Eloped....now what about the reception?
My husband & I just recently decided to go off and get married, instead of trying to have a big wedding, we have family on opposite sides of the country. We didn't want to spend a lot of money, nor did we want to cost our family & friends any money. We have lived together and we don't need or want any gifts. But, we would like to have a backyard BBQ at our home in honor of us getting married. We would provide soft drinks and all the food, would it be inappropriate to do all this ourselves? Or should be ask the guests to participate and maybe bring a side dish? Also, would it be rude to possibly tell our guests on the invite that if they would like any alcoholic beverages that they can bring them to the BBQ? I would like this to be a simple & laid back, but nice affair, and don't want to seem tacky about it.