I am always forgetting where I put my keys and it drives me nuts. I have so much on my mind, that I forget where I put a lot of things. Sometimes I think our lives are just too busy, with too much going on, always thinking of what we're going to do next and what we really need to do is slow down and take a step back.

I really need to take my own advice.

Is your friend as concerned about this as you are?

I think that if a person puts things in different places all the time, then it's common to forget where things are. To solve problems like that, a person needs a SPOT a designated SPOT to put the keys and other things. Problem solved! If you put your keys on the dresser each day when you get home, then they will be there when you need them. I think it's a matter of being unorganized! As soon as I put something there it does NOT go, I will be searching the house for said object. So I would tell him, if he's concerned about it, "always put the keys on X spot". With today's busy schedules, we have so much on our minds...it's hard to remember things.

I don't know of a starting point for your research but I do agree with Arkansas girl.

Hope you find answers.

He needs a good physical. It's probably nothing, but it could be something.

You can't go wrong with an annual physical. I was told once, "It's better if you find it, then it finds you." Because, by that time things can be more progressed.

Thanks for the feed back. With a guy, it's hard to put keys in a spot....sometimes they have a jacket with pockets, sometimes not. He also wears a lot of athletic shorts and stuff just doesn't stay in those pockets! I doubt he's as concerned as I am....but I'm not sure. I guess I need to discuss it with him. And ellendi, you're right, he needs a good physical. That in itself with take some convincing. Just trying to clear my mind on this, sometimes taking on someone else's issues is tough....especially when they don't think they have one! But this is beyond just forgetting once in a while. We shall see.....

Pockets can't be the place to store his keys....he'll take the clothes off then be searching all his pockets. It needs to be a bowl on a table by the entrance, or a set of hooks near the entrance, the kitchen junk drawer, etc. someplace close to where he enters and exits so he's putting them in the same spot just as he walks in. It sounds like he's just a little scatterbrained and needs some organizational skills. My 26 year old son can be like that sometimes.

I think people who are careless with things tend to forget...it would drive me crazy to have to look for things...the minute I walk in the door I put my purse away and my keys away....my husband is forever looking for something and it is usually right where it's supposed to be but he has laid a paper on top of it or something like that because he is very organized.

My 32 year old son in law loses his keys, wallet, cell phone all the time. I attribute it to disorganization.

Daughter is working with him to put everything on a table as soon as he enters the house.

I don't get that it's hard for a guy to put keys somewhere. If he's going to be like that then there's no hope. You have a spot on your dresser in your bedroom and when you get home that's where you put it...how hard is that? Sounds like he just doesn't get the concept of being organized. I don't care how good your memory is, if you just throw keys any old where, you'll have trouble finding them the next time. He just doesn't get the concept of organizing stuff. His whole life is probably disorganized if I were to take a guess?

I wouldn't worry about it at this time.

I misplaced my keys a lot as a very young adult, I soon learn to put them in the same place every time, in my purse and the spares in their place.

Thanks for all the suggestions. Joaniepoanie - a "little scatterbrained" is putting it mildly. lol I guess the hardest part is that it's not just at HIS home, it's everywhere he goes. I would be exhausted if I spent 1/2 as much time looking for stuff as he does. I guess it doesn't bother him enough to change though.....

Is he a "brainy" sort? Often those people appear scattered to the rest of us because they're always thinking, thinking. Though I'm far from brainy, I get more forgetful when I've got a lot going on in my life or a problem I'm trying to work out.

Has this gotten worse over time? If so, then yes, he should see a doctor asap. If he's always been this way, then it's probably just his personality, I would guess.

My dear, darling husband was the youngest child, and the only boy amidst a bevy of sisters. He got lots of attention by being a little helpless and forgetful.

Then he married me....the only girl in a pack of brothers! My days of being a maid ended when I left home for college, lol.

Robert still tries to pull the forgetful or visually impaired card occasionally, but it doesn't work with me. "Where's the.........." when peering into the pantry or fridge, searching for something that's right in front of his nose, hah!

sjerin, he's been this way pretty much his whole life. And brainy? He sure could be if he wanted to. Let's just say he's an expert at debating ANYTHING.

Lol rhizo, your hubby sure must've had a change of lifestyle going from all sisters to a wife raised with boys. How funny!

Yes, it's been very funny at times. Luckily, we both have a good sense of humor and can laugh at ourselves.

Our DS has ADD. He doesn't have the "H" (hyperactive) part, so it was not caught in school. He's over 40 -- still has difficulty...and still refuses meds that could put him at par with people who do NOT have this chemical disability. I swear, he needs a sign on the bathroom mirror to remind him: "Brush Your Teeth." He's smart and good and kind. People take a shine to him immediately. He's a loving husband and father. However...his brain lacks the ability to filter the clamor of life in the same way most people's brains became formatted early in life.

I was going to suggest a wooden sign in the entry hall for your friend. It would say "KEYS" and have a shelf or a couple of hooks. However, what you are describing sounds as though it is deeper than some who needs some Flylady kind of organization skills. He may have ADD. He may be depressed. He could have lots of things going on that a physical and follow-up could help. (You or another person will probably have to see to the follow-up. He is probably incapable of it.)