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My mom passed away last night

17 years ago

Mom passed away peacefully last night at about 11:30 surrounded by family. There was so much divine intervention in the final hours...and since...I can't even explain it all right now.

Please keep my family---especially my dad---in your prayers in the coming days.

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sue_va
17 years ago
With deepest sympathy.

Sue
Happy_Go_Lucky_Gayle
17 years ago
My Condolences Rita. I'm so very sorry. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Gayle
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katclaws_mo
17 years ago
I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your Dear Mom. I will be keeping all of you in Special Thoughts & Prayers for the difficult days ahead.
grittymitts
17 years ago
Rita,
Words are just so inadequate at a time like this, but please know you and yours have my heartfelt prayers... especially your Dad.

With hopes your faith and sweet memories of happy times help ease the wrenching pain of losing your precious Mother.

God bless you and your family,
Suzi
heather_on
17 years ago
Sending my depest thoughts of sympathy to you and your family.
justlinda
17 years ago
Cherish the memories of your mom's love. Please accept my condolences.
~Linda
liz
17 years ago
I'm so very sorry for your loss...prayers and thoughts going out for all of your family Rita! ((OK)))
mamatoad
17 years ago
I'm so sorry, Rita. I send my sympathy and my prayers for your family. Bettye/AZ
sandra_maine
17 years ago
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
tannatonk23_fl_z9a
17 years ago
Rita, I am so sorry to read this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your father. May your mother rest in peace.
~Betsy
kittiemom
17 years ago
I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you & your family.
sandy_in_ia
17 years ago
I am so very sorry to hear that. My sympathy to you, your Dad and all your family.
Vickey__MN
17 years ago
I'm so sorry.

Vickey-MN
heatherinohio
17 years ago
I am so sorry to hear that you lost your mom. You and your family sure have been through a whole lot here lately and my heart breaks for you. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
sharon_fl
17 years ago
Rita,
Deepest sympathy to you and your family. So sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Hold on to every memory you two shared for a lifetime!
wildchild
17 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss.
FlamingO in AR
17 years ago
Oh, Rita, I am so very sorry to hear this. You and your family have all of our sympathies, sweetie.

(((((Rita and family, especially Dad)))))
phyllis__mn
17 years ago
Rita, I'm joining the others in sending caring thoughts to your whole family.
czech_chick
17 years ago
My deepest sympathy to you, Rita, and to your family.

~Carol~
IndianaKat
17 years ago
I am so sorry OK....Peace and blessings to you and your family...

~Kathy~
Mickey15
17 years ago
Oh Rita, I am so, so sorry. I wish I was there in person to give you a hug.
You and your dad and family are in my prayers.
Tammy
maryanntx
17 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom, Rita. Your family is in my thought and prayers.
paula_pa
17 years ago
I'm so sorry, Rita. It's especially difficult when something comes out of left field like this. My prayers to your entire family.
anneliese_32
17 years ago
(((My deepest sympathy.)))
vicki_lv_nv
17 years ago
bearcat_va
17 years ago
I'm so sorry, Rita. My thoughts are with you and your family during these times.
luckygardnr
17 years ago
I'm so sorry! I know how much you were praying she'd be alright. Hugs to you and your family.
Jamie_MS
17 years ago
(((Rita and family)))
ritamay91710
17 years ago
I'm so sorry to read this. Your family will be in my prayers.
sjerin
17 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear this, and you and your family have my sympathies and prayers.
margad
17 years ago
My deepest sympathy for you and your family
Annie
17 years ago
I'm so very sorry. My deepest sympathies to you,your father and family.
williamsburgjane
17 years ago
I am so sorry. Sending special thoughts and warm hugs to you and your family.
itsmesuzq
17 years ago
I will be thinking and praying for your Dad and the family. I am so sorry.

~Susan
angela_nor_calif
17 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.
caroline94535
17 years ago
Rita, you, your father, and your entire family are in my prayers.

I am so terribly sorry for you.

(((((Rita)))))
jayokie
17 years ago
May God give you peace and your memories give you comfort.
((hugs))
gardenspice
17 years ago
Sending best thoughts for you, your Dad and your family.
GardenSpice
Zipper_TX
17 years ago
Oh Rita, I'm very sorry for your loss!

Hugs!
coral_ok
17 years ago
(((((((((Rita)))))))) My heart goes out to you. I'm glad you were there with her.
kim_okla
17 years ago
Rita, I'm so very sorry.
gazania_gw
17 years ago
So sorry, Rita. You and all your family have my deepest sympathy.
kathi_mdgd
17 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss!!! Please accept my sincere condolences for you and your family.
Hugs
Kathi
rosemaryt
17 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom's passing. As others have said, I hope you and yours are comforted by the good memories.
deemarie5500
17 years ago
I understand how much you will miss her. Hold tight all the wonderful memories.

My prayers are with you and your family.
Dee
Kathsgrdn
17 years ago
I'm very sorry. Hugs and prayers to you and your family.
barb_from_pa
17 years ago
I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I pray you have many happy memories to keep your mom alive in your heart. May God especially bless your dad and help him through this most difficult of times.

Barb
Velleen78
17 years ago
Vince and I send Our prayers your way. Also our sympathy.
gadgets
17 years ago
You and your family have my sincerest sympathies. It's been almost 3 yrs since I lost my Mom and it still sometimes seems so fresh. God be with you.

Shirley
nan_nc
17 years ago
Joining all the others in sympathy and good wishes. It's hard to lose a mother..and harder for her husband. Huge hugs to all, and gentle peace and white light as well.

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