Boopster, I'm so so sorry. I was hoping he would be ok. I'll be praying for you. I know it is so hard on you right now. I lost my collie of 10 years in 2005. I got her when I was only 7 and we grew up together. I was her favorite person and she was my favorite dog. I use to carry her to my grandparents house and she would stay right with me and not run off. It killed me when she left this earth. I loved her so much. She had a tumor the size of a huge cantelope on her stomach and it ruptured. I miss her everyday... there will never be another one like her and there will also never be another one like your special 'BOB.' I'm so so sorry. GennyM.... You may have already read this or have it, but after my collie 'Monzaya' died I printed this out and kept it. Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals that had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.... Author Unknown

I would suggest two or three things 1- get her to a doctor. Have her hormones checked out and see if she is menopausal or depressed. 2- go to counciling. I realize your son is in Iraq and this is scary. However, I'm sure he would rather have his parents working on their marriage here rather than worrying about him over there, particularly when you can't do anything about what is going on over there. I would also suggest to consider this: in some ways it sounds like you are looking at this like you are this great guy that doesn't have any problems. I imagine many of your friends and relatives do the same. Good Kevin is this great guy. I'm married to a man that everyone else says 'what a great guy'. My parents love him, my family love him, my friends think he's great. He can do no wrong. Where does that leave me? In the wrong. Even if that isn't really true and that there can be two rights it is human nature to look for an opposite. So if you are truly the great guy you paint yourself to be, then maybe she's looking at herself and saying 'where do I fit in? Where does this leave me?' Let me explain a bit further (I tend to post long sorry)- When my husband does the dishes I hear from my mother "that John is such a good guy". But when I do the dishes nightly, I hear-- nothing. John is good with the kids, I'm their mother. John is a good dad, it's expected I'll be good with the kids, I'm around them all day and I know them. And so on. I am not saying this is your case or not. I am just saying that this might be worth looking at (in counceling even) and realizing that maybe she's 'trying to find herself' because of this type of input from you and everyone around you. Good luck. Ginger

OK ladies...I need some help here. I am not married, but have been in a relationship for 14 months and we live together. I have had a problem in the past of sending suggestive messages to women online. Recently I sent a message to a girl I knew from a bar that I used to go to alot. Haven't seen this girl in probably 2 years or more maybe and were just friends and not very good friends at that. One day while she was away with her daughter at a gymnastics meet, I sent a suggestive message...which was never answered...My GF has looked through my phone on several occasions looking at who I talk to (when we first started seeing each other I was chatting with an old friend I hadnt seen for 20 years...I was very wrong in what I did there and it stopped well before she ever found it on my phone) I have messaged friends and said things that she thought suggestive and I should have worded my responses better. for instance, a friend was at a bar drinking and instead of saying as she says, I am with mhy GF I can't, I said wish I cold join you, but maybe another time. I honestly didnt mean anything by that as we had only been friends and that was it. another instance was I am in fantasy football and one of my leagues there is a girl, a friend for over 2 years and she has been seeing a friend of mine. she was new to the sport last few years and often texted me for advice. Once week while I was going to play versus her team, I reponded 'I'm gonna eat you up" - I am a former semi pro footbal player and that's just how trash talk goes...meant nothing suggestive at all...in hindsight, I now see that maybe my responses could have been much different. the message the day of the gymnastics meet was back in October...I haven't done anything since then but she still constantly monitors my facebook messaging. I honestly have not been chatting with anyone at all. I rarely even get on there at all. she see my messnger getting logged into and will send me messages to see if I will respond. sometimes I never get them because I am not even on there, or I will get them much later and respond to her. I just thought that my chat being logged in on FB was the reason. come to find out it is the Messenger App that has always been logged into on my conmputer and on my phone....I NEVER use it..but because of the thing last Oct...she doesnt believe anything I say and is even questioning a long lunch I had with my boss where we we drinking...which is what I told her I was doing. Please, please what can I do...she is going to leave me and she is newly pregnant with my child and I love her so much..I need help to try and get her to let me back in and re-gain her trust.. I am just lost and so sorry for all I have done wrong to her. but I really do love her and want to Marry her. I have been true to her 100% except the messages I spoke of and maybe a few others that I unintentionally said the wrong thing.... HELP!!!

Thank you all so much. This certainly isn't the first time I've gone thru this and it won't be the last. I believe I have lost 10 or 11 pets in my lifetime and it never gets any easier. Even tho I have five remaining indoor cats, this guy was special. I got him from a friend over 19 years ago. She saw an abused kitten and took it home. When she went to have her neutered she was already pregnant even tho she was tiny and about 6 months old. Her name was Mouse and she was a torti. She had four kittens and my daughter who just graduated college wanted one. So I went down with her and told the friend if a certain orange kitten gave me any special attention, I would take him home. DD picked a black and white who she named Charlie. (He died at 12). The little orange kitten ran over and licked my nose. So we put them in the car in carriers and they both howled the whole way home and pooped in their crates. Both were demanding cats but very lovable. Louie was king and knew it. When I rescued Henry two years ago, Louie remained in charge even tho he was never a big cat...8 pounds and got down to 6 at the end .Henry weighs 19. It's rather subdued here tonight . After we buried Louie in a wildflower garden, I was putting flowers on his grave and got stung by one of my bees on the forehead. I thought that was odd since we have had a hive of bees for 18 years and i have never been stung before..