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Jasdip, how's your Mom?

15 years ago

Is she out of the hospital? Hope she's feeling lots better!

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Jasdip
15 years ago
Thanks for asking Sleeper!

She's still in the hospital.....went into a regular room a couple of days ago. We have to gown up and wear gloves to see her...she has a super-bug.

She's not interested in eating. They are making her drink Ensure; a meal replacement. She has to drink 5 of them each day. She gets frustrated, because she says they fill her up and she can't eat.

I stress on her the importance of eating....food would be better than the Ensures by a long shot. She eats some Cream of Wheat and her yogurt every morning, and the puddings. But just a taste of her real food. She says the food is good, she just doesn't have an appetite.

They are talking about putting a feeding tube in. She shuffles around her room with a walker and 2 nurses supporting her. She doesn't have the energy/strength to walk without a lot of support.

This isn't my mom at all, but we know she'll be better and stronger if she can just eat; or get the feeding tube.

We aren't sure that she'll be out for Christmas. The family is putting Christmas off till Feb or March till she's feeling much, much better. Even if she's out, she won't want to celebrate or eat much and that's no good.
sleeperblues
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15 years ago
Sounds like she still has a long road to go, but she'll get there! When my Dad was so sick, we really had to be advocates for him. Just ask a lot of questions, and demand answers. Good luck with everything, let her know that people are pulling for her.
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country_bumpkin_al
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I"m still keeping her in my Prayers!!
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I'm sorry your Dear Mom is having such a difficult time, Jasdip. Nutrition is so very important for the body to fight these bugs. A few years ago I had a surgery site open and badly infected. In the hospital my Dr had me on a pretty high caloric diet, even though I was over weight. He said the body needed the good nutrition to be able to fight the infection, along with the anti-biotics given me intravenously. I;m keeping her in my thoughts and prayers. Wouldn't it be a nice Christmas gift if she was able to be well enough to be home for the Holidays.
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Awww Jasdip, I hope that things are soon on the upswing for your mom. It is so hard to turn them around if they will not eat, I battled with my mom about it when she was in the hospital. The body shuts down the hunger receptors at some point so getting them to eat once that happens is a heck of a struggle. Over on the diabetes forum we are all trying to get a gal to eat, she is trying to live on under 500 calories a day....she doesn't realize the damage she is doing.

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