Lucy I Have 3 Kids. 2 Daughters & 1 son. My Oldest Daughter Is Married With 3 Kids. My Middle Daughter Attends University Of Florida. ~Go~Gators~ She Is Majoring In Pharmacy. My Youngest Son Is In His Last Year Of School. Then Off To College He Goes. ~~~~Yahoo~~~~. Mary The Repairs Your Brother Made For You Really Shows You Your Father In Your Brother. Your Father Pass Along His Good Traits Down To Your Brother. So see, your Father Is Still Looking After His Children. I am So Happy For You And The Repairs. That were Made In Your Home. Chocolate Brug

I remember Sudipav and I am sorry you felt so hurt. We are having a family only to celebrate the fathers, mostly my elderly father in law. Normally we have close friends too, but not this time. The party is planned by the grown grandkids and is supposed to be a surprise. Most of the fathers know, and it seems my sistersinlaw and I are making appetizers and I am also doing the salad. The kids are ordering pizza!

IMO, its still the HUBBY who makes the final choice. Anyone, anyone even his own sister can tell him off and convince him not to pick up his kids. but in the end its his choice. No one elses. So it doesn't matter what a SM or a BM wants. Its the decision of that person. And let me bring another perspective to this arguement. You all are ticked off when a weekend is missed from an already constricted schedual eh..???? WELL WHAT HAPPENS WHEN BM MAKES PLANS ON DADS' WEEKENDS OR CONVINCES THE KIDS ITS NOT A GOOD PLACE TO GO??? Then WHAT? SHE MAKES DAD LOOK LIKE A PUTZ FOR THE LOST WEEKENDS. Its happening now with us. Damned if you do take them, and damned if youdont. Well guess what, i'm keeping a log for the last 2 years now of all the weekends lost with his kids and the reasons behind it. When on misses and why. Whether its a school activities, grandma's bday, cousins bdya party, just not up to it, wants to be with mom that weekend...ALL OF IT!. This way, when bm accuses my dh of it , i will have a record with dates and who showed up and who didn't so she doesn't try any funny business. and even the kdis have lashed out at my husband saying, oh your msising alot of weekends. He said yah, and who';s fault is that? YOURS NOT MINE! you want ot be with your friends, and go party and i call you ever week to know if you are coming...so dont play the tag game on me and try to guilt me. YOU ARE DITCHING ME. Be responsible , accept it and stop blaming others for you actions! And this is what i would say about this situation. STOP BLAMING SM'S FOR DADS DECISIONS. She has an imput but not the ultimate say. I think the mentality of blaming sm all the time comes for the same mentality that kids have the final say in these divorce situation and i cannot stress the fact even more that kids have absolutely no say and power lies between the adults. Between mom and dad. And in the end , a SM can b****ch all she wants, if dad says otherwise, its otherwise. And to add, if dad wants to skip one weekend, its also his right. He can make arrangments to picck them up another time for longer.

I worked at the restaurant cooking for a buffet from 6:30 until 2:30. Now the day is for me to just relax and rest. Hubby will have broasted chicken wings that I had left over from the buffet for supper. I don't think I will eat. It is 92 degrees here in SD.