. Just take a calm rational look at your situation. Get some health insurance quotes and look at your monthly budget. First and foremost, update DH's resume and get really well aquainted with job search sites! Good luck and remeber my mantra "What will be, is as it should be"....See MoreQuit my job today!
Comments (22)Hi Joyfulguy ( and all of you). I've been too busy to check in. The house closes Nov. 19 and Mayflower (Wheaton VanLine) clearing out the house next Monday. I have so much stuff and am "up to here" with boxes, packing etc. I've accepted the offer I'd spoken of earlier and will be living at a friend's dad's home near a smalltown in Missouri. He's 92 and they don't think he should live alone anymore. Longevity runs in the family and they tend to be healthy the whole time. I will be living about 5 miles (as the crow flies) from the farm home where I lived 18 yrs. and where both my dau.'s were born and raised. I am looking forward to it and have emotionally left the house in austin which I have loved the past 12 yrs. The home here is within 1 mile of everything from hospital, docters, banks. grocery, library, target, and my alltime favorite thrift stores so I will have alot of change. There I'll be 5 miles from the main things but the nearest wallmart, large grocery stores, and shopping will be in St. Joseph, Mo. or Maryville, Mo. which are 15 and 30 mile away. One of my two dau.'s is in St. Joe, a sister in Maryville, and two brothers are just a few miles from the place I will be. I am ready for this as I worked so many yrs. in pain that just wore me out. It is sooooo good not to do that anymore. My household will be stored on the farm and I'm bringing my Yorkie and 12 yr. old cat with me. A new life for them also. The friend says when Dad gets where he needs more help they will find a retirement home for him and I can stay in the house or at that point I will shop for a house for myself. It seems like a good way to transition from one state to another. The gentleman needs no help now..cook a little, clean, watch over him on a daily basis in case he has any problems. I'm thinking of myself as a New York Stockbroker who bought a goat farm in Vermont and changing her life. Just a thought! You'll hear from me again but it will be awhile....See MoreJob vs social connections
Comments (6)Hi Carrie! I never imagined I would live on the east coast, and certainly not in a metro area. The new job is out in the country, although near some med. sized towns and would require travel to urban areas. I've lived rural and urban. I lived in a Philly suburb for over three years. I once lived in a gorgeous touristy place out in the country, but worked with horrible people, absolutely the worst group of hypocrites I have ever run into. I flew into Philly during that time to attend a friend's wedding. The airport is in such a grim part of town. But my friends here are the warmest bunch I have ever encountered anywhere. I wondered how the beautiful spot could have such ugly people, and how chaotic, gritty Philly could hold such a great community. But I have a single friend who lives out in the Philly suburbs and doesn't like it at all. He's great at making friends too. There's a lot of variation in "The City of Brotherly Love." Everyone tells me "your friends will always be your friends," which is true, but there is no comparison to the relationships you have with people you see every day or every couple months and folks you see every couple years. When you move as much as I have, everyone starts to fall into the "every couple years" category and you never get much of a feeling of belonging anywhere. But still, ya gotta eat first! :-)...See MoreQuitting my job
Comments (48)As of about 9 AM I am unemployed. It didn't go any way that I had imagined it would so even after all these hours I am still feeling awful. To make a long story short, she begged, pleaded and cried for me not to do that to her, for us to put everything behind us and how bad she needed me. It became so uncomfortable that I told her she was making it hard for me to finish out the day. Eventually her voice began to rise a little so I decided it was time to leave. By the time I was walking out the door she was very angry. Although at that point she didn't say a word, her fingers were banging the register buttons while she was ringing out a customer. Yes, I am relieved to not be going back but I do feel badly for the desperation she was displaying. Call me a softy, but it tugged at my heartstrings. Just wish she had shown how desperate she was to keep me from day one. Thanks to everyone....See Moremelle_sacto is hot and dry in CA Zone 9/
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