Thank you, Kathy! :O) Thanks, pagan, I was definitely in the right place at the right time! Thank you, Valerie, you ain't no slouch yourself! lol haha, Carol, thank you but if you saw how many times I hit the delete button on the camera, you'd think differently! haha, Hamp! I know where you're coming from! When I was a kid, I jumped out of the back of Daddy's truck in the watermelon patch, and I didn't look first - landed smack dab in a bull nettle. Ouch! Thanks, buddy - I like that peaceful pond, too. My friend is getting that one for her boys' room. Aw, Joe, wow, that was really sweet, and I thank you so much! I'm so glad you enjoyed it - it makes me happy to know you did when your photos bring me such joy. Thanks, twohuskies. I haven't seen too many cactus flowers myself, and really enjoyed these. I really like the way the unopened buds look - they remind me of St. Basil's Cathedral in Red Square! Sis

There's nothing sibling rivalry about her bahavior. The resentment, embarrassment, and other feelings described here concerning a much, much younger sibling is nonsense, justified as normal or legitimate because they had no one to tell them their feelings were wrong. People think and feel all kinds of things, but just because it's the way one feels doesn't make it right, hence there is murder and much other wrongful doing in the world. If they had someone to set them straight, the subjects would never have entered into your thread as anything of concern or consideration. Given any opportunity, I think your SD will abuse the baby - smack him, pinch him, or anything she can do to make him cry, if not *accidentally* drop him - because she lives in a very dark place mentally and emotionally, and she wants the whole world to be as angry, sad, and unhappy as she is. For him to think it nothing more than sibling rivalry is turning a blind eye. He needs an intervention to make him realize and understand the damage he's doing his daughter, and therefore his marriage and his son. You might talk to a health care professional and tell them the same as you've told us (and everything you haven't told us). Then, ask them to help you talk to your husband. I know you don't want to leave, but I'm truly impressed you are seriously considering it as more than just threatening in order to get your way. I don't know how the women who threaten end up feeling when they don't get their way and don't leave either. You can't keep being walked on like this, but he isn't going to listen to you. He isn't going to do any more than he has been doing no matter how much you threaten. It might take you leaving to get his attention, and then you can demand he go with you to talk to the professional. You might demand it before leaving but if he refuses, then you have to walk out the door, realizing it is likely forever and no amount of tears and begging you to come back can change your mind unless he changes his. If you don't leave, then please don't leave the baby with him when you go back to work. He has a cautious mother to protect him right now. Who will protect him when you're gone? His father never will believe there is any danger or concern.

Hair spray actually used to be dangerous. The propellant used was vinyl chloride. It was hardest on barbers and hairdressers since they were around it all the time. The danger was a significantly increased risk of liver cancer. I think the show I watched was called the Chemical Revolution. There was also something in maybe the hair dye?? that caused a surprisingly high rate of bladder cancer in hairdressers. (Obviously this is not a commonly occurring cancer.) Here is a link that might be useful: PBS link about Hair Spray Propellant

Everything else will look so great no one else will notice it. It's not worth losing your mind over it or redoing the whole vanity. Maybe this will make you feel better Why wouldn't the builder,who was also lived in this house before us, at least have had that sidesplash go out as far as the counter top so you wouldn't have 2 jogs in the door trim. Also why wouldn't he have moved the sink further down from the wall and doorway when he had a 111" of length to work with? I will be redoing this hall bath one of these days and correcting both mistakes. But in the 14 years we have lived here no one including family members has ever commented on either. Can't wait to see you finished bathroom.