Guests who say... nothing.
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Comments (24)I wonder if some people who say things like that, in their minds, are just trying to be helpful, rather than critical. They may have no idea they're being critical. I know a couple of people like that. My co-worker/boss constantly second guessed everything I did when I was re-modeling my kitchen, and she continues to second guess everything I or anyone else does, asking "why'd you do that?" and sometimes following up that question with, "That doesn't make sense." I've gotten to where I rarely tell her anything about what I'm doing. DH has a friend (not my friend, though - I can't stand him) that came to visit our place in OK while we were working, and working hard on the property, and started in on what we should do with the place, including getting rid of a giant magnolia tree that's a little close to the house. I love that tree. I know it's probably too close to the house, but not that much too close. It's one of the reasons I bought the house. That wasn't the only thing he criticized, or offered advice about. I don't remember what the final straw was, but at one point I just walked away, went to another part of the property to do some work, and didn't reappear until he was gone. I don't think he's trying to be critical, but helpful - it just comes across as critical. It's really, really annoying, though. Sally...See Moreguests who just won't leave
Comments (10)IMHO, although it's honest, I can't imagine asking a guest to leave. The guest is there because s/he's happy to have been invited and is still having a good time! Being asked to leave, however tactfully, is still going to make the guests feel they've overstayed their welcome. (When I've seen this done, the guests start apologizing and obviously feel bad about it.) It seems like an unhappy way to end a fun evening. I'm not sure the obvious-but-indirect approach is any better, unless it's a tradition of sorts or the guests know ahead of time this will be the signal the party's over. I've found one solution is to talk to a good friend, and ask him or her to go around telling everybody good-bye, mentioning how late it is and how tired s/he is, etc. That will usually get the ball rolling, but there are always a few who don't clue in... maybe that's the time for the honesty! For me, changing the mood works because the guests feel THEY have decided it's time to go home. Cheers, from SwampWitch...See MoreGuests say they're bringing their unruly dog!!
Comments (21)The only place we bring our dog is when we visit my in-laws, but they live 2+ hours away, so even visiting for the day would mean WAY too much time for our dog to be left in our house. BUT, our dog is extremely well-mannered and not a shedder, so neither his parents nor his sister minds that our dog comes along-- in fact, his sister and her family enjoy it because it's a chance for their own dog to have a "puppy play date." If we were visiting friends more locally, we leave her at home and plan our day accordingly. However, if there were a situation where our dog wouldn't be welcomed and leaving her at home wouldn't be feasible, we probably wouldn't go... kenneling is a last-resort-emergency option for us, and we'd rather not subject our dog to that kind of stress. With that being said, the only dogs I WON'T allow in our house are males who have a tendency to "mark territory" (happened once-- never again!)... but we have a VERY large crate that we keep on-hand, so if our guests' pooches need to be in it, they can be put in it. Problem solved. Like others have said, it can't hurt to ask first re: whether or not your dog is welcome for a visit. But the reverse is true-- if you (the homeowner) are asked if it's OK and you fail to assert yourself, then your annoyance at the unwanted houseguest is no one's fault but your own....See MoreFinally a CL score! And who says it just has junk?
Comments (14)Yay! Good for you. I had a similar experience recently. I looked at the photos of a house sale happening near me. I saw a fireplace screen that looked like it might work, so I drove over and within half an hour, it was sitting at my fireplace!...See Moredianalo
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