Photos, Revisited (aka Ad Nauseum)

serenity_now_2007

17 years ago

I just arrived last night for a week-long visit at my Dad's, and I almost just have to laugh at the latest twist (and 'twist' really is the word) on The Photo Issue.

As many of you know, there's this issue with my SM taking down photos of me and these photos ending up "in That Somewhere Place" (which is usually the attic, or the basement, she doesn't have the balls ----YET---- to throw them in the trash). As of yet, I've not said anything about it (lest *I* be accused of being petty or starting trouble), but I'm pretty sure she still knows it bothers me. I think she perceives me as taking her up on her petty 'tit for tat' game when I give my Dad any new photo of me, or when I (as on one recent visit) take HIM up on HIS asking to get some frames for these (and other) photos to be able to display them properly.

So, seeing as she knows that I am bothered by her insistence on removing these photos, even though I don't say anything about it, I find her latest 'twist' on passive-aggressive surface cooperation pathetically humorous: instead of opening herself up anymore to the possibility that I will someday say something about being upset by the removal of any of my photos, and in order to pre-empt any LITERAL grounds for me to be upset, she's now changed tactics a bit. Here's the latest version: instead of REMOVING the photos of me from the room altogether, she now simply COVERS them over with pictures of herself and/or herself and my Dad together via tucking them into the same frame. Not only does this look ridiculous (because you can still see my forehead sticking out the top of the frame from behind her photo), it takes both pettiness and symbolism to crazy new levels. But she's onto something, it's true: I can't complain that she's REMOVED the photos of me!

LOMFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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sweeby
17 years ago
Good grief!

You could take your graciousness to the next level by buying a frame for her pictures and quietly framing them for her - "Surprise!"
serenity_now_2007
Original Author
17 years ago
That's a perfect idea. On a practical level it would solve the obvious frame shortage they've got, hopefully send a subtle message that "there's room for everyone"/"everyone can be honored with their own special frame", and ---at least as far as I'm aware--- there's no possible offense that could be taken from it. Thanks for the tip!
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ceph
17 years ago
LOL - I like Sweeby's idea too!

She certainly sounds like a piece of work...
*sigh*
kkny
17 years ago
My heart goes out for you.
silversword
17 years ago
Oh my goodness Serenity!

I like Sweeby's idea. Buy ones with words on them, like love, friendship, etc... then do it when she's not looking. I wish I could be a fly on the wall!
sweeby
17 years ago
Of course, she'll line them up directly in front of yours, but hey, what's a girl to do?...
mom2emall
17 years ago
I would make sure to buy frames that say "daddy's girl" on them for your pics to go into! Oh wait...she might weasel her way into them! Maybe you should just stick with frames that say "daughter" on them! Perhaps you could superglue to frames closed so she can not open them to rearrange pics! HAHA!
imamommy
17 years ago
lol, I was thinking it would be better to get her some "worlds greatest stepmom" frames for her picture.
mom_of_4
17 years ago
I love the idea of buying frames and framing up her pictures and I've got to say I love the idea of buying worlds greatest sm ones... talk about passive aggressive fight :-)
mom_of_4
17 years ago
btw I hope the visit with dad goes well... I know your days with him are limited
doodleboo
17 years ago
YUCK! I hate passive agression...how can you defend yourself when the person isn't technically "attacking" you. BLEECH!

I think you should do what IMA said. Get A "WORLD'S GREATEST STEPMOM" frame except heres my twist...get your hands on a pic of her and photoshop her head on a donkeys body and then give it to her as a CHRISTMAS GIFT....LOL!!!!
finedreams
17 years ago
I have a frame that says LAUGH. Buy that one for SM. hahaha
serenity_now_2007
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17 years ago
You guys are funny... great ideas, especially the captions: "Laugh", etc. (I think "Laugh" is my fave...)

I appreciate the words of support... there are times when things get so wacko that you'd think you were losing your mind, so admitedly at those times every xtra bit of validation helps a lot.
justnotmartha
17 years ago
Sweeby - you are just too good!

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