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Cucumber plants not producing--and I have both sexes and bees!
Comments (3)i'm in same zone as you, and wasn't getting any either, UNTIL, i started pruning them like tomato plants. first i pruned all leaves the first foot and half off of ground to get air flow...and i also pruned all the leaves that showed even the littlest yellow. then a week later..BOOM...all of a sudden, it seemed that all that once were flowers, had fruits, then a week after that, a TON. not kidding. now it seems i have more leaves than before, too, and had to prune a little today, and will do a ton tomorrow too. prune them. ive heard the plant thinks it needs to go to seed right away, after this happens. note however that i have approx 20 plants sharing the same trellis that is six feet long. they need air and space....See MoreSudden Witnessed Death of Spouse
Comments (14)Becky, I've had a tough year too. I get it, but it's time to -- in the words of my late father -- get an attitude adjustment. I hated it when he said that. ;-) I hope you will understand what I am saying and know it not said with judgment, any harsh thoughts or desire to cause you pain. Sometimes there are things e probably already know, but it helps to hear someone else say them. That's where I'm coming from -- with a desire to help you over a hurdle. I see so much to be grateful for and to celebrate in your posts. Isn't it wonderful that you found that happiness and know that life has so much more to offer you than you had before? Eighteen months is not years or decades, but it is hundreds of days -- hundreds of sunrises, hundreds of sunsets and everything in between. And what about the fact that you were married? You may be a widow now, but had you not been married, you would not be next of kin and would have had no legal relationship or rights. He could have just as easily have passed before you were married and you would have had no say on his final affairs. You did say goodbye -- you tried to save him and pull him back, then you laid him to rest when you couldn't. That's more than many people get, Trust me, even when death is years in coming, you don't get to plan the moment or the way you say goodbye. You make the most of what you get and you give what you can for as long as you can. What do you want your late husband's legacy to be? What would he want the gift of his time with you to be? Sorrow? Being oppressed by his memory as you were a previous spouse? Or joy for everyday you had together and the things you know are possible? First tings first -- stop kicking yourself. You are not God. You didn't give him the heart condition and you couldn't save him. You said some things you regret -- doesn't everyone? And don't you think the one who loved you knew that better than anyone? If he didn't then, he does now -- more than you. Most of all, I want to suggest you try to spend some time each day counting your blessings. Maybe first thing over coffee, maybe in the shower or as you get ready for sleep -- it may be the first spring bloom you saw, a favorite tune you heard, a kind word said, a checkout line that moved quickly, that you didn't get any bills in the mail -- or at east anything unexpected, hat a friend shared a happiness with you or you were able to do something for someone else. Find a few new things each day and reflect back on one happiness from days gone by, Say thank you fr each one and don't take them for granted. The events in your life may not change (maybe they will), but how you feel about them will. I bought a greeting card when I was in college and planned to send it to my parents when the time was right. Instead, I enjoyed reading it and still have it. It had a Sandra Boyton hippo on the front and he was saying he was on a new diet. He used to eat when he was unhappy, so now he only ate when he was happy. You open the card and he comments, "I haven't lost a pound, but the change in my mood is remarkable." Loved that card and it still makes me smile. Then try to reach out to others who are lonely or in need of help. There are so many elderly who need companionship, meals or assistance with simple tasks, people who need tutoring. blind people who would appreciate reading books for them or taping them, children and adults in hospitals who are bored or scared, animals in shelters who would love to be touched and loved, walked, etc. You might even decide to adopt a pet and give them a new lease on life and let them give you purrs or wags. Helping someone else up always lifts you too. You can't replace your late husband, but you can lose out on a lot of life and happiness wishing he was there. Instead, take what he taught you and what he shared with you and go apply it in a life he would be happy to be watching you live. Give him that gift - now and should you meet again. I've shed a lot of tears too They are unavoidable, and they can be cleansing. Cry when you have to, but don't let them take over. You were given a wonderful gift. Live thankfully....See Moresudden tomato death
Comments (10)The hoophouse/greenhouse idea is probably the way to go, Ray. I also need some more room, and some flat land...... A small tip - you will find when you get to Armidale that you have to really pounce on the warm weather - though you will have a longer season than here in Tas - I lived in Sydney for twenty years before coming here, and have learnt that when it's time for planting, you plant, or you miss out!! Things don't leap out of the ground the way they do up north/on the coast. Ozmantis - the wet might well be the problem -will have to see how they look tomorrow......very annoying at this time of year, when it is usually bone dry. Ain't gardening grand - always something to complain about - tee hee !!!...See MoreRangpur sensitive to sudden light changes
Comments (3)I had a grow light on it as well, but nothing quite as intense as Steve's ingenious setup. I think there's just so little sun in the winter in the PNW (high latitude plus only 4 full sunny days NOV-MAR this year) that my tree got used to a very low light level and was shocked when it was released back into the wild, with its high light / high wind / night temps dropping occasionally to 40 or so....See Moremullensfuneraldirectors
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