I'm very fortunate that Mum will accept help from people, but she suffered a stroke and couldn't "work" her left side, so help was REQUIRED. And she was aware enough to know it. She has a tub in her bathroom. When she came home after close to 10 weeks in the hospital and two rehabs. we'd changed out the shower head for a shower massage, gotten a shower seat, installed handrails, put the arms on the toilet. I hired a woman to come thrice weekly to assist her with bathing. She went from the strict supervision of the NH to a private aid and there was NO FUSS. In fact, she LOVES the attention. Try the bath again and tell her it's a luxury to have someone help you bathe... all the great queens throughout history have had bath maidens... ;) The woman who comes to help Mum is very nice... chitty-chatty, efficient, and very patient. Whenever there is a Monday holiday I offer it to her. If she takes it, I pay her for it. She's earned that. We got off to a bit of a rocky start, but once I reminded her of what I expected, she did it. Reliability is worth a lot.

Almost all my ceilings are painted Navajo White. I know that's not one of the new choices but just mentioning I've seen the color IRL. I have samples of Muslin and Natural Wicker. I like both colors but if my memory is working right, the Muslin has red in it which I remember seeing a slight pink tone when looking at painted poster board sample. Out of all the samples I tried, this one really looked pink to my eye. Natural Wicker was nice but was too light. I ended up actually not even using that room right now and when the time comes, I'm going to use Manchester Tan - which I know is darker than what you're talking about here. The room also gets lots of sun. I would definitely check out the paint samples in the room. A nice neutral you might consider checking out is SW Aria Ivory (it's a retired color). Miss Mustard Seed used this in her house and I really liked the sample I bought. If you look around on her blog more, you'll see a lot more photos of this color than what's shown in the link. Here is a link that might be useful: MissMustardSeed blog - aria ivory

"What often happens with bad fathers is that they just don't see the kids, or see them very infrequently. Although it is sad, sometimes it could be a blessing. It seems that some bad mothers still want to see the kids (for number of reasons like moms are pressured by society to be involved...). Sometimes I think it would be better if they do not see them and just stay hands off as uninvolved fathers do. I think there is less pressure in our society for fathers to be involved. I always knew number of divorced women whose exhusbands had minimal if any involvement with kids and nobody seemed to be surprised. Normally if dad does not care about child's well-being, he would not bother with visitations(and it could be for the best). Horrible mothers would insist on visitations and then just damage the child." It was a blessing to ME that my two younger kids' fathers were not involved. With my oldest, we had years of court battles, attorneys, bickering over stupid stuff, counseling for my son, etc. It was so horrible, I was thankful my younger kids didn't have to go through what my oldest did. There were definitely behavioral problems with my oldest but not with my younger ones. Today the younger ones are 20 & 21. Both have bad feelings about their fathers not being in their lives or seeing them. Both have tried to reconnect & it's been very difficult... on BOTH sides. It's difficult for the parent that chose to stay away for years, most likely because he feels guilt. My son's father blames me & says it is MY fault he didn't see him. My son knows how supportive I have been of him trying to get his father to be in his life. Heck, he was 16-18 when I finally got the court to order a DNA test that finally proved paternity before his father would have anything to do with him. Still, my son was willing to start fresh but all he got for Christmas this year was a text message saying "hope you have a good Christmas". It's very hard on my son, he admits to me that he has trust issues that are affecting his ability to have relationships. My daughter has also gone through difficulty. Her father, when they talk, can't stop apologizing. She says she doesn't want to hear his apologies, she wants him to start getting to know her so they can move forward. But, a few times he has abruptly stopped contact, which leaves her hurt & she doesn't trust him. From what he's told me, he feels guilty but it's too hard for him to face her after all these years. So, I disagree that it's better if a parent stays hands off or is uninvolved.... unless the parent is a criminal that would endanger the child. Both of my kids' fathers married & had a family with their wives. They chose to raise kids, just not see these ones. That's probably why it strikes a nerve with me that BM went off & had another baby with BF & is not very involved with her DD. It would be easier for US, peaceful for US, better for US... but it devastates the child & creates issues for the child to have to deal with. I don't think it makes too much difference whether it's a father or mother, IMO. However, I would agree that society is less harsh on a man than a woman... but women are supposed to be the nurturers that carried the baby for 9 months, felt him/her kick & gave birth.

if I am seeing yellow or seeing more gray and the more gray the more blue or green the color appears. ..... to you. That's the actual color appearance according to your color acuity which is defined by the context your viewing the color and the lighting where YOU are. Some people would describe how those colors actually look to them the same as you - they would agree. But some won't. Because they're viewing the colors in a different context and lighting than you. For example, comparing Extra White or Rhinestone to Lily White makes it easy to see why they belong to the Green-Yellow and Green hue families respectively. In context of a color that is factually blue, they are unlikely to look blue. We have to leave room for how other people see color in their actual space - which is different from you. Acknowledging that actual color perception is different from factual color, not only leaves room for everyone's perception of color but it also provides an elastic framework to manage the fact that color appearance is not static. How Jennifer sees color is actual color. It's a real. A completely validate-able and worthy of acknowledgement thing. LCh is the factual color framework we use to manage the diversity in color acuity person to person, context to context, lighting scenario to lighting scenario.