What a nice and extravagent gift. Take a hint from the cars he reads about or lovingly talks about. Are we talking a new car, a collector's car, or a fixer-upper for a hobbist? This is an area where it is easy to make an expensive mistake. I could name a number of personal 'rides' and so could you. Here's what I suggest. Give him a card with a note describing the gift you wish to give. Name a price range or an upper limit and let him choose the car. He can discuss the purchase with you before you commit to buy.

Great ideas, everyone! Pbrisjar, they wanted to have a BBQ at home too. Now they think it is at their daughter's house. She thinks they will freak out at the cost and they do not intend to tell them. She is letting them think that until a couple days before. They are not fancy, have buried both sets of parents and have more than they need. She's always trying to give stuff away (nieces, nephews, kids, etc.) She is my mother's daughter - "everything should be put to good use." They have a modest home in Mexico and modest home here. When they aren't in Mexico or here, they live on a boat in Canada. They would think flowers were a big waste of money. LOL! A cake may be nice because we all could enjoy but I'm hesitant to ask the restaurant to serve the cake. It's the kids' party and I don't want to seem like I'm taking over, YKWIM? If it was going to be at someone's house, I'd do a cake in a heartbeat. Great idea. As for this couple, they still drive the Toyota they bought (used) when the kids were young (it's immaculate). You could say they live life to the fullest, between their camper and boat, and two *very* modest homes. My sister cuts her hair every three months, so when she cuts it, she cuts it very, very short. :+" My sister thinks my house is fancy and it's always a work in progress. LOL!

Check out the web site linked below; it's all Irish gifts. I ran across it while looking for things to put in my St. Patrick's Day bathroom. And here's a link to Guinness bar stools: http://www.ltdcommodities.com/home/catalog/cat_item_pg.asp?G=561&P=45&Rec=1&Ntt=360062&N=37&Nao=0amp;R=2682 The same place also has a Guinness throw: http://www.ltdcommodities.com/home/catalog/cat_item_pg.asp?G=485&P=105&Rec=1&Ntt=424158%2D4T34&N=37&Nao=0amp;R=15337 Hope this helps! Here is a link that might be useful: Keara's Irish Gifts

You could plan a trip - even if only 50 miles away - to a wine store he hasn't been to. You could certainly have other activities like lunch or a hotel or whatever. But the new wine shop would be the hallmark. You could get a bottle of wine that makes you think of a certain time or place, like where you met or were married. You could take the description of a particular wine and use that to describe your marriage. Compare the tannins in the wine to what seemed like a hard time in your marriage, but a point that really shaped who you are as a couple and has made you stronger, etc., - OK, he'd have to enjoy wine description and have a certain poetic sence to enjoy that one, I must admit, but it could be fantastic.