Am I crazy or maybe just weird?
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Can anyone relate, or am I just crazy?
Comments (16)Bumping up another oldie. (-post, I mean!) :-) Taunia, the OP, contacted me by phone last p.m. and her monitor is fried, so she may not be back for a while. But I wanted to respond to her post here anyway. It's a shame we might appear "crazy" to others when we have our outbursts or mood swings, and it does seem like our sanity is affected, but it's not insanity! What I mean is, I think these are common symptoms. However, I was researching hypothyroidism (and I'm beginning to wonder if there's some connection between that and menopause), and the foggy thinking is listed as a symptom. Maybe it's a symptom of both. I sure do suffer from it! Seems these days I often have to grope for the right word and other times I use a totally wrong word for what I'm trying to say. Embarrassing! I read that depression is not supposed to be a symptom of menopause, although I don't know if I believe that's true; it IS supposed to be a symptom of hypothyroidism. I hope to get tested for that soon. And I'm going to urge Taunia to do the same. The thing about the black cohosh that concerns me is: how do we know how much is the right amount to take for our own particular needs? Also, it's difficult to tell what kind of standards a company uses when selling these herbal remedies... I believe in natural as much as anybody, but I have to be leery about some of these companies. They're trying to make a buck, too, just like pharmaceuticals. As for soy, I'm hearing more and more that soy powders etc. can't really claim to help; that the only benefit is from eating the actual beans (and a fairly large serving, I believe). I find the toasted ones in the produce dept. of my Walmart. They're good fiber if nothing else! :-) Best wishes Taunia, when you read this, and all our fellow sufferers!! :-)...See MoreAm I just going crazy?
Comments (24)The difficult part is that there IS a very valid reason why both of them would (and should) want to be friends with each other: their daughter. In order to be able to deal with things having to do with her and both of them, they should ideally get along. It's not IMPOSSIBLE if they can't get along, but it sure does make it a whole lot easier on everyone. They may just be trying to negotiate the iffy bounds between being friendly enough to cooperate and avoid cold tension & fighting but distant enough so that it isn't too flirty and inappropriate. The fact is, as long as they're both actively engaged in SD's life, they will have SOME sort of connection to each other, because circumstances will require coordination. And, interestingly, the better they get along, then with time they will actually have LESS to do with each other than if they didn't get along. It's when one or the other parent has to go nit-picking and raising a stink about every little thing that the involvement between former spouses gets excessive. Makes sense if you think about it that way, and should be a relief to hear. So there ARE good reasons ---that benefit everyone in the long-run--- for them to be at least "friend-ly", if not "friends". Sounds like they both may just need to refine the boundaries a bit better, but I think it's good that they get along. If you're not comfortable with the idea of he and ex getting along amicably (that's AMICABLY, not AMOROUSLY, which of course would not be good!) or if you feel like you can't trust him at his word (either because of his actions or because of your feelings), I would seriously consider whether or not you will marry him. Because, one way or the other --whether they get along or not-- she will somehow, sometimes, be a factor. That said, he SHOULDN'T be lying to you about anything. That's not cool. If you can't believe what he says, her presence will haunt you no matter what....See MoreReally? Am i just going crazy or would this bother you?
Comments (17)Keepit, In your title you asked "Am I just going crazy..." and it is kind of interesting that you use the word "crazy" to describe what is happening and how you feel. You also said things were "jumbled up". I don't want to insert more drama into your situation, but have you considered that perhaps your fiance, for whatever reason there might be, could be "gaslighting" you. Here's a definition of gaslighting: Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse. It involves an increasing frequency of systematically withholding factual information from, and/or providing false information to the subject, having the gradual effect of making the victim anxious, confused, and less able to trust his or her own memory and perception. A variation of gaslighting, used as a form of harassment, is to subtly alter aspects of a victim's environment, thereby upsetting his or her peace of mind, sense of security, etc. I hope I am wrong. People who gaslight do so because they either are narcissistic, have an agenda they do not want you to figure out, or they want to gain total control over the other person, or all of the above. It has happened to me before....See MoreCountertop install nightmare. Am I crazy? Tell me I'm not crazy.
Comments (46)UPDATE: Thanks to you guys here (and mostly thanks to Joseph Corlett's link regarding Silestone slab sizes), they agreed to do away with one of the seams. They kept insisting that they would not do a stretch of stone more than 110", and when I insisted that my color of Silestone comes in jumbo slabs of 128", they "did some research" and conceded that I was correct, and there is no need for two seams in my 150" stretch of counter. I'm updating here for anyone who may have the same questions and issues that I did. I spent countless hours researching and digging and arguing, so hopefully I can save someone else the hassle. You can check the Silestone website for the slab sizes in your color. There is no need for a seam to "prevent cracks"; Silestone is (allegedly) 4x bendier than granite, and if you wanted to put the whole damn slab down you could. Keep in mind though - if your Silestone DOES crack or chip at some point (and it will...it's notorious for chipping despite the durability claims) - you're on the hook for it. Their "warranty" does not cover cracks or chips. Hundreds of consumers have told their stories about bumping a water glass against the edge and it chips, with no damage to the glass, and Cosentino denies the claims, citing abuse of the counter or something. Same with random cracks, etc. Just be aware - these are issues that you will have to call Joseph Corlett to come fix, out of your own pocket. I love the look of mine so I'm willing to deal with those issues, but buyer beware....See Moredanihoney524
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