Sounds to me like dh is jealous of your independance. You put up with him and all he wanted for quite a while and dealt with all the drama with his children and had to take it. Now your doing something for you. Maybe he is now afraid that you will get away from it all and realize your okay without him (not that you don't want to be with him).

I say good for you. Worry about yourself for once, you deserve it. I have a friend that did the travel nurse thing and she absolutely loved it!!

Thanks,

I am really looking forward to seeing some new places especially in thinking of the kind of areas and communities I'd like to retire in. It will be a good opportunity for us to scope different places out prior to retirement time. And I'd like to get an assignment near my family too as I miss my son too.

ON the upside I have to say my SS28 is definately making more of an effort this time to be sensitive my place in this house. He is picking up ater himself and G-son and tonight I made him & my younger S-son dinner. I don't cook often just for me but they were all here so I made a meal.

He cleaned up all the dishes and pan and thanked me and told me how good the meal was. I really appreciate that. It's amazing how just knowing something little you did is appreciated.

STILL don't want this to be a long term thing with them living here but since I am living with them a lot more than DH it is nice when we all appreciate and treat each other respectfully. I am not heartless and remember very well how hard it is to be a single parent and I do want to help but I don't want to be taken advantage of or feel unappreciated. Mainly I wnat them to be successful self supporting adults. Anyway, this was good today.

I really hope DH becomes more positive about my taking a travel positon, not only will it just be good for me, but perhaps he will realize I don't have to stay with him out of necessity, but I'm married to him because I love him and want to be with him, things might change for the better. Or maybe I am living in a dream world, who knows.

Sounds to me like you're living your own life now -- not living in the background of his life. And this is what has him nervous. You are pulling away -- not in a nasty way, not in a destructive way, not in a retaliatory way. But he's losing 'control' of you, or whatever 'control' he thought he had, and that's making him nrevous. It sounds like he's wondering if you've got 'one foot out the door' and is going through the process where he realizes he can't just take you for granted. That if he wants you to be truly his wife, that HE has to do something different to keep you. That it's not a completely 'done deal'.

I think it's Sylvia who says that women believe what they hear and men believe what they see. He clearly didn't hear you when you told him how you felt about his kids moving into your home. But now he sees that you meant it.

To me, this all sounds very positive, and I'd say "Keep up the good work!" Personally, I commend your guts and initiative for taking this job. It sounds like just the kick in the pants your marriage needed.

Thanks!
Sometimes I can't even believe I'm doing it!

Another push in this direction, I went to work today and the totally screwed up my schedule and didn't give me enough days to qualify for benefits gave me 7 instead of 8 promised then told me if I wanted the 8th day I'd have to either give up one of my weekend off days or do a midnight shift. Umm, nope don't think so. No wonder they can't keep nurses they promise a set schedule then change it without even asking.

I took it as a sign that I am headed in the right direction. Told DH what happened-I was really mad plus they didn't need me today and I was on the schedule so I drove there for nothing. I asked him if he would come visit me on my assignment and he said of course he would.

Maybe this will be good on many levels. I am a bit afraid (don't know why?) I hope it is a new beginning for us rather than the beginning of the end.