I can relate to the MA texting codes! DH texts all day and into the night but he has to be up on the youth texting codes because he is a college coach. He receives and sends text messages to his athletes. It's frustrating because they won't answer the phone when he calls but within seconds they respond to a text message. I asked him if he still sends hand signals to the batter/base runner or does he now have to text the signal to them.

Wow....serious flashbacks! Dude I was exactly where you were 8 years ago...literally I could have wrote that paragraph, with a few details changed. By the time I got to where you are, and started being suspicious, she had in fact been having an affair for 9 months....shows you how perceptive I am I guess... When I finally confronted her with proof (more than just txt records, I had phone records and a call to the reservations desk of a local motel on a day I took the kids to a ballgame), she finally came clean...well sort of, she still lied about lots of sh*t during the process of trying to fix the marriage. For me, it didn't work out well...we worked on things for 3 yrs (I did anyway, I realized later her heart was not in it and she was just buying time), until she did it again and I pulled the plug on things. Now I am happily divorced, dating someone and raising my kids with 50/50 custody...life goes on, no matter what happens it will probably be for the best. But, to answer your question, yes she's totally playing you the fool. While spouses absolutely need some privacy, she's clearly just using this issue to deflect her obvious indiscretions. You need to sit her down and have a serious, serious talk to her. Not sure if you have kids or not, but she needs to understand that what she is doing is just wrong, and she needs to look at her self in the mirror and figure out if she wants to be in the marriage or not, because right now, you have nothing. And take it from someone who made a lot of mistakes in the process of trying to rebuild the trust....DO NOT make it about checking up on her, having access to her phone and email accounts, etc. Trust me on this...that will push her away further!! You need to try and re-connect with her, if you can, the trust will return, if you can't, then you end the marriage....it's really that simple. Be prepared for some real sh*tty days my friend, the voyage you are about to take is not fun. I wish you a better outcome than I had.

Thank you so much Urlee, I found Cod-o-Matik somewhere under downloads I had saved but not the other good stuff you provided. That will teach me to back up my bookmarks as well as my files.. I wish you a Happy Thanksgiving if you see this before then.. (((hugs))) Elly

I think my problem is resolved. I decided to try the simple test -- I turned the power off and on and everything reset. It sounds like it's making ice again. I'll know for sure in a few hours. The "filter" alert is on, and I'll change it, as I do each time (every 6 months).