You should be happy for your dad that he has found someone, instead of trying to sabotage their relationship. Your dad can do whatever he wants with his possessions, they're not yours.

She sounds like a nice person and I think you and your siblings are being mean-spirited and nasty.

--"we dont want her taking away anything that belongs to us kids. its not hers. "--

I will assume that 'anything that belongs to you' is with you, not your father's house. I will also assume that if there were personal items belonging to your mother that was indeed meant to be given to you immediatedly upon her passing, that your father honored her wishes.

--"even my husband has gone to her and told her alot of lies and we told her if she said anything to my dad we would deny it"--

Why would your husband do that? Why a need to run tell lies? Do you really think that filling the woman full of tall tales and deceitful tongue wagging is going to accomplishment anything other than upsetting your father with YOU when he learns what you've done?

Granted, an ideal situation would have been for your father and his 2nd wife to find a nice place together where that they could call their own and make into THEIR home without having to worry about whatever the children think...but it did not happen that way. This is your father's home, you've married and moved out. While it may forever be your childhood home, it rather sounds like they could live any where and you'd still object.

Except for the fact 'you dont care for her' you did not say anything at all negative about her to justify your dislike (if only in your opinion). So, that's it. You're angry Dad remarried, that a second wife now lives in a home that you no longer do, that you didn't get a chance to make an a$$ of yourself because she failed to object to family photos on the wall, and Dad did not hand out all the household belongs to his adult children. Does that about wrap it up?

Look, I know it is hard losing a parent. It's not easy while one is still grieving to accept others have began to move on. But the lies and the readiness to attack are only going to hurt you and your father in the end. You're a grown adult with your own husband and your own home, why would you want to make your father chose you or his wife? it's not like you all live together and have to see each other 24/7. You have your own life, which you father is a parent of. He has his own life, which you are a part of. He lives with his wife. He lives with his wife. What's to chose?

My Dad will always take his kids side we are his blood. And if us kids made up things and told him he would lisen to us because we are his kids. She trys to be to nice to us i dont like it i think something is up.we tryed to tell my dad to get a prenump but he said he didnt need it.and you know what we asked her what my dads plans were. you know what she said i think it would be better if you ask your father thats between you kids and your dad. I have never lived in my mom and dads home but its my mom and dads house not hers and she better not try to change anything. yes i want my dad happy all of us kids can make him happy.

I sure hope you are just a troll making this baloney up. How sad it would be if there really is some poor woman having to put up with the evil behavior you are describing.

Well, you certainly are a piece of work, aren't you? If anything is up, it's you and your evil siblings undermining your Dad's new wife for no good reason than that you refuse to share him. I can think of at least one area where it would be highly inappropriate for you kids to "make him happy" and no doubt there are many others. He gets to choose what makes him happy, not you.
Since your mother has passed away she doesn't own anything and so it's not her house any more, it's your Dad's and now he has chosen to share it with his new wife, hers. Sorry to be so harsh but poisonous people like you do not deserve soft words.
She sounds like a paragon, not objecting to photos of her predecessor in her home (which she has every right to be uncomfortable with) and not inserting herself into family business between you and your Dad. Frankly I think you'd do well to leave her alone, and if you insist on telling lies about her to your Dad, I hope he sees you for what you are and leaves you the nothing you deserve.

Wow. I bet your mom is really proud of the selfless, thoughtful, honest woman she raised.

It's early, so I'll be blunt. You make my skin crawl. Grow up.

First its not her real dad, then its her blood and he will always take her side. Sigh, dont be too sure Stacey. Probably is made up. No married woman would be this immature...

I think that the OP is a troll, perhaps a stepmom acting out what her awful (at least in her mind, but maybe they really are) adult step children think of and do to her, so that she can read lots of posts trashing them.

But if not, then I really hope that this stepmother -- who sounds like an angel of patience putting up with a dreadful family -- comes and posts here!

No this isnt a troll . What im trying to say is we had a family before she came along. She is never going to fit in .she has a family why does she think she needs more. we all were doing just fine. and my mom was a good mom and she did raise us right but the fact remains she doent belong here. i caught my newphew in the kitchen while she was doing the dishes and he told her i love you grandma and she had the nerve to say i love you as much as all the stars in the sky. my mom was his grandma she hasnt been around long enough to no if she loves any of us.time will tell

The poor stepmom will be posting some day..Moonlights punctuation is exactly the same(oh I am so bored today)her and Stacey are most assuredly one and the same.Its really sad you lost your mom Stacy, but I have the feeling this is a stepdad that never adopted you, and now you feel you have lost your grip on the money.If you love your dad so much, let him be happy...The stepmom belongs anywhere on Gods green earth that her and your father decide to be...Butt out...

Don't spoil the child's feelings for this woman. That is not fair to the child. How old is the child? Does he even remember your mother? Sure, your mother is the grandmother of this child, you can help him learn about his deceased grandmother (stories, memories, photos) without making the child feel there is something wrong in his having feelings for another female. It could very well turn out that this child and this woman grow a bond and share great visits and memories together. Would that be so bad? Don't spread the hate unto an innocent child. His heart is pure, he means no disrespect nor does he understand what all the huffing and puffing of the adults is all about.

If she is kind to the child and really does care about him, why let your hate and grief spoil their relationship?

I'm sure your mother was a good mother and that you miss every much. So say you're rotten and nasty enough to force this lady to run for the hills, what then? What happens when Dad then finds a new lady friend and once again begins over? At what point are you going to stop trying to live your father's life for him? Heaven forbid anything happen to your own husband, but what if it did? If you suddenly found yourself a widow (a divorcee) would you seriously say 'that is it, never again will I ever move forward. Would you spend the rest of your years alone, lonely hoping somebody drops by, calls, has time to go for dinner?

You say this man is not your 'real' father, but rather came into your life when you were two. What if your mother had refused to move on with her life and not let this gentleman into your life. Not let him love you, be kind to you? You would not know this man at all if your own mother had not chosen to move on and start a new chapter in her own life.

GROW UP!

"we kids can make him happy". REALLY?? He wants a partner, companionship, and a lover..are "you kids" going to do that for him? You actually want your father to spend the rest of his life alone and lonely? You are supposed to want the best for your family, and you and your siblings are being incredibly selfish.

I hope your dad kicks you and your siblings to the curb, and keeps the wife. At least she probably wants what is best for him.

ps...I suspect this is actually a teenager or child anyway, as any adult that finished at least 3rd grade would have better spelling, grammar, and punctuation...and hopefully a little more compassion and common sense.

stupid child, think through the situation of your dad! He has got baggages (kids from previous marrage), he can hardly find no body! Now he find your stepmum, your should be happy. I guess you are the one should move out as you are an adult already, why still like a little boy want the protection of your daddy and disturb his life?

I wanted to thoroughly reply to your post so I broke it down, bit by bit. There are answers and even some free advice included. I hope I didn't use too many big words though, and that you fully understand all of it.

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"My dad remarried about 4 years ago. My mom passed away 5 years ago."

So? I assume his vows to your mom were "til death do us part" and he lived up to that.

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"The problem is I and my husband dont care for her."

So? You and your husband are not married to her, what's the problem?

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"My dad moved her into our home that my mom shared with my dad."

So? I assume it's HIS house now.

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"He isnt my real father but he is my dad since I was 2 . my 2 brothers and my sister act nice to her in front of her face but they dont like the fact that my dad moved another woman into the home."

So? He's been in your life a LONG time and it's his house now, right? Who cares if your siblings like it or not. At least they are being nice to her face. They were taught something at least. (even if they really don't like her)

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"My dad has alot of photos of all of us being a family and alot of photos of my mom in the living room i heard my dad ask her if the pictures bothered her she said no not at all."

So? Sounds like a nice person that respects and accepts his past life... doesn't want to erase it & pretend it never existed. Sounds very mature to me.

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"I was waiting foe her to say that she didnt want them up i was going to go off on her.

So, you are looking for a reason to start problems where there are none. Sounds awfully immature.

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"I told her one time why dont you rent the place across the street."

So, you actually did try to start problems with something that is none of your business. Nice. Sounds terribly immature.

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"She wouldnt say anything"

Because she is a mature adult & it was a childish statement.

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"we dont want her taking away anything that belongs to us kids. its not hers."

At this moment, everything belongs to her husband. If YOUR things are in the house, you should go get them. If you are talking about an inheritance, you are only entitled to what is left to you in a will from your mom or your dad. If your dad is the one that controls any inheritance, I might tread lightly on pissing him off by being a b!tch to his wife... he may decide to leave it all to her, and it's his right to if he chooses.

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"even my husband has gone to her and told her alot of lies and we told her if she said anything to my dad we would deny it. that my dad would always take our side.."

So, you are also involving your husband who has even less business caring what happens with your dad, his life, etc. And you are having him "test" her to see if she will tattle on you? What are you, in kindergarten? Really? And you are hoping to "test" dad's loyalty to you? Is this for real? So, not only are you and your husband being imature, you are both liars to boot. Nice. Your mom must be so proud.

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"how can we get rid of her. shes a wimp"

You can get rid of her by having your own life. If she calls you and wants to involve herself into YOUR life, tell you who you can marry & live with, where you can live, how you should live, etc.... then come back here & we will all be happy to give you some more free advice.

Same with me am 13 she is living