Easier to raise: Boys or Girls ?

14 years ago

At a birthday party recently we were talking about raising children. I was surprised that several people mentioned

that their sons were to easier to raise than their daughters, I would say just the opposite was true for me.

Our daughter got herself ready for school, did her homework, went to bed without problems, etc.

Our boys had to be prodded to get up, go to bed, do homework, etc. Fortunately for us, none got in any trouble

so we were very lucky but I can't say the boys were easier.

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moonie_57 (8 NC)
14 years ago
Both of my boys were easier to raise than my daughter.
sleeperblues
14 years ago
Boys. Less hormones, less drama.
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Hi lyfia! and congratulations on your baby girl. I have a 10yo dd. Both dh and I are introverts. I was painfully shy as a child. Neither of us had a lot of parental support growing up, and I think this is a major cause of our social insecurity. My DD is probably the most extroverted person I've ever met. She will go up to anybody and strike up a conversation. She went on a sleepover with a group of girls she never met last week - no fears, she said "It's another chance to make new friends!" So, your daughter is not absolutely destined to be shy or insecure. I didn't do anything special. I couldn't stand being cooped up in the house when she was tiny so we went to the park almost every day. I soon met lots of other moms (depite my shyness) and other kids her age. The going to the park and hanging out lasted for her first five years, by which time she had a large group of people she knew, and felt comfortable with the moms as well as the girls and boys. At five she started school, and that went very well for the first couple of years. She loved her teachers and got along well with the other kids. But in second grade the whole alpha girl/wolf pack mentality kicked in and she just didn't understand what was going on. The playground can be a really cruel place. In addition, she was getting tons of homework that seemed downright silly and timewasting, so we decided to pull her out of school for a break and try homeschooling. The homeschooling was my dh's idea. I felt dd was much to social to do it. As it turns out, the socializing she gets from homeschooling is far superior to that at school. DD has kept a couple of friends from school, some old buddies from the park days, and has scads of friends from dancing, science class, Girl Scouts, gymnastics, swim team, etc. - and is able to interact with them all without the kind of survival-of-the-nastiest mentality that comes when you put 50 kids of the same age onto a playground. And the greatest thing about homeschooling is that you get to stay close to your kid. When she was at school I really felt like my role as a parent was being supplanted by teachers, school administration, and most of all, by other kids. Now we are just as close as when she was younger, and I think that bodes well for when she hits the adolescent years. But I didn't mean to write an ode to homeschooling! Really, my main thoughts are: *Stay close to your daughter. There's no such thing as too many hugs and kisses. *Don't compare her to other kids. Yes, other kids will talk sooner, walk sooner, be potty trained - whatever. Let her go at her own pace. They'll all walk and talk sooner or later. *Take all parenting books with a grain (or a pound) of salt. In fact, I would minimize the reading of parenting books altogether. They make you paranoid. *Get out of the house. Expose her to lots of other kids and adults. *Let her be alone sometimes (as she gets older.) Let her learn to enjoy her own company. *Have people over. Family, neighbors - the more people she meets the more she'll feel capable of dealing with. *Don't worry about making mistakes. I sometimes think that my own concerns about dd - that she would be shy and extra-sensitive like her mama - actually helped her out. For example, I didn't want to leave her at kindergarten (the parents were allowed stay for the first day) until she finally said "I think this would be more fun if you went home." I guess what I'm saying is, let her be the one to decide when she is ready to fly solo, rather than pushing her out of the nest. Okay, this has been way too long a break from work! You are a great mom, and your daughter is going to be just fine. Amy
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bulldinkie
14 years ago
Boys..I had 2 ,2 grandsons
socks
14 years ago
I have nothing to compare to, but I have always thought boys are easier to raise. And I think it's easier to have kids of the same sex, like all boys or all girls.
LuAnn_in_PA
14 years ago
My son was easier to raise than my daughter.
pekemom
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14 years ago
Wow, I guess I am in the minority...
susan_on
14 years ago
My daughter was MUCH easier to raise than my son!
kathyg_in_mi
14 years ago
No, pekemom,
My DD was so much easier than my 3 sons! They sure gave us a run for the money.
Never had to hire a lawyer for my DD (boys and stupid pranks).
All turned out to be stand up adults, finished college (doctor, finance dept at U of M, civil engineer, and a biochemist), own their own homes, have kids now.
That's what is so satisfying about having kids.
And why you didn't kill them when they were teens!!!
Kathy G in MI
Toni S
14 years ago
My son was much easier than my two daughters but the two girls are worlds apart in personality too. Hormones have been an issue but for the most part they are decent young teens. We have our bad days but they could be alot worse.
drewsmaga
14 years ago
I have 3 sons, 1 daughter; 1 nephew, 3 nieces; 2 grandsons, 3 granddaughters. Girls are easier. But more expensive. Unless you count in the boys legal fees and emergency room and busted teeth co-pays. Then it's about the same financially.
sheilajoyce_gw
14 years ago
My daughter was sooooo much easier than her brothers.
lazypup
14 years ago
Doing homework...are you crazy?????

I graduated high school in 1965 and to this day I still hold the school record as the only student who never turned in a single page of homework, yet never failed a class or a grade....
brightonborn
14 years ago
Boys are much easier. I had 4 and then 2 girls , no question about it for all the reasons stated above.
juellie1962
14 years ago
Boys don't have attitude and hold grudges for days!! :)
cheryl_ok
14 years ago
I find boys are much easier to raise than girls.
chessey24
14 years ago
I had one of each. They each were challenges in their own special ways but overall my daughter was easier than my son.
chisue
14 years ago
They would all be easier on us if they could be sent away somewhere else to be raised during the years their bodies are adult but their brains are not.
matti5
14 years ago
Boys!
ronf_gw
14 years ago
I have 1 daughter and 4 sons. The daughter has required more parenting than all 4 boys combined!

Ron
SunnyDJ
14 years ago
I agree with Ronf, I had 4 boys and a daughter and that 1 girl gave me more gray hair than all the boys put together....BUT, after our daughter went away to college, she then became my best friend and is to this day....

Lazypup, I have a grandson that was the same way....Couldn't understand why he had to go to school in the 1st place, never brought home home work, excelled in all classes, did college work in HS,graduated at the top, went on to Penn State and graduated top in his class in Mechanical Engineering....Do you think, I'm just a little proud.....
jannie
14 years ago
I have 2 girls so I can't say. But my two daughters are worlds apart in personality. DD1 was always difficult, wears eyeglasses, diagnosed ADHD, has a temper. DD2 is a lot easier, more outwardly loving and respectful. Both are now in college, both are juniors. Both have jobs, the older one still lives at home with us. Do I wish they were more alike? No. I want each to be herself. I love them both and have no favorite. All I'm saying is the older one was and is more difficult.
joyfulguy
14 years ago
Somewhere around the mid-'40s (I was 16 in '45, brothers 13 and 11), a neighbour who had 3 daughters about the same age dropped in to our farmyard one Sunday morning and he and Dad got into a complex discussion as to which were the more difficult to raise.

Don't know whether they came to any conclusion: probably each went home convinced of the validity of his claim.

We got a ready-made sister, a couple of years younger than my youngest brother, when Dad remarried ... but I was away to university and spent only a few days at a time at home after that.

She, a bit giddy/flighty, and her Mom didn't get along. Easy-going Dad was a good influence on her, as were similar brothers ... she has said on occasion that Dad never treated her any differently than he did the boys.

Except when it came to wills: her Mom's assets went to her and her offspring, Dad's to his offspring and theirs (one son prdeceased him).

Just spent some precious time with brother and wife, sister and her daughter, while celebrating sister-in-law (widow's) 80th birthday, and a nephew and a couple of nieces.

ole joyful
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14 years ago
Mine are still young, but so far the boys have been easier. Dd is the youngest and has always been the loudest, most tempermental, gets into more stuff, and has more expensive "needs." She also is the most opinionated which I've been told is inherited from her mother. LOL!
amicus
14 years ago
My daughter was WAY easier to raise than my 2 sons. While she took great pride in anything she did, neither of her brothers seemed much concerned with anything. I was always worried they'd never learn to prioritize, so I exhausted MYSELF trying to light a fire under their butts. Thankfully, through some miracle, they turned into respectable young men, lol.

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