Good News But Jealous

15 years ago

As everyone probably knows, I have failed kidneys. I get dialysis treatment three mornings a week and I'm on a list to get a kidney transplant. Yesterday, the technician came to me smiling and said "Alice is getting her transplant." Alice is another woman, about my age, who gets (or got) dialysis the same schedule as me. We got friendly, say hi and talk about our husbands and kids, we go to the same hairdresser in my town, and I see her or her husband in the grocery store once in a while. I am so happy for her. But I'm jealous, too. When will my transplant come? The doctors and transplant organization UNOS are very mysterious and close-mouthed. They confirm I'm on the list but won't tell me what number I am or how many others, or how long I'll wait. But the fact Alice got her transplant means I'll get mine some day. As the technician sad "At Christmas. Perfect timimg."

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glenda_al
15 years ago
That is good news!
sue_va
15 years ago
Jannie, I can only imagine how you must feel I have two friends who are waiting for a kidney, but they never know either when it might happen.

Can't blame you for feeling jealous, but you just have to take it in stride and be happy for the other woman.

Your number will come up some day too.

May you have a wonderful Christmas!

Sue
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15 years ago
A woman I worked with got hers on Christmas Day several years ago.

No words of wisdom from me, as I honestly don't know what to say to cheer you up about it. Seriously, I'm sitting here with my fingers on my keyboard trying to find something........... Somehow hang in there, doesn't seem right. It's okay to be jealous.
donna_oh
15 years ago
Hope your happy day comes real soon!

Donna (^_^)
gadgets
15 years ago
I understand your being happy for her but also jealous as you're so wanting it to be your turn. I pray that your turn comes very soon.

Shirley
bulldinkie
15 years ago
I had a guy where I go got a kidney Christmas eve last year..
susanjf_gw
15 years ago
keep the faith!
janie_ga
15 years ago
Totally understandable. Better to talk about those feelings than to try and deny them. That would only make you worse.
country_sunshine
15 years ago
That's wonderful news for your friend... and I find it totally understandable to feel as you do... The only thing I can suggest is to think more about all the wonderful things you are blessed with and try not to dwell on what you don't have.. not always so easy, but just as Janie said... Keep the faith..

Hugs,
Carolyn
jannie
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15 years ago
Thanks everyone for your kind words. I am genuinely happy for my friend Alice. She was on "the list" two years before I was. So the fact she got her transplant means the list does move. My turn will come. And while I'm waiting dialysis makes me feel pretty good, and I do have a wonderful husband and 2 lovely daughters I can lean on. Thanks for cheering me up. My basic nature is being optimistic. Half full, not half empty.
nanny98
15 years ago
Good for you Jannie. Your day will come and being optimistic is a wonderful help. Hugs, Nanny
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drewsmaga
15 years ago
I can understand your mixed feelings -- I'm sure that if I was in your situation, I'd be feeling the same. But you know that the transplants are based on the best tissue match, not how long someone's been on the list (although time on list, seriousness of illness, and other factors do play into a decision when there are more than one good match.) Rest assured that your time will come when it's time for your time to come. I'm sorry that you are suffering in the meantime, but keep the faith, stay optimistic, and love the people who love you.
rosemaryt
15 years ago
Years ago, I read an interview with Alfre Woodard in the Christian Science Sentinel. She said that her mother had taught her to feel sincerely joyous and grateful for the good things that happened in other people's lives, and to take it as a personal promise from God that, "If it happened for them, it can happen for me, too."

I've always remembered that.

My daughter is a living kidney donor, having given her kidney to her best friend, Kaycee. I know dialysis is tough and I hope and pray you'll be off it soon.

Rose

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