Bittersweet article about Moms and heirlooms
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Canning Project: Heirloom Tomato Salsa
Comments (48)Gang, You can't see it from here -- but I have a smile on my face as wide as the Grand Canyon. To put it short and sweet -- I can finally report, without a doubt and with scientific proof to back it up, that the Roasted Garlic and Heirloom Tomato Salsa recipe is TRIED AND TRUE and SAFE TO CONSUME. Yes, the recipe listed in this thread is now a proven and true salsa canning recipe. I know that not many of them exist. Add the recipe in this thread to the list of those that received the "scientific stamp of approval." The lab results from Anresco Laboratories in San Francisco finally came in today. The pH count came in at "less than 3.81." But -- more importantly -- the Standard Plate Count test came in at "less than 100." Not being a food scientist or microbiologist by ANY stretch of the imagination -- I had a hard time understanding these lab reports. But this is the word from a retired scientist who put in thirty plus years of work in the area of food science safety. And to me -- the following erases any and all doubts in my mind about the safety and validity of this canning recipe. His analysis is as follows: "The less than 3.81 pH count defines your product as an "acid food" and rules out concerns with botulism. Generally, you would like to see that number at 4.5 or below. The "standard plate count" is a generic test for the level of live bacteria in the product. The " Because the sample had to be diluted for testing, the limit of detection was 100 bacteria (colony-forming units) per gram of product. If no bacterial colonies were seen on their agar medium, the result is "I don't know Anresco, but I assume they know what they are doing. The lab results are as good as you could hope for. And there you have it. After months of worry and waiting -- well -- I'm convinced. I will share these lab reports with anyone who would like them. Bill...See MoreMy Mom is elderly and difficult... Help?
Comments (36)There's a lot of ways people age. People can become more difficult in old age because as we age, we gradually loose control of our lives and also gradually loose our sense of being important. A lot of that is societal, but some of it is just how individual people define power and control. I know plenty of seniors who still contribute to society even after they retire, by serving on boards and volunteering for community service. They relate to others as friends, not just as bosses. But some people, like my folks for example, who were bosses at work their whole lives and who define power and contol by being infallible, do not deal well with aging. I would say, generally, that controlling people have a very difficult time with aging, and get more and more difficult as time goes on. 72 is not that old, but some people act like they are going on 92 their whole lives. Which is ironic, because there are probably some spry 92 year olds out there! Bear in mind what others have said, you can't control your mom but you can control how you react to her. You have some rights in this situation, and she has some adult responsibilities. If she chooses not to act like an adult (assuming she doesn't have some kind of dementia), then you are not responsible for her problems. Choose what you will do, and make it very clear that you are going to do as you see fit and if she doesn't like it, that is NOT YOUR PROBLEM. That's the only way you can deal with co-dependent people. You're just going to have to accept that she is going to be elderly and difficult. There's a difference between compassion (which you should exercise with your mom) and co-dependence, and the key is to navigate the line between the two. Recognizing the problem, like you have, is half the battle. And I think it also helps to share the burden by talking with others who are going through the same thing. I know I get a lot of solace from comiserating with my friends who are also dealing with or have dealt with difficult parental relationships. (Just ask Annie, lol!)...See MoreThe Heirloom Challenge (article link)
Comments (34)I have a ton of furniture that used to belong to my grandparents and my parents. I am going to be letting go of the dining set, for practical reasons. I am NOT painting anything I am keeping -- this style of furniture for one will look rather bad painted, and I am more into wood than painted stuff anyway. But it is interesting as I prepare to downsize and move -- what I am interested in retaining. I never felt that I had to have a style... People would say that all their furnishings were Ethan Allen, or Ikea -- and I'd just look around me and see the function. Hand me downs, tag sales, pine furniture I finished myself... (I did know the presswood stuff was very suboptimal from the get go, but it fit the early budget.) Frugality (or maybe just cheapness) has kept me from designing entirely to my own taste, and will probably continue to do so -- but on some level I'm happy with most of these heirlooms -- the dining set actually less so because it isn't really practical for my needs... and I have the sturdy, hardy kitchen table my parents once used, and if it does indeed have a leaf or two down there in the basement or garage, it is golden... at least for a few more years. Seemingly, I'm better at doing style for the rooms themselves in my future home (and here). I have a handle on preferred colors and fixture style... We'll see.....See MoreLooking for article on minimal cooking tools, lost it & want to find
Comments (21)I forgot that I also have a small potato masher in there, and some small tongs. The tongs are from a set that came with two, so I had it extra. I my kitchen with electricity, I have to say I love my immersion blender because I no longer have to have a blender taking up valuable counter space. For a minimalist kitchen, I guess one might want a toaster oven, but they are tricky to use and I am a distracted cook. I'd rather use that counter space for a snazzy toaster, but I love toasted things . . . In my actual kitchen, I have a braising pan with a clear glass lid, which I can also use to roast things in, but I often use my roasting pans, my aluminum one doubles as a cake or lasagna pan but I have a larger one if I want to do a turkey . . . which vegetarian me rarely wants to do . . . I also splurged for some nice thick aluminum baking sheets, not the thin ones like you can get in all the marts. Cake and pie pans can be used to heat stuff up in and if you're going to be baking, of course loaf and muffin tins. And then of course I would splurge on the dutch oven, that is great for a minimalist kitchen. At my last tiny apt., I just stored it on the stove and used it often. Can even stir fry in it . . . and I have to say, a cast aluminum dutch oven is not a bad idea either. I inherited one from my mom, and it's a whole lot easier to move that around than the heavy cast iron one. Stamped aluminum of course is terrible, we're talking thick cast aluminum. And in my actual kitchen, I have a grater and a meat thermometer. I would not usually do such elaborate meals on the road or camping. A good chef's knife can be used instead of a grater in most instances, but I do like it for shredding cheese and carrots. I do love my microplane for fresh citrus peel but I lived most of my life without such luxury. Same with a peeler, I use it all the time but I can also use a paring knife. But the peeler is in almost constant rotation. Since I make pizza, a pizza cutter is something I use quite a bit, and because I am a pie lover, I use my pie cutter and server, although one could use a knife and a spatula. So the rest depends on what you like to eat I guess. I love my pasta server because I eat so much pasta but one can also use a big slotted serving spoon. I forgot that I have a small one of those in my camping kit too. You don't have to use measuring spoons either, you can use a tsp and tblsp/soup spoon and eyeball the rest, but my measuring spoons get a lot of rotation. And for clean up, I love my set of bottle brushes of various sizes. And as someone who went through many a stovetop tea kettle, I love my electric kettle that shuts off automatically and heats fast. We use that every day too....See MoreOutsidePlaying
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