Sorry this is long....
I know that siblings don't want to always play together and I know stepsiblings do not always want to play together. The other day I was babysitting my friends daughters and they were playing with all 4 of our kids. I checked in on them in the playroom every so often and one time I was watching my son and ss try to play with the girls and my middle sd was so rude! She was telling them "you can't play with us" and saying "duh!" Being a real snot. So I stood there and watched from a distance, because I know they need to work things out on their own sometimes. As soon as my sd saw me she immediately started saying "you guys can play with us". At that point the boys looked at me and said "no thanks!" I just walked away and did not say a word because she knew I saw her being rude.
So today, the boys were asking my sd's to play with them. Both girls said no, they wanted to play alone. One was drawing and one was listening to music. That was fine, they do not have to stop what they want to do to play with the boys.
So boys came to me and said they were bored. Well I got out some tye dying stuff and old t-shirts and let them dye them at the table.
A little while later middle sd came into the room in sunglasses and I could tell she had been crying. I ignored it. Then she came up to me and took off the sunglasses and was crying about how she wanted to play with the boys!
I read her the riot act. Told her I saw just how rude she was to the boys yesterday when she had friends over and that I was really ashamed at her attitude in front of friends. And I reminded her of how she told the boys she did not want to play with them, that she wanted to draw. And told her that it is ridiculous that now that she sees they tye dyed shirts all of a sudden she is going to cry that she did not get to do it with them!
I have no problem with the kids doing their own thing. I do not expect them to play all the time. I am just aggrevated that she is so rude to them in front of friends (and my dh has talked to her about that before). And it really irritated me that she told them she did not want to play with them today, but then she started a whole pity party after she saw what they decided to do! She does this all the time. She automatically says no when either my son or ss ask her to play, but then if they do something fun she throws a crying pity party that she is not included.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this? I am so tired of her always telling them she does not want to play with them but crying about it later when they do something she would have enjoyed and she was not included!
I usually just tell her "oh well, you told them you did not want to play". And I try to ignore her whole "act". But it is not stopping!!!!
kkny
imamommy
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