Sandie's husband died yesterday. :(
Granlan TX
9 years ago
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Comments (19)lldaunt, its ok to cry. We all need it. We've all done it and just when we think its some better, something else pops up and we start to tear up again. Its ok. I am a "list-maker" After G died, and I was rested somewhat, I knew I had to keep busy. I made a list of projects that needed to be done, and things I had to put aside while he was so ill. Some were kind of silly, but these things kept me going and on the right track. Like paying bills, chores, crafts, etc. Some of the things on my "list" haven't been completed yet, and maybe some will never be done. But for me, the important thing was to keep my mind and hands busy. I know that sounds terribly old-fashioned, but it got me over the initial shock and helped me to realize that I was capable to "going on". I journal every day. and my lists go there too. Why not start one about your life with your loved one? Make it as intimate as you want. If its for your eyes only, whatever you want to write. If its for your children/grandchildren to learn more about Frank, thats another slant to consider. I think that would be a very nice legacy to give to your family. Most importantly, take care of yourself. Get enough sleep, eat properly,& if on medications, make sure you are taking it correctly. Give your self time. You can't "heal" overnight. God Bless & Keep you Jan...See MoreMy beloved husband died unexpectadly
Comments (47)Nora, I totally understand what you are going through. I lost my husband in February after a crazy wonderful 6 1/2 years of marriage. This past few months have been a feeling like I have never felt before. Before I met him, I was an independent single mom who took care of everything. When I met him, I met my best friend and fell in love deeply. We had our ups and downs like every marriage, but the one constant was that we loved each other and didn't want to be without each other. We supported each other through everything. The last few years, it was more me supporting him while he went through some tough personal times but that is what a best friend and a wife does. In February, my husband died as a result of multiple blunt injuries to the head during a motorcycle accident. Before anyone starts talking about how dangerous motorcycles are, please understand that he was not a careless rider and he was doing the speed limit and wearing a full faced helmet. The truck in front of him was leaking oil and it got all over his bike and made him go into the median. He made it through the median but when he went to get back on the road, the tire caught the lip of the road and in turn made him flip. When his friend who was riding with him (and unfortunately saw the whole thing)called me to tell me he was in a serious accident I thought my world was crashing around me. I hopped in my car and rushed the 2 hour drive to the hospital where I sat by his side until it was time. He was a tissue and organ donor and unfortunately his organs weren't viable, but his tissue was. When I arrived there, there was no brain function so i never got to say goodbye. I just had the memory of our last kiss and last hug that morning before he rode off.We had talked about what to do if the time ever came so I knew what needed to be done, I just hated that i had to make that decision. That night was the hardest because I had to tell our children, my son/his stepson is 18 and he knew as soon as he saw me and i saw him grow into a man right in front of my eyes. His son, who was living with us, is 13 and his whole world was up in the air. He had finally found a spot where he fit in and loved being and now it was not the same and he knew he would have to go live with his mom again. I was lucky enough to be surrounded by friends who took care of everything that dealt with the service. I of course had the final say so on everything but they made it into an event that people will always talk about. There were 300 people at his service and there was standing room only. It was an amazing site to see how many people loved and respected him. I on the other hand was falling apart inside. I had to go back to work that following week because if i didn't then i didnt get paid. I did take some days off and the paycheck reflected it, but i got past that. My days were fine for the most part, it is the night time that has been so utterly terrible. I cannot sleep in our room, so I sleep on the couch. We did everything together and talked constantly, so the feeling of being all alone is overwhelming. I can be strong one minute and break down crying the next minute. It just sucks, there are no other words for me to describe how i feel. I go on with my days and try to muddle through the nights, but the pure fact is i miss my husband and my friend. I don't know what to do next, I am back to being the single mom again, but now I don't have that feeling of being a strong, independent person i was before him or with him. I do take help from people when i need it, but in all actuality the only thing i need is my husband. I miss him making me laugh, i miss him making me mad, i miss every little thing about him. Thanks for letting me vent....See Moremy husband died
Comments (100)Anette..... You will be in my prayers. I know that this must be a terrible time for you & I pray God that you will have the strength to bear up under all that you are facing. God will help you through this. Creekgirl...See Morelindyluwho, lost her husband, yesterday!
Comments (54)Good wishes for these difficult days, Linda ... may you remember and be thankful for all of the good times and good years together. God grant grace and peace in your heart sufficient for these days: you are a capable, strong woman and will find your way through all that needs to be done. I'm offering some prayers on your behalf, and for others who loved your husband. ole joyful...See More
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