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My nephew just passed away

14 years ago

Alan finally lost his battle...about 45 minutes ago. He was begging to pass away they said for the last few weeks. He was in such pain...this is really a blessing, he's out of pain. Thanks for all of your thoughts and prayers over the last few months.

Sad day all around today....wow, what a day with Farrah and Michael Jackson too.

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sheilajoyce_gw
14 years ago
So sad to lose someone so young.
Maura63
14 years ago
As frequent it is to come upon such news, it never gets any easier to hear -- my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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intherain
14 years ago
I'm sorry to hear about Alan. (((hugs)))

Sheryl
nodakgal
14 years ago
I am so sorry Vikki.
You never want them to suffer, but I know its so hard to let them go.
Thinking of Alan and his family.
mrsmarv
14 years ago
I am sorry for your loss. May you have wonderful, warm, and uplifting memories of your nephew, Alan.
kacram
14 years ago
I'm sorry for your loss... prayers for your family

Prayers for his young wife and his family...
gingertn
14 years ago
Bless him. I'll keep your family in my thoughts.
Nita__AZ
14 years ago
So sorry for your loss. My condolences to his wife and family.
donna_oh
14 years ago
May he rest in peace now.

My Deepest Sympathies to all of you.

Donna (^_^)
patti43
14 years ago
I'm so sorry, Gwanny2three.
bulldinkie
14 years ago
sorry to hear this for you but..he got his wish..
jemdandy
14 years ago
We all know this is a trying time for you, and we can not know your sorrow as you feel it, but we are with you just the same. Hang in there; take it one day at a time; remember: This, too, shall pass.
gramzeeinmd
14 years ago
My Deepest Sympathy.
Deb
wildchild
14 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy to you and his loved ones.
momrox4
14 years ago
My deepest condolences to you and your family. I pray that you find peace and comfort.
caroline94535
14 years ago
I am so sorry to hear this news. My prayers go out to your entire family.

Alan recently married his long-time love, didn't he? Please let her know that she is in my prayers, too.
sjerin
14 years ago
I'm so sorry for you and all the family, but glad to know he is over the pain and in a very good place now.
jannie
14 years ago
Death always comes in threes. Please accept my sympathy and prayers.
lindyluwho
14 years ago
I'm so sorry. At least the pain is gone. He suffered so long.

Linda
clubm
14 years ago
So sorry for your loss.
Mystical Manns
14 years ago
What a long and tragic road your nephew travelled, Gwanny. Sending prayers of comfort for all of you who loved him. He is at peace now.
trinitytx
14 years ago
You were such a good trooper for him, bless you both. I am so sorry that he lost his battle.

Trin
gneegirl
14 years ago
Such a sad but blessed time. As others have said, Alan suffers no more. My thoughts and prayers include you and your family.

gneegirl
loggerbaby123
14 years ago
my condolences to you and your family. i read your posts, that he was in pain, again im so very sorry.
vannie
14 years ago
I am so sorry for you loss. I know y'all will have a lot of good memories. God bless you all.
frazoo
14 years ago
I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Leslie/KS
helencolby
14 years ago
I am so sorry for your family's loss. Prayers for you and the family.

Helen
kayjones
14 years ago
I am sorry that Alan had to go through this terrible time - please accept my sympathies.
gwanny2three
Original Author
14 years ago
Thank you everyone...he was in alot of pain and it was a blessing that he passed. We all know that he is pain free now and in a good place. It is comforting to know this. He was concerned last night that his truck, that he left his sister was running ok and that their dune buggy they loved to ride together was running too. It's like he was making a check list of things he was worried about. He'll be missed for sure. And yes he did get married on Valentine's Day of this year. His wife never left his side.....very devoted to take care of him till the end.
minnie_tx
14 years ago
So sorry to hear this and blessings on the family. He is surrounded by Love right now.
carol_in_california
14 years ago
I am so sorry to hear of Alan's death. He fought a good fight and now has found peace.
I don't care how many times you say that and how, in your heart, you know he is better off, the pain of losing him is beyond belief.....but then the sadness starts to fade a little and the happy memories take the forefront. May you all heal in your own way and your own time.
And I am sorry he died the same day two celebs did.....all the hoopla MJ and FF receive now and in the years to come just seem to make your loss worse.
I will be keeping you and your family and Alan's family in my thoughts and prayers.
country_bumpkin_al
14 years ago
I am so sorry! Even though we think we're prepared for this, I don't think we are ever FULLY prepared. May all of you find comfort in the memories you have of him!
rthummer
14 years ago
My deepest sympathies - Prayers going up for you and your family.
catlady15
14 years ago
Sorry I am so late.I wanted to let you know I care too.
tralynn
14 years ago
So sorry to hear of Alan's passing. He sure had a long hard fight. His wife must be a real sweetie. Not many could do what she did. May you have good memories to get you through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
Granlan_TX
14 years ago
No one should have to suffer so much...just wrong. :(

I hope the family can find some comfort and peace knowing Alan is no longer in pain.

My condolences.
margad
14 years ago
So sorry to hear this but he is in a better place.
dotmom
14 years ago
Gwanny 2: Please accept my heartfelt condolences on the loss of your Nephew, Alan. Like you said, he is now free of pain. I hope you and your whole family can find peace and comfort in your memories of him in happier and healthier days. (((((Hugs)))))Dottie
millburn_nj_po_mom
14 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss, but he is not in pain anymore (that is what helps me get through the loss of my husband).

Sheryl - NJ
vicki_lv
14 years ago
My deepest condolences. He is truly in a better place if he was in such pain. That is so very hard to watch.
FlamingO in AR
14 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss, and my condolences to the whole family. How sad.
Jodi_SoCal
14 years ago
Vicki, I am truly sorry that Alan had to endure so much, for so long, so early, in a life not yet lived to its full potential. My thoughts are with you and the family. Peace to you all.

Jodi-
missmaggierock
14 years ago
Your family will be in my prayers!
Adella Bedella
14 years ago
My condolences to your family.
Kathsgrdn
14 years ago
I'm so sorry. Sending prayers for your family. I'm glad he isn't suffering anymore.
okwriter
14 years ago
I'm so sad to hear this news. I know he fought a good fight. Rest in peace, young man.

Rita
JoanMN
14 years ago
I'm so sorry, Vikki.
JoanMN
ritamay91710
14 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear about your dear nephew., but glad that he is not in any more pain.
Rita
tami_ohio
14 years ago
Vikki, I am so sorry. Please know that you and your family have my sympathy and prayers.

Tami
luckygardnr
14 years ago
Heartfelt condolences to your entire family.

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