Rarely, rarely speak on the phone. We keep up via email and through facebook pages.

No I don't. My oldest DD lives about 20 miles from me. We talk about once a week, unless there's something that needs passing on. Maybe from one of the other DD's. DD #2 lives in California, and we usually take turns calling each other about once a month. DD#3 lives 20 miles away also. Sometimes we talk daily for a week or so, then there may be a space where we don't. DD#4 usually IM's me, or sends me text messages. I check them out and keep in touch also on Face Book.
Leslie

Having only "one", our daughter, we converse almost daily, some days several times a day. I can't imagine not being able to talk with her and let her know how much we love her. With all the miles between us, we dont get to see her often....usually once a year, but if there were an emergency, I'd be on the first available flight out of here and up to her.

Nope. I talk to the oldest one about every 3 months, the middle one weekly and the youngest about once every two weeks. They all live over a thousand miles from me. My stepson is currently staying with me, but before that, I talked to him weekly.

Only one child here, too. If I had more than that, and they all called as frequently as she does I wouldn't get a thing done--ever--LOL! don't get me wrong, I love her, and enjoy chatting with her.

But she usually calls me every morning on her way to work and chats for about a half hour. Then, she may call me once or twice during the day. And if we're both watching the same thing on TV in the evening (AI, or America's Got Talent, for example) we end up calling back and forth on the commercials to critique the performances. And we do e-mail stuff now and then, and get together for dinner a couple of times a week (she only lives 7 miles away)

I'm really not sure how that happened. I have never been much of a phone chatter. As a matter of fact, growing up, our 'house' phone was actually my dad's business phone and we were expected to keep all calls short and too the point, so as not to tie it up.

We have four grown children. All the girls are married but our son isn't. I talk to each of them everyday and it is usually them calling me. Two of the girls will call and talk more than once a day. Of course we don't talk for a long time, but we chat about we are doing and what they are doing and what we hope to do. Our kids don't live that far from us at all so we see them at least once or more a week. It is them coming here rather than me going to their home, since I don't drive. It didn't bother me at all when they started leaving home as we kept in touch. The youngest only left home 6 years ago and the oldest left home 32 years ago I think. We get along great with our sons in law too. I am happy with all we do get to do together.

Sue

i talk to my 2 dd's more than my 2 ds'. but spend more time with ds1 since he's the closest. used to talk almost daily to dd1 but her job got more demanding, i let her call me now. dd2 works from home so it's either a fast call or fb. ds2 will be closer (at least to dh) if, when he's laid off, he goes to work at dh's office.

i've never been unhappy they moved out or had empty nesting..we were so glad they all went to college, graduated, and are as independent and happy as we raised them to be...

i am in to "dog house" with ds1... he was out of town and with his new promotion, i hadn't called on my latest medical news (chemo) and he's abit put out, lol (although wants grandma to babysit so he and dad can golf, lol)

Both girls live out of state (but not too far away). Talk to DD#2 almost every day. DD#1 - not so much.

It's a guy thing. My son will talk in person or text me but even when he pops in sometimes we rarely exchange more than a few words. He's always super busy. I don't think I've ever had a phone conversation with him lasting more than 5 minutes.

However he is the first on the scene if he's really needed and has a huge heart when it comes to protecting his family and those close to him.

My DD and I are best friends. I see her often (few times a month) and get invited to go out with her and her friends at times. We talk on the phone about once or twice a week or keep up on Facebook. We don'r really chat unless it about some tv show like Azzalea does with her DD.

I couldn't imagine talking with or seeing them daily. I would worry they weren't leading their own lives without my interference. Sort of reminds me of Everybody Loves Raymond.LOL

I glad my kids are independent and living their own lives. I love being included at times but I feel their independence and cutting of the apron strings is a gold star on my chart as a parent. Makes my heart swell with pride.

I only have one DD and she lives 4 hours away. We talk on the phone 2 or 3 times a week. We also email and use facebook. We each have free long distance so we can talk whenever we want.

Linda

My DS in MI calls at least 5 to 7 times per wk--DS & DD who live in my town call a couple times a day! They're all real chatty! LOL

Donna (^_^)

Talk to DD#1 about twice a week (sometimes less, sometimes more). Talk to DD#@ (step) about the same frequency. DS? He hates the phone! I talk to his DW and talk AT him at softball games! LOL

No....DS lives in Tokyo so the time difference is always a factor. He has never been one to phone just to chat. He calls when it is really important. Like when he worked across the street from the Twin Towers in NYC...he called to tell me he was safe. He called to invite us to his wedding.
He called when his children were born. He called about our trip to Hawaii.
When we do talk, he is very thrifty with his words....he has always been that way.
DD lives about 15 miles away and checks in every week just to say hi and is always chatty. She has always been that way, too.

I think it depends on if your children work. My two oldest daughters no longer work away from home and my youngest is a housewife. When my son doesn't have a job to do, he may call me a couple times a day, but if he is working I probably won't hear from him. So with the 3 girls at home they can call when ever they want. Mostly we use our cell phones. So I think it depends on work and the time you have to chat. They do lead their own lives. They also talk to each other on the phone often, even our son calls and chats with them. So I don't think it matters if you don't talk often or if you talk a lot as long as things are good between you. That is really what counts.

Sue

I talk to my daughter several times every day and to my sons two or three times a week.

DD has her own house and DS lives at home, although I don't actually see much of DS because he works an opposite shift than me and he is a very busy guy. However, DS is the one who talks to me all the time, he is calling, texting and emailing me daily. I do help him with a business that he has, and some of it is about that, but he tends to update me on everything and he always did. DD is more reserved. We email something to each other about every day, but she is short and sweet. Two or three times a week she gives me a quick call and comes by for a visit at least once.

DS is moving out soon too. It's going to be strange not having him here. But he has a rental, and he's going to move into it this summer. It will be strange having an empty nest, in a way. But that's how it's meant to be...

I have a stepson and a stepdaughter with my DH, and they both live quite far away - one in CA and the other in Japan. We stay in touch via email, but not that frequently - maybe once a month for the DSS in Japan. DSD is not talkative.

We have a son together, who is just entering grad school. He will be just 60 miles from home, but I don't expect to hear from him all that often. He does check in about once a month on his own initiative, and he always returns my calls. But we raised him to be an independent functioning adult, and he's flat out busy as a full-time grad student with two jobs. I don't expect him to call weekly.

I love that he's this responsible and independent.

I call my mom about once a month to catch up.

I remember my mother feeling obligated to call her mom every day, otherwise her mom would panic or guilt her into thinking she wasn't being a dutiful daughter. I swore I would never put that pressure on myself - just to make the perfunctory daily call and say nothing's new.

I call when it's been a while and we both probably have things to talk about, or when something important happens and I want her to know right away.

I am also the mother of three, with only the youngest (20 yo son) at home. I talk to my oldest son about once a week; he works at night so we usually talk on the weekend. We have always had a very close relationship and he lives about 10 miles from us.

My second child is a girl and she lives about two hours away. Her work hours are from 10 am - 7 pm which I know she doesn't like but has to put up with for now. She e-mails irregularly, usually very late at night. She lives on a farm with her boyfriend so at this time of year they are extremely busy. I love her and miss her but realize this is a time when I'm not as important right now. She has always been fiercly independant, and I admire that about her.

My youngest is on the autism spectrum, a fella of very few words. He was almost three before he started talking. His grandfather lives far away and just visited a week ago. He was surprised to get in a few conversations, he said that's the most he's ever talked to DS! But I know how the OP feels, I will feel lonely if and when he moves out. Luckily I have lots of friends who have no lack of conversational skills!

My kids live nearby..DD about three miles away and son about 20 minutes. He only calls if he wants something but we see him quite often. Someone is always having a b-day or mothers/ fathers day or other holiday. I see DD a few times a week, don't talk long on the phone to her.

I am the mother of 3 also. DD is eldest at 35, and her brothers are 33 and 30. The youngest lives in NYC and we all live in Southern California. I get frequent phone calls from my youngest and eldest, who are chatty. My middle one is somewhat shy, and though he loves to see us and have a quiet chat, he is not much of a chatter on the phone. So we don't get many calls from him. He lives close to his sister, an hour from us, so we see him often and he will spend the afternoon with us when I am up there if he has time available.

We have 2 sons and a daughter, all out of the house. We try to communicate equally with them, mostly by email. However, these are 3 very different people and there are times when certain items are kept private with each individual, therefore, communications do vary depending on circumstances. We copy all three via email for general stuff, but respect their privacy when one of them wishes to have a private consult.

Sometimes communications is a one way street: messages go out but return messages are sporadic. Our major method of communication is by email, but when we need to consult with a give and take conversation, we revert to the phone - its much faster to get decisions if we can make a connect with a person.

Both of my children live very near to us. DS lives about 7 miles away and I may see him about once a month and talk to him on the phone about the same. We email each other a couple of times a month. My daughter lives about one mile away and she and my two grandchildren are at our house every evening for dinner (give or take a day or two a month). DH and I also shuttle the kids to school and daycare, and I commute to work 3 days a week with my daughter. Love her and LOVE those kids, but sometimes I wish we had more alone time, if you know what I mean.

pickyshopper-- I have one left at home full-time who will be a senior in high school. I think I will be in your shoes when she leaves, unless dd1 ends up back home for awhile before grad school. Do you work? I've been home for 22 years and the thought of going back to work is rather frightening to me. Though it's not pc, those kids have been my life. Dd3 does not like using the phone and isn't much of a talker, so I rather dread the idea her going away; she hopes to go to a school on the East Coast and we live on the West Coast. I didn't finish reading through these posts but may I suggest that if you don't have enough to keep your mind busy, you might consider volunteering with kids. It has helped me!