Child support for children out of wedlock?
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Comments (4)I see your point and have thought about it too. I never married the guy who's name is on the birth certificate (and didn't get married until my current husband last year) so nobody has ever assumed the role of father to my son. When my son was 2, I tried to take his bio dad to court so he could have visitation and my son wanted to see him. I knew he wouldn't be held financially responsible (because the law wouldn't allow it) and I hoped he would at least want to do a DNA test and see his son. He didn't and I had to let it go until the law changed in 2005. Fast forward to 2004-05 and my son was diagnosed with a tumor. I contacted his bio dad and asked for his medical history and he first said he wanted a DNA test before he would talk to me. Then backed out, got a lawyer and I had to file a paternity case to try get the info. I wasn't in it for the money at that point (because I didn't know if I could seek money) and I wanted him to get to know his son and for our son to have his medical history (and for him to show some concern for his son regarding the tumor) I have more concern over a stranger's child if they had a tumor or other medical problem than he had over his own son (and he knew it was his son). And as for showing up when my son was ten to take custody, i wasn't worried about that. When my son was 8, we saw his father and he shunned him. Just turned and walked away. He will probably never get a phone call from his dad and we've accepted that, but my son finished HS early and started college when he was 17. He's in his second year (Jr. College) and wants to transfer to a 4 yr. Anything I get for past support is going to pay for his college and a trust for when he graduates. I've never counted on the money and don't intend to keep any even though I have always worked several jobs to support my kids (so I think I deserve it) and he was given opportunities over the years to find out the truth. He's always known the truth but didn't want to take responsibility. Even when they ordered the DNA test, he tried to get the court to deny my motion because he knew the truth and he was worried it would make him look bad (to his church) that he had an illegitimate child that he refused to acknowledge. I admit I made the first mistake, but within a few months of my son's birth, I tried to correct it and legally I couldn't and he's used the "legality" to his advantage all these years....See MorePaying Child Support for a child thats living with you
Comments (14)Firemans wife, I wish you all the best. I am really debating on whether or not to make a web page with all this crap that's gone on for 7yrs now. See, I wasn't in the picture in 1995 when the kids were removed and my spouse was very lax about the CS thing. When I came in the picture in 1999 and they started taking out money AGAIN from his check (they'd stop and start CS over and over) we went to the office and he signed an affidavit so I could have access to his case. It wasn't until then that things started getting done. I like to think that if I had been around in 1995 this wouldn't have gone on for so long...but the fact remains that they (attorney general) had access to any and all court documents that were issued out of Montgomery county. They've had this all along but didn't bother to look into it. His file is literally 6inches thick. The attorney that represented the state of texas didn't even bother to crack the folder. Each time we went to court (4 times since Jan) there was a different attorney. I hope everything goes well for you but be prepared for anything to happen. We thought it was all over and done with...then the judge gave his ruling. I was suprised to say the least and so angry that when I got home I called all the newspapers and television stations. I've received 4 phone calls back from different different news stations that want to do investigative work. Oh...did I mention that I taped conversations when we went into the AG's office? Yup, got them talking in circles...saying one thing and doing another. We're still debating on whether or not to go with the television stations. I'm to the point where I'm so exhausted of living in the middle of all that mess and I really shouldn't even be posting about it because it just gets me all worked up again. The more I think about it, the more I think I'll scan our court documents and transcribe the recordings, make a web page and be done with it...that way it'll be out of my system for good and I can tell the entire world at one time without having to go back into that 'mode' I was in for so long when we were dealing with these incompetent morons....See Morechild support through college
Comments (52)Everything costs too much. Gas is out of this world. Food prices are going up. College trust funds? You must be kidding, right? With the families insurance, school expenses, clothing costs, baby sitter fee, rent, car payments, car insurance, renters insurance, phone bill, grocery bill, utilities....etc. etc. There is little left! We get no help from mom at all for nothing. I have a child of my own on the way and two others that are not mine that I am financialy responsible for because without me they would have to go without alot of things. I'm not going to let them go without. That isn't an option. I can tell you trust funds arn't gonna happen. We are killing ourselves making it week to week. The economy is hard right now. It isn;t that I wouldn't LOVE to pay their way through a kick ass Ivy League school because I would. I always say "If we won the lottery....." but the chances of that are slim to none. The real SCARY thing is I make decent money. How to people making only minimum wage make it?...See MoreChild Support Calculations
Comments (71)kk, I wasn't quoting TOS. I was responding to JNM and quoting JNM. I wasn't even talking about TOS whatsoever in my post, I was talking about my mom... and her skewed memory. I'm sure we all remember things the way we do, even if others remember them differently. It's called 'perception'. pseudo, I'm sure that's what it is... I know she would hate to see me taken advantage of... financially that is. As I was talking to my husband about this thread, he laughed... makes him feel like a gigolo... of course, he reminded me that one of the first things he did when he moved in was to pay off a credit card in my mom's name that I had used before I met him. It was a higher interest rate so he transfered it to his low rate card... nearly 5k. I'd forgotten about that... no, he didn't make me sign a contract or repayment agreement & we weren't even married yet. I could have stiffed him I guess. He also refinanced my car a month or two later with a low rate... he has a very high credit score, mine at the time was under 500 because of medical collections when I was ill & being a struggling single mom, couldn't pay. He helped me pay them off. Now, I have a pretty good credit score, most of the bad stuff has been paid and fallen off. I guess it might piss me off if he left me after his debt was paid and I was left in debt. But, since his credit gets the lower rates, even some of the things we've bought together are financed in his name alone. Of course, my name is on the title with him... on everything. (I guess my husband has some of that blind faith too... since he's titled me on the things he is paying off that he bought before he met me) Of course, I tell him that it's HIS truck & trailer when it comes time to wash them...lol) I know TOS means well and I appreciate her concern. It is thoughtful the way she and KKNY care enough to share their wisdom with me. I'm touched, really. It's also very sweet that FD cares so much about my son's education. I told him how she stood up for him and he said to tell her thank you. Then he asked me for money to fix his car & I told him to get a job....See MoreTexas_Gem
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