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How do you relieve stress in your life?

18 years ago

I would love some new tips.

Thanks,Marilyn

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marilyn_c
18 years ago
For me, I just like being alone. Then I can putter around in the yard. Or I go yard saling or to the flea market or out to eat. I have to have alone time. If I am really stressed out, I go to bed and read. I am fortunate that I don't have a lot of people causing me stress right now.
grittymitts
18 years ago
I recently decided to again try the method I used when in a very high stress job. It's really been a big help in the struggles of dealing with DH's dementia.

When I feel like the men in the 'little white coats' will soon be chasing me with butterfly nets I stop, remember what the feeling is doing to MY body & decide NOT to allow anything, anyone to have that power over me. Of course, in
preparation for trying this again, I had to have a few conversations with Self about it. ;)

Maybe it will help you...maybe not, but you might like to give it a try.

Suzi
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LorifromUtah
18 years ago
Exercise or hard work.
Endorphins are my friend.

Lori
jeaninwa
18 years ago
A bumper sticker from the site of the day today:

Stress is when you wake up screaming and you realize you weren't asleep.
ronf_gw
18 years ago
I agree with Lori or...
retreating into my cave; but, then I'm a guy.

Ron
bigack
18 years ago
Ron, that would be your "Man cave" lol. I relieve stress occasionally with half of a little "happy pill"!
jkayd_il5
18 years ago
pray about it
alisande
18 years ago
Relaxation and meditation CDs. Even lying down, listening, and breathing deeply for 15 minutes makes a world of difference.

The following two CDs are very different but equally effective.

Yoga Nidra (the 61 Points track is my favorite)

Your Present: A Half-Hour of Peace I don't ever remember hearing all of this one because it tends to put me to sleep. But I'm sure my subconscious still picks up the message.
wanda_va
18 years ago
Quilting and jigsaw puzzles.
nookie
18 years ago
Knitting and cross stitching :)
patti43
18 years ago
Gosh, am I the only one that yells?
Animal_Farm
18 years ago
a half of a valium!!!!! and play card games on the 'puter.

Carol
Happy_Go_Lucky_Gayle
18 years ago
A road trip by myself in the country with no destination in mind. Finding a little Mom and Pop store and browse or go to a little Country CafÃ©.

Gayle
bigack
18 years ago
Oh, that's right, I forgot card games, when I'm stressed, I come on here and play solitaire frantically, helps a lot, lol.
sheilajoyce_gw
18 years ago
Knittng and crocheting and some alone time with a positive mental pep talk to self.
momcat2000
18 years ago
Sleep
jannie
18 years ago
Walking, cooking, eating, "visiting" with all my Internet friends on KT!
jeaninwa
18 years ago
two words:

bubble bath
socks
18 years ago
Hot bath, reading, walking, knitting.

It is interesting that most of the replies involve
solitary activities.

Susan, thanks for the links to the CD's. I put one on my wish list.
kayjones
18 years ago
After stress contributed to my Dear Husband's death, I don't stress out any more. If something is weighing on my, I go work in the greenhouse or yard - works for me!
irishdancersgram
18 years ago
I've learned as I've gotten older, I don't get stressed...I don't let things bother me and I'm not even taking happy pills, lol.....
solstice98
18 years ago
quilting and sudoku!

Plus, on the commute to and from work, I listen to books on tape in my car. It gets me to work unloaded from real life stress, and then brings me home to the real world unloaded from job stress.
maryanntx
18 years ago
I don't get stressed. I have a very strong belief in God and I feel no reason to get stressed or to worry. So it doesn't happen. Even with all that's going on with my health, I am very happy.
anneliese_32
18 years ago
I walk, fast and long. It seldom happens now. After 3 cancer operations and chemo I found that most things are not worth it to get stressed out about and my husband's health needs me to be calm.
kathleen44
18 years ago
go for a walk.

Read.

Go out in the car.
glenda_al
18 years ago
a good cry
Vique_Pa
18 years ago
Alone in the quiet with a book and a latte. Of course I talk to the Lord every night and sometimes during the day so stress really have time to build up. Vique
wildchild
18 years ago
I take me time. I usually head for a day near the ocean. A walk near the beach breathing in the ocean air relaxes me. Then I take myself out for a really nice dinner.

If I can't leave the house for some reason I will hunker down in my cave. No phone calls,a good book,no housework or cooking unless it's something for me.

Most important: Learning to let it go. Whatever your religious beliefs the "Serinity Poem" applies to many situations.
OklaMoni
18 years ago
For me, going on a nice long bike ride, is very soothing. Works AWESOME, when I am stressed out.

:)

This doesn't work for most people. ;)

Moni
carol_in_california
18 years ago
I talk to my friends just to vent.....or I go outside and work in my yard or I cook something.
I also listen to Native American flute music and try to float myself on the music notes to a safe and sane place.
intherain
18 years ago
MaryAnn, I love your words. I need to hold tight to them. Thank you! I know you've been through a lot lately.

Sheryl
Granlan_TX
18 years ago
Doesn't anyone have a cocktail or two? I do! :)

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