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I hope he is getting the help he needs.

12 years ago

I live in an Apt Bldg. We have a tenant, a guy in his mid 50's who, when sober is nice and helpful, but when he is off the wagon, which he has been for quite a while now, he is terrible. His Mother lives in an Apt downstairs, and he see's to her needs and meals, but lately his sister, who lives nearby, has taken over most of that. If he just got drunk and made a fool of himself, it would be one thing, but he has taken an intense dislike to a gal in an Apt next to him. She has severe heart problems, and when he went on a drunken tangent he would call her vile names, even went down in the back yard and yelled those names up to her open window. Several neighbors and I have called the people on the board telling them what he has been doing. It seems they havent' done any thing. This past weekend, he was on one of his toots, and he was calling the police...himself. They were here 5 times on Saturday, but being he was in his own Apt, even tho he was soused, they couldn't take him. He kept saying the woman who lived below him had her music turned up too loud....she wasn't even home! On Sunday he began throwing his clothes out in the hall and out his window into the yard. Then a couple of the board members and the local police came out, but they couldn't find him. I said he might be in his mothers Apt, but his sister had taken her out for lunch and they had taken the keys to her Apt, away. Well, it turns out, he still had a key because when his sister brought the mother home, the guy was passed out on the bedroom floor. The police were notified of his where abouts, but nothing was done that day. Turns out that early on Monday, about 2:30 in the morning...I guess he was again calling the police, and the local police and one from the sheriffs office came out and transported him to detox. I told one of the board members that if they didn't do something about this guy, especially his harassing his neighbor with the heart problems, if he caused her to have an attack, she could sue the Deerwood Housing, who has several Apt houses, and they would end up working for her. Now we'll see what they do when he gets out.

Comments (7)

country_bumpkin_al
12 years ago
What a mess! BUT..if he was "taken" to detox, that means he did not willingly go. If he did not willingly go, because HE doesn't see he has a problem, I don't see it helping him..at least not for long. They'll dry him out and send him on his way! About the only way detox/rehab will work is for the person to realize they have a problem and seek help on their own.
jannie
12 years ago
There's only so much police/detox/hospitals can do. I hope he cooperates.
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dotmom
Original Author
12 years ago
Country Bumpkin and Jannie, my thoughts entirely. I come from a family with a lot of alcoholics and like smoking, the person has to be ready to help themselves until a "cure" can take place, and I do know once an alcoholic always an alcoholic, but it can be maintained. I have personal knowledge about that. This situation with our neighbor was getting so, most of us kept our doors locked all the time because sometimes, he didn't know where he was and tried to get into the wrong Apt. I think that if he continues with this behavior when he gets back, and the board doesn't evict hem, they may be setting themselves up for trouble.
whidbeykathy
12 years ago
Help only comes to those who want it. Mandantory detox is usually only 48 hours at most. That is just about long enough to make a alcoholic have a pretty serious craving for a drink.
It seems like management could/should evict him for any number of reasons.
I never lived in any apartment that had a "board". They all had a management company, with one on site manager. When you signed a lease it said they could terminate it for any violations of the rules.
What he is doing is a clear violation of disturbing other tenants,why doesn't he have a eviction posted on his door NOW?!
sjerin
12 years ago
What a sad situation. Sure hope they were able to get all the keys from him. Is the main door into the building locked?
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12 years ago
Yes, we have a panel of people who serve on the governing board, we also have BLDG manager. That is what we don't understand, why he still lives here, but we are thinking that things will get done now after having the police/sheriff here 8 times, total just over the weekend. The main doors, 4, are locked at night. It is a 20 unit Bldg-10 up, 10 down, and for the very most part, has been a nice place to live, with maintenance people coming in to clean common areas and keeping the yard nicely groomed, weekly.
pammyfay
12 years ago
Unless that woman he's been yelling at either calls police or makes a formal complaint to management herself, management can't do anything and the police can't do anything regarding charges or eviction. Only the victim can make anything happen. You can tell management that his actions infringe on your peace and quiet, but she needs to take the formal action. Maybe you should ask the board to call a meeting and call a police or sheriff's rep in to explain what rights you do have in this matter.

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