Christmas Day is Bittersweet - I'm hoping I'm not the ONLY one...

12 years ago

My husband's mother died on Christmas Day 17 years ago today. My own mother went in her sleep, sometime early Christmas morning. My youngest daughter and I were the one that found Mom in her in bed Christmas morning 10 years ago today.

When my husband and I first met (six years ago), and discovered that we had this "unique" thing in common, it was kind of a bonding experience.

I know this may come across as a really odd post for Christmas, but surely I'm not the only one who struggles with a few "less than ideal" memories of Christmas Day?

Thanks in advance.

Rose

Here is a link that might be useful: Unrelated, but cool: Christmas in Wisconsin, 111 years ago today

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alisande
12 years ago
Not like yours, exactly, but I think all of us who have lost someone remember that person at special times, and feel the loss particularly sharply. One of my difficult times is the day after Christmas, my daughter Gillian's birthday. I usually arrange to be with people that evening--as a distraction.
marie_ndcal
12 years ago
Sad to say also, DH's mom passed away Dec 22, 1966, first time ever she had all the grandkids packages wrapped and under her tree.
Son in law's mom just passed away on my DD's birthday, his wife (sil). But she had been very ill.
Just sending good thought to all who have lost someone they love around the holidays.
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ronf_gw
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scraphappy
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My husband died on December 19, 2008. His funeral was the 23rd - This is my fourth Christmas without him. Any real joy in the holidays died with him - it will always been the anniversary of the saddest week of my life.

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kayjones
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Scrap, I can SO RELATE to your story - OMG, it's difficult when we lose a loved one and family all have family obligations of their own. If my Stepson didn't live with me, I don't know how I'd make it some days! GOD bless all of us in this position!
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Jodi_SoCal
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My sweet, dear brother-in-law fell asleep on the sofa Christmas eve a few years ago and never woke up. :-(

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