A Sad Birthday

13 years ago

Yesterday, which was my birthday, I received the news that my second "mom" died. She had been taken to the hospital last Tuesday and never came out of the coma. Her son and I had many discussions since last Tuesday when she went on life support. When the EEG came back negative, he did the right thing and took her off. The doctors had put her on life support until they could ensure that there was no hope as they believed she had a heart attack. Not sure that was the case, but once the EEG came back there was no doubt.

Mom had made it very clear over the years she didn't want to be kept alive on machines and made me promise that I'd make sure her wishes were followed. Her son was never really there for her and Dad once he got married and I felt/feel sorry for him.

Leaving this morning to go back to MI for the funeral and help in any way I can. I'm so glad I went back in April and got to see her. I'm sitting here writing this with tears in my eyes. It's going to seem strange now not picking out those Mom cards for Mother's Day, her birthday, and Christmas.

My ex got mad the first time she heard me call them mom and dad, and spouted off the fact that "They aren't your real parents" and how she thought it was disrespectful of me to call them that. My folks understood perfectly and I wasn't about to call them by their first names nor Mr. and Mrs. K. Nope, they were and always will be mom and dad to me.

Rest in peace my dear second parents.

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suzieque
13 years ago
I'm so sorry. The news is bad anytime, but on your birthday I'm sure it hit even harder. I'm so sorry about your "mom". I have a "second mom and dad", too, and I completely understand. Sounds like your "first mom and dad" were lovely and understanding people.

I'm sorry for your profound loss.
jel48
13 years ago
I'm sorry Steve.
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dotmom
13 years ago
Please accept my sincere sympathies. I hope that soon you will be comforted by happy memories of your Mom, and know that her wishes were followed.
Georgysmom
13 years ago
So very sorry to hear about your mom. Have a safe trip and on the way enjoy your good memories...that's what a mom would want.
donna37
13 years ago
So sorry for your loss. Know she will be missed so much.
(((Steve)))
nodakgal
13 years ago
I am sorry. I've always said the more people that love a child the better. There is NO limit on the number of people you can love. I am glad you had such a wonderful second set of parents!
wanda_va
13 years ago
My heart goes out to you, as I know how much it hurts. May you find comfort in your memories and in knowing that her wishes were carried out. She will always remain with you, in your heart. Hugs!
lynn_d
13 years ago
Oh Steve, I am so sorry. Mom's have a love that is so very special...we just passed the first year without mine. My heart sends love to you.
liz
13 years ago
I'm so sorry Steve...the "Mom's We Pick" as our second Moms are every bit as special as our birth Moms and hurt no less when we lose them...my heartfelt sympathies to you...
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13 years ago
Steve, I'm very sorry for your loss of your second mom. My thoughts are with you.
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country_sunshine
13 years ago
(((((Steve))))) I am so sorry for your loss... My prayers are with you.

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alisande
13 years ago
I'm sorry, Steve. You were lucky to have her (and vice versa).
nicole__
13 years ago
(((hugs))) So sorry for your loss...
jannie
13 years ago
I'm so sorry. I had a second and even a third Mom and Dad. My second set were my Godparents, actually my Mom's cousin and the cousin's husband. They passed on in 1975, six months apart. They were like parents to all of us-me and my 3 siblings. When my sister ran away from home, she walked ten miles to their house. My third set was another of Mom's cousins and her husband. We spent every Sunday at their house. That husband passed on just this July. All I have left now are my Natural Mother and My Third Mother.
lydia1959
13 years ago
So sorry Steve.
Granlan_TX
13 years ago
Many blessings to you, Steve; how wonderful for you to be such a big part of her life and "Dad", too.

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donna_oh
13 years ago
So sorry to hear about your mom!

Prayers & hugs for you!

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13 years ago
Well, it truly "takes a village," doesn't it--not just to raise a child, but to be there for others in general.

Next Mother's Day, you might be at the point where you can celebrate her, not mourn her, by doing something that she loved doing--maybe walking in a park, going to the movies, planting flowers, etc.
socks
13 years ago
Deepest condolences. Have a safe trip to MI. Good thing you saw her in April.

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kayjones
13 years ago
Steve, I am sorry for your loss.
lindaohnowga
13 years ago
Adding my sympathies too. I had 2 mothers as well, besides my own dear mother and now my husband and I are "second parents" to our daughter whose biological parents are both deceased. It's what is in the heart, not the blood that matters.
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I am thrilled for you for being blessed with 2 MOMS. I can tell how special she was to you. I will say some special prayers for you. My oldest sister died on my youngest daughter's birthday. I know how difficult it can be..
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13 years ago
(((Steve))) Sending hugs your way in this tough time.
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Linda
kacram
13 years ago
I'm very sorry for your loss. She was lucky to have you
in her life, and you, she!

A Sad Birthday

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