Our new build will be done in about 6 or 8 weeks and I am already beginning to feel that way. We have lived in our current house for 42 years, so I am not used to moving at all. I try to go to the new build several times a week and walk through it and imagine how it will look with our furniture. I am trying to get myself used to the new place but it will take some time I know. I don't think it is unusual to feel the way you do.

Xanax scrip called for perhaps?
Casey

Zorrowslw, a home is not what the shell is but who is inside it with you.

I feel this a bit too, and I feel that I have to pretend to be excited, because people expect it. I keep reminding myself that I don't get excited about going on vacations also until I'm actually there, so why should this be any different for me, moving to a new house. I'm betting that once we are completely moved in I will find those moments of giddiness.

3 years is a long time - a very long labor of love! I had some post-build let down myself. You work so hard at it and like you we did a lot ourselves and I think it did somewhat drain me physically, mentally and emotionally. Then you move all of your belongings into this new place you have seen come to life before you but it still feels kind of foreign or without rhythm as things continue to find their rightful spots.

I think for me anyhow it was still feeling 'empty' until we started 'doing life' there and building memories with our family. Celebrate the firsts. First night, first birthday in the new house, first holiday and so on. You will settle in and your new home will gain some history. Our actual move was so hectic that we never slowed down to take in the first night. We are coming on a year here pretty quickly and I think we might do a year in review recap with our boys, a little bit of remember when to rediscover how far we've come. ;)

edit-can't wait to see some pics so I'm glad to see you are planning on posting some.

We've been at it three years now, too. For us, it's kind of anticlimactic, as I've been 'here' the whole time. There will be no big reveal, no sudden move from one house to another. We will be moving- from the barn! I've certainly had a number of sleepless nights, worrying about the overall design, and various aspects of building. Maybe I'll get excited (again) once we actually start moving furniture in and decorating. One positive aspect for us is that as the house evolved, we were able to make little design changes as they became apparent in 3D.

A house represents a huge investment, a lot of work, and millions of decisions. I would think that everyone feels some apprehension at this point, and the more responsibilities the owner took on, the more concern that everything will be 'right'.

I'm sure it will be fine for all of us. Although there are some people who are very hard to please, most folks move in, rearrange the furniture a few times, and begin living their new life in their new home and location. I've been quite happy in every house I've lived in, warts and all, so I'm sure a house designed for my wants and needs will be great. Focus on all of the good stuff, and let the small disappointments go.

I know. Same here. About 3 weeks to completion. For me it's the fact that the project has taken up so much of my physical and mental energy I am wondering "what's the payoff?" After all, it is just a house. Late, over budget. But just a house.

I don't like the feeling.

First of all....hello!! I'm excited to see pics! Hi Happyvalleyhome as well!! Need pics of your home too!

Yes yes yes. Your post came at a perfect time too. We are about two months out from finishing. It will be late and way over budget. Like 25% over budget. So right now I swing back and forth between excitement and feelings of regret. Financially, we'll be fine, but it will be tight for a year or two, and that's not how I hoped to move in to the house, ya know?

But, Im trying my damnedest to focus on the good and feel lucky/blessed to have the opportunity to build our dream house. And it will be gorgeous.

So, I think we all get what you're feeling. There is so much stress related to moving as well. Hugs...be gentle to yourself, and allow yourself to feel the not so happy feelings about the move for a bit, then do something for yourself. Wine, pedicure, massage. :).

I think what your feeling is natural.

Every time I've switched jobs, or travelled to a new place for the first time, I've felt unsettled, frustrated, unhappy etc for a few days, so I can't see a new home (change!) being any difference.

There are always those things that happen that make us upset (in traveling, its usually getting lost!), and eventually we 'let it go' and can smile again. In building a house, I suspect its all those mess-ups that inevitably happen and increase cost.

There's also the period of exhaustion and 'dear god FINALLY, Im done with it all' that tends to strike all of us after months of planning and doing. That usually is a low point that takes a bit of recover from. Brides get the post-wedding blues, I suspect home builders do as well!

So hang in there. I like what other posters have suggested - make an effort to disengage carefully from your 'build life' of the last three years, and slowly start making memories for yourself. If you feel grumpy today, its ok, cause Gardenwebbers and your own family will still be around when you are ready to smile. :)

Yes, we are in the same boat too and about 8-10 weeks away from moving into the new place and worry some. I also plan on making memories in the new home, have already warned friends and family of the upcoming gatherings at our place. Take lots of pics and make the kids comfortable too.

If I as an adult am so unsure, what about the poor little kids who have a totally new school, routine etc. Looking forward to is the best thing of this journey to new home, new routine but with the same comfortable family..

Bring it On!!

Hi Carson- yes, we oldtimers can't wait to get a peek at your beautiful house. I want to add, knowing what the weather has been like around here as of late, if that doesn't contribute to the sagging energy you've experienced. It is so soggy out here just a little east of you that I ruin every pair of shoes I wear out into the "yard". I vaguely remember that a bright yellow ball is supposed to be in the sky for most of the day in May... but, today we were still under a flash flood warning.

Those of us who have been in for awhile know that part of the letdown is fighting through the stuff that got done wrong or that's not perfect- but not worth the hassle to get corrected. And there's going to be a lot of those things. A nick in an otherwise perfect floor. A misplaced coaxial plug. Lighting mistakes like the one we made in a front bedroom. The realization that after all the hard work of supervising your crews and researching your choices, the house still is a work in progress even after you move in- is a little deflating. BUT, we have had moments of pure, unadulterated bliss too. And I fully expect your house to be looking like Biltmore by Christmas:)

As we've addressed and continue to address the finishing touches on our house, I remind myself of the question I ask myself each time I feel overwhelmed- How do you eat an elephant?

One bite at a time:)

When we have our first pool party, our builder, a few of his top subs, and our bartender friends (alcohol consumption went up a bit) will be on the guest list. It was so stressful, but so worth it!