Here goes.
My son about a year ago who had been married 19 years and with three children started this affair at work with this woman. He went head over heels with her (everyone said he was going through a mid life crisis) and she supposedly too. He got a divorce before this woman did, and she moved in with him in his house and different town. (she lived in a different town than my son and she was born in and raised in the same town all her life) It was pretty far from her own family, and lifelong friends. To make matters worse in my eyes, she moved in the house that my son's ex wife and he had shared for 19 years. This woman and my son finally got married this past May in a private cermony on top of some mtn. with only their children in attendance. I did not like the way everything went down and in the beginning I told my son that nothing good could come of being deceitful. (I am talking about the affair) Eventually, I tried to be supportive of my son and this lady; I figured they were going to do what they were going to do. It was best for me to make the best of what to me was a bad situation. From the beginning I felt this was doomed,but I prayed things would turn out for the best. But, yesterday I saw a crack. My new daughter in laws dog got killed by a pit bull they were dog sitting for her son. Now mind you, her dog was chained up outside (no, they have no fence as my son and his exwife did not have animals, as they are very close to a busy road) along with this pit bull. The pit bull broke its chain and went over and attacked her dog of 10 years and killed it. This dog that was killed was the sweetest. I had met her dog and it was a sweetie!!!! But, getting back to this story, there are several things that are under my craw right now. Number one....my son is giving 2,800 dollars per month is child support plus responsible for all medical for the children. That does not bother me, it is the right thing to do. But, that leaves him very little monies to live on and this lady knew that from the beginning. She has complained about not having alot of money to me. Plus she told me his ex wife and her family are harrassing her (new wife) and my son, as her parents (ex wifes),and ex wife live maybe 1/2 mile from my son and his new wife. She knew that too, as they lived together almost a year before they decided to tie the knot....Yesterday, after the dog was killed she called me and was crying and told me that she could not do this...(I was questioning if she talking about her marriage, but did not ask her) she started naming different things she did not like...her cat got killed the first week she was there, and it broke her son's heart. (O.k. if you know you are moving to a busy road do you let the dang cat out of the house???) But yet she was insiuating it was my sons fault. Her dog getting killed...(o.k. I wanted to ask why would they EVER consent to keep a dog that she nor her son (that owns the dog) knows about...just one he found...(talking about the pit bull) Plus they had to chain the dang dog up. I do not believe in that and think it is cruel...I may sound insensitive right now, but I believe if you really love something and KNOW you do not have the facilities to keep an animal why be SO DANG SELFISH and keep the animal???? Love the animal MORE than you do yourself.. that is the way I believe. I have had to do that when I was younger and first starting out in life, and yeah, it killed me, but I KNEW that my dog was better off and that is what mattered. Also, she said that her youngest son did not like it at my sons house...thought it was haunted. (what????) She did not like the color of the house...this is what came spewing out of her mouth when she called yesterday to tell me about her dog. I felt bad for her truly, but am flustrated when I think all this was sooooooo unnecessary. I had even told them when we went to visit them before they were married that her dog needed a fenced in yard and not chained up to the back porch. I wanted to call animal control, but I did not.. My son KNOWS BETTER! He was not raised like that!!! Also, she said she was tired of being away from her family and did not know anything about how to relate to my sons girls as she had always had boys. (They come to my sons house every weekend) She told me she could not do this...my question is what can she not do?? What was she talking about? She said that several time..I am questioning what she means.... the marriage, what??? I have tried to call them but they are not answering their phone. Help me sort all the emotions and thoughts. Please give me advice, help..I have been crying on and off since she called me. My son at one time was a responsible,God fearing man...but when he reached 45 he bought a sports car, got botox (no kidding) started working out and got buff.....then got himself this woman. I think he went off the deep end!! Oh yes, another thing...I think was dumb of both of them...went on a Honey moon a GRAND honey moon to Italy..but yet do not have enough money to take care of their dog a fenced in yard. Am I being petty? Please tell me..I will not be offended by your comments.I just need advice and a shoulder to cry on.
If I have made typo's or rambled please forgive me.
azzalea
suzieque
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