Wow why does it always seem to hit at once?

16 years ago

All these feelings I am having for Sydney.....leaving for college, texted with her tonight she brokeup with her boyfriend

Tan wanting to go to a new school....

Brian I haven't mentioned him but he is not taking his thyroid meds so he is very moody...

And I have been out of my cymbolta *sp* for a month now...need to find a doc here to get a new pres. as mine has expired so alllll these stupid feelings and again me sitting here crying....

I need to be sleeping but I am just cryng instead....I hate this.....Stacy sorry just wanted to vent!

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kacram
16 years ago
sorry Stacey!
Syd will be okay! It will actually allow her to have and enjoy the full college experience. It's tough for them to do the long distance thing. DS is doing that and I think it is holding him back on even going out with the guys.
you WILL find a doc, as you will make your calls tomorrow morning, right? Kick Brian's @$$ and put the pills in front of him tomorrow morn! lol
And tanner, well, you are going to check the school's website for information, and make some calls to the financ ial counselors too! It will all work out! Things will get better!
((((((((Stacey))))))))))))
grinch_gut
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16 years ago
LOL Kat thru tears....I have already laid Brians pills out for him, told my sis I need the number to her doc...and Syd it is still tough on me....My family totally understands as do you all how we were always just butt to butt LOL she never left my side now she doesn't need me!
Tanner yes I will read more tomorrow on the website and we will figure out what is best for him....Thanks so much Kat...I am now turnng this off and will get back on tomorrow when Brian gets in from work...
He says payday he is buying me my own laptop so I can't screw his wk one up anymore LOL Stacy
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Oh, I'm sorry everything seems so tough right now. I had a crying jag a few weeks ago, partly because I worry about dd1 who is staying in India for several months and partly, I'm sure, because of hormones. I'm 49-- are you at that point? I don't mean to offend if you're younger!! Yes, Kat is right on all points, especially pushing you to see a doctor and getting your dh to take his meds. A screwy thyroid can really mess with the emotions. Does he say why he won't take them? There was a long thread about them recently and it was full of interesting information, especially that Synthroid doesn't help some people. We do worry about our little chickies, don't we? It's so easy for me to tell others that all will be well, but I tend to get worked up over my own when I should let them be. How is Sydney liking college so far? I left for a week just after you wrote about taking her to school-- I'm sure she'll have a great time and do well. Sounds like your ds has his feet on the ground and both of your kids are making you proud. I try to remind myself that things usually do look brighter in the morning because I can become more anxious/depressed when I'm tired. I'll make one suggestion that helps me: if you can't sleep, go watch a good sitcom or funny movie! Things WILL look better in the morning.
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Aww Stacy!! Hugs to you.I have been on a crying jag since last Tues when I got all my bad news.I go for more tests on Tuesday so maybe I'll get to feeling better after the results come back.I feel bad for Larry,he looks at me wrong and there go the tears! So don't feel all alone ..we can cry together!
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Stacy. It is difficult to watch that firstborn head off into the world. Just remember that you've laid a great foundation and now it's time for Sydney to grow on her own and gain the confidence and knowledge to mature into her own woman.

When my kids were little I remember someone telling me that my job as a parent was "to put myself out of work." That little phrase has always stayed with me because it's true- your goal as a parent is to raise a child who matures into a strong, independent adult.

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By Tuesday you'll be back on the upward swing. Get the things done that you can.
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Sorry things are looking so down. It will get better.
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Stacy, get back on your Cymbalta as soon as possible. Going off of it will take you down really quick. Our son recently changed meds and I could see the difference in him. Syd will be ok, it'll be rough for both of you for a while, but it's a big transistion for her. "This too shall pass".
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Stacy, see if the church will help pay the tuition. They may. It's worth asking anyway.
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