Both these dresses are $159...not as cheap as I'd like them to be.

Mona, I am about 5 ft 2 or 3. Size is going to be a problem! I can wear anything from size 6 to 9 depending on brands it seems like! LOL I am going to email you...the cheaper I find something the better!

I really like them both....the brown one would work for me. Where did you find these? I am sooo sick of looking!

I like the top one better. My mom wore something very similar to Monablair's at my wedding only the wrap was a very sheer floral. She looked so pretty and was very comfortable.

I like them both. Which color looks best on you? I would go with the one with the most flattering color on me. Very pretty.

I like the pantsuit..

I aboslutely love both of them.

I like dresses and gowns for a big occasion...pantsuits are fine if there's a physical problem or a figure problem.

I love Number 1, very elegant. That 3 pc Beige set is to die far.

Gayle

I prefer the subtlety of the second one, but they are both very nice. This sort of thing is so much a matter of personal preference.

Both, but if the BM's ???bridesmaids are wearing black, then I'd go for the chocolate.
I wore a dressy pantsuit and I don't have a physical problem. Just fit the bill!

Vikki here is a link.
DD#1 said she likes this one:

http://www.spiegel.com:80/shop/product_single.aspx?style_id=17130142&index=35&gp_coll_id=5001&gp_cat_id=5002&nav_cat_id=8392&category_id=8394

I think either one of these would look good on me. I am going to wait til the bride gets home here shortly and see what her opinion is! LOL

Here is a link that might be useful: Chadwicks special occasion

If the bridesmaids are wearing black, I think the brown would kinda clash. The first one is very pretty.

I like the black one. Looks really dressy, but #2 is nice, too. Let us know what you decide.

I like these because the wedding is in October and you know me I am cold blooded as all get out! LOL I'd rather have sleeves than the sleeveless dress, if it had a jacket I'd be happy! The bridesmaids can freeze and I don't care, but M.O.B. wants something on top of her skin! LOL
The other outfits all look sorta fallish don't they?

I like them all so I am of no help. LOL I don't know if I would want to wear the same colour as the bridesmaids though. My Mom was 5"2 and she always choses to wear a short length dress to my 4 brother's weddings and she looked great. Mom seemed to disappear whenever she wore a long gown.

My sister wore a beautiful dressy pant ensemble to her daughters wedding and she looked beautiful.

Good luck on whatever you choose, I am sure you will look fabulous.

Anne

LOTS of coupon codes in the link below. Try several to see which work or read the comments left by peeps here. Looks like you could get a very good deal!

Chadwicks has some good codes at that site too - here are a couple of the best ones:
CHMAY50 for 50% off most expensive item when you buy any 3 items.
CHBESTJUNE for $20 off $60 or $30 off $90 or $40 off $120.

Makes me want to go shopping! lol

Here is a link that might be useful: Spiegel coupon codes

The mothers usually do NOT match the bridesmaids... soooo, I would shy away from the black one.

MHO is, not to wear the same color as the bridesmaids. You should have your own special color. What is the other mother wearing? (or do you get first choice?)
There are a lot of nice fall colors, you just have to find one that's good on you. Hunter green? Burnt sienna? Maroon?

The Mother of the Groom died about 3 weeks ago. Its going to be hard for Justin. But I will be the only Mother there.

Now both DD's said they like the dress from Speigel! That one is short and plain!
Urrghhh I have a headache from all these rules! :)

I'd really like to know where to find that black number. Seriously. I would wear it here when I go ballroom dancing, except that I would shorten the hem to mid-calf. It's beautiful and I believe it would be flattering to most women.

If you'd care to let me know, I'd love to order it.

i like the one with "bling" #1...the other just isn't festive enough...i got tired of trying to find this and that, so went for what I wanted and that was comfortable...

so sorry you're going to have to be the only mom...

Thanks Connie...I am going to check them all out. I still like the idea of a dressy pant suit....and I don't think you have to have a a physical problem or a figure problem to wear one. That was a weird commment, I would like to wear one for comfort and practicality, I would most likely wear it again...not the dress because I really don't like wearing dressy dresses. I really like the pant suit Mona posted!

I don't think the brown one will look very nice in the pictures of the wedding party. Not sure if you've found the right one yet......to me, they both look more like cocktail/cruise dresses, not mother of the bride....but I do realize styles have changed since I was last a mother of the bride 13 years ago!!!!

Connie I like the black one! They are both pretty but I like the black the best. I think it would look beautiful on you!
I don't think there is anything wrong with wearing a pantsuit to a wedding.
I certainly don't think you have to have a 'problem' to wear one.
I'd choose a pantsuit anyday over some 'gown' But then I don't do formal stuff and could care less who looks down their nose at me cause I might be in a pantsuit.

I really like the pantsuit. It's very elegant. If you want to give the illusion of being taller, that would do it! Monochromatic.

Thanks everyone!
I still don't know what I am going to do! LOL I am leaning towards the black dress. Both DD's like the one from Speigels.

Urrgh. I am still stuck.

Forgot to say thanks so much Lydia, for posting the discounts!

Connie,...love, love, love the black one! I am only 5'3" and there's no way I could wear that. I'm short enough & I'd have to have all 1 color and wear tall heels (which I can't wear due to inoperable feet) to make me appear a bit taller..or else I'd have to have it shortened to just below the knee.You know, there are some sexy yet very tasteful 2 pc formals that have a long skirt in a chiffon or silk & various styled matching tops (some 3 pc w/a shell & a fitted jacket, that are the same color. If the bridesmaids are all in black-don't discount wearing a pretty jewel tone for fall. A pretty teal green or deep rose-after all you ARE the mom!! Just my opinion of course. Oh..check out ebay under wedding attire-alot of bridal vendors sell stunning outfits on there-at least look for style ideas & brands for some options.

My height is a problem for the length of these dresses. I'm 5'3" also and if I wear a dress to my ankle it looks funny. I need something to hit right below the knees.

They are both pretty but I like the top one better.

I still can't find it on Spiegel's website, and I love that black dress. I want to order it too so I can go dancing in it. I've looked at all their wedding and special occasion dresses.

Sayhellonow, It is on Chadwicks site. Not Spiegel's.

My, what a decision but I really like the black dress. It is gorgeous and if the bridesmaids are wearing black the brown would not look that good especially in pictures.Times are changing and I don't think some of the old rules apply.Just pick the one you like and would be most comfortable wearing.
Lois

Have you checked Macy's and Dillard's online? They have lots.

What color would the bride like you in?

Thank you so much, nodakgal! I'm headed to Chadwick's.

I like the first one.

What helped me decide is the heighth of the heel I was going to wear. I took a pair of shoes that heighth with me when trying on dresses. To the floor was out for me as I'm 5'4" and it looked funny like I was hiding. I ended up with an ankle length.
Even if you don't buy it, go to a shop(s) and try similar outfits on that you like at Chadwicks or Spiegels and determine the style. Just tell them you want to try diffrent styles and then you have to think about it. That is not a lie.
I preferred not to order as I wanted to see the material and how it hung and the color as to how it complemented my olive skin color. That's how I decided on the length and style by trying on all kinds of dresses. With your size, I'd wear what I felt comfortable in, pantsuit or dress.
I would not go with the brown for a wedding. That's just me but it is a dreary drab color to me.
Hope you find the perfect one to wear.
Lynn

I like them both but the first one is so nice. What do you think? Which is your favorite or feels more like you?

DD doesn't care what color I wear.

I think I like the first one best, the black one. I love the brown too but with the black dresses I'd rather match then clash! LOL

There is an excellant and very reasonable seamstress in town, I can have her do anything to the dress I need done, I was a little worried about the length too. She is doing alterations to the brides dress also.

Neither DD likes either of these dresses though, so dang it I guess I shall wait. I just don't know when I will get to a big town and have the time to try on 20 dresses and I know IF I do it will be all in ONE day because there will be 40 other things we need to do that day we are there.

Sounds like it is going to be a sad day for the groom with his Mom passing away. Somehow I don't think I would be too concerned about what I was wearing knowing what your future son-in-law must be going through.

By the time the wedding is here, it will be 5 months since the groom's mother's passing so I hardly think it would be doing her memory justice by putting on the sack cloth and ashes. It's a wedding.....it's supposed to be a joyous occasion. Of course his mother will be missed but I doubt she'd want it to be a sad event.

So Connie, have you located anything yet? I love seeing what you're leaning toward.

There will be a special remembrance poem and flowers for his mother at the wedding.

Jen I gave up. Neither of the DD's liked the first two and I didn't like the one DD liked so I gave up.

I HAVE to take a day and go shopping here like soon!!! I certainly dont want to wear jeans! LOL (but they'd be real comfy)

I hope sometime after the 4th I can sneak away.

Connie.. you could go with the last one, and add a really fancy, or embellished bolero/shrug/fine knit cropped sweater. If you cant find a fancy one, you can get a plain one and embellish it.

All of the ones shown are very pretty. I did a little search, but no fall colors right now. Maybe in a month or two.

the link below shows a really fine spun/woven knit.

then here are a couple... things too

http://chicforless.net/product/1/41/Embellished-Cropped-Cardigan.html

http://www1.bloomingdales.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=80677&CategoryID=2910&PartnerID=SHP&cm_mmc=PMD-_-NexTag-_-Product_Terms-_-Sutton_Studio_Exclusive_Shrug_Misses'

Here is a link that might be useful: cute georgette dress... But the shrug is what I was looking at. you could really add something special to the neck and front borders on this

I love the brown one! And brown is a hot accent color used in lots of weddings now....Stacy

are you close to a tj maxx? m-o-g friend just stayed in the store till she found something, lol...in fact had to have 2 outfits as the rehersal dinner they hosted, turned into a hall affair...

I LOVE the first one. Really.

I know how hard it is to find something "just right". Been there, done that, in April 2006.

I was in contact with the mother of the groom, and she was going for dark green.

I ended up with light blue.

Don't know, if I will ever wear it again...

Very pretty Moni!

I would love to have the information for the outfit that Monablair posted. I tried to email you but it doesn't seem to have gone through. We live in NW FL and our daughter will be getting married in Oct., your outfit is lovely and just what I have been searching for. I hope you do not mind my asking or asking on Nodakgal's thread. I joined Gardenweb a few years ago but mostly lurk, it is my treat to myself most days.
Pat

Pat

Lovely family, Moni! I just had to laugh at the sour look on the groom's mother's face... My MIL did the same thing in all of our pictures. Pity.. I hope your daughter has it better than I did. Boy, if I could go back in time, knowing what I do now!...You all look beautiful though! Nancy

grandmapat,
Lots of members asked for this website so I'm posting it The company's shipping is quick and they are good about returns. I've ordered several things from them and have been very pleased with the item and the service.

Here is a link that might be useful: mother of the bride outfit

Monablair was kind enough to email me the information and I ordered two colors, we'll see what works. It was wonderful to come home after shopping all day with no luck to see her email.

Pat