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Posted by catlettuce (My Page) on Sat, Feb 2, 08 at 1:58
I've been married to my DH for 6.5 yr,s together for 7.5 & the middle s-son keeps coming back with his kid, dog & GF & her kid & cat.
Last time my DH let them move in without discussing it with me at all & I was like a prisoner in my own home, I had 3 surgeries in this time became extremely depressed and angry.
Well they finally left after 9 months (was supposed to be two weeks) & now DH drops the bomb on me the other day that SS & his 3.5 yr old, dog are moving back in for a "few weeks" as he and GF are having troubles & he is trying to get full custody of his kid even though he has no way to get him to day care as he leaves for work at 3:30 am.
Mind you DH works out of town a lot & guess who will really be stuck living with it?
I'm so tired of this.
It's been going on for our whole marriage, he worked for my DH for awhile & would show up for wor two hours late, w paid his house payments for a yr trying to save his house for him & he lost it.
I cannot tell you the thousands of dollars my DH has spent & the resentemnt I feel as the only time we hear from him is when he has a drama, trauma & needs money or a place to live, babysitter etc.
It's destroying our marriage, making me resentful & my DH cannot/will not say no to him-EVER.
I am truly at a loss.
I love the grandson but do not want to raise him & be responsible for getting him to daycare everyday etc.
The last time they lived here they were getting food stamps but we (my hubby & I ) were not allowed to eat any of the food they brought into the house since they "bought" it-yet hey were all here rent free.
I can't take it again, but DH gets very defensive when I try to discuss it.
This SS is very disrespectful to me.
When he & his GF were here last time they moved in took all my things, hot rollers, my girly stuff in the bathroom, threw it all in a cardboard box & put it in the garage & didn't tell me.
There dog bit my kitten & almost killed him.
DH never deals with these situations & I am getting angry all over again because I know what will happen.
Oh & we are supposed to be leaving for vacation in 10 days-Ugh.
I think my situation is hopeless & I need to either suck it up & stay in my bedroom & on anti-anxiety meds or move along.
I love my DH, but I'm not feeling like I can do this again...If I had kown it would be like this I would have just remained his GF & not remarried- Ugh.
I love him so much , but when is enough, enough...I am planning on moving out out if SS moves in.
I have not told my DH yet as I think I am afraid to just hear him outright choose this 27 yr old "adult" over our life together.
I'm just sick of it.
I'll miss my DH terribly as our relationship has been so much better and closer in the 5 months they have been out of the house , but I just cannot take it again.
I happy to hear if anyone has any thoughts or suggestions, as I'm just out of ideas & hope at this point. :0(
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