sorry, I didn't process the part of your post that said you had an 85W CFL on it, and a south window. But I believe light is important not just to maintain the health of a catt, but to grow on that new shoot, *and* to grow new roots. So keep the light good. I do put my catts (even phals) directly *in* a south window with no damage, but if your apartment is up high that might be too much, and the CFL light certainly is a good addition. I give re-rooting catts indoors the same light as the rooted ones (indoor light can't even approximate "high" outdoor light). re moisture meter readings: you say the lady repotted your catt. If it's in bark, new bark tends to be hard to wet, which is why people sometimes soak it before using. Water when dry advice about catts refers to: water thoroughly, letting water run thru for several minutes, then don't water again until the medium is dry. Or soak for 15' when you do water for the first month or so. Be careful not to walk off and forget to take it out of the water, as I often do. That is obviously no good. The white hard roots that you mention were too dry. The green tips they now have are the growing tips and a good sign of their health. To repeat: you will get new roots on your catt when the new growth grows out, and usually as it matures. They grow out of and cluster at the bottom of the new growth. To hurry that up, you can paint the new growth with a gel cloning solution. Or, just be patient. In the meantime, if you want the old roots you have left to branch or grow, water with a dilute liquid rooting hormone solution. Or use superthrive. About the fogger--if it is causing damage to other things, I wouldn't use it. About your dehydrated pbs: sometimes the deyhdrated pbs re-hydrate as new roots grow. But they don't always. As the new shoot develops, the plant starts to look a lot better as the new growth dominates what you see. But often the old ugly stuff stays ugly. The state of that new growth will tell you how the plant is doing-- if it grows out, and when mature (it is mature when the dry covering starts to split) is taller and fatter than the old pbs, it's in great shape. I have a Dialc Mizoguchi that came with a dehydrated pb that never re-hydrated, and is still on the plant, looking as puny and miserable as it ever did. But the new pb was very big and fat, and the plant bloomed with 5 flowers this spring. Watering is a judgment call. If you are successfully growing lavender indoors, your judgment is pretty good, and you have really good light. I never could do it :).

The one type of rose I ALWAYS wait several years to evaluate are cuttings I root myself. They are by definition own root, and teeny tiny. I almost shovel pruned one once - it was a "mystery rose" from our neighborhood. In the first 4 years it grew 12 feet high, but never ever bloomed, not even one flower. I asked for expert advice, and was told to feed it, and wait. Low and behold, the following Spring it was covered with the most beautiful roses - huge, transluscent pale pink blossoms, nodding down from above - just gorgeous. It turned out to be the hybrid gigantica Belle Portugaise. It blooms first in my garden, along with the banksaie lutea which is next to it. Turns out the pale pink and the pale yellow look fantastic together, and both roses are now HUGE, so they put on quite a display - people think I planned it on purpose, but it was really an accident. Now I wait until a rose is full size and blooming before I make any decisions about it.

Michael, I did get the lily from you. I dug it up out of your yard and took it straight to mine. Of the two, only this one has bloomed but it has been blooming pretty consistently. I also got the sage from you I think and it has been growing like crazy. I covered it for the cold and it never even slowed down. Heck, I got half my plants from you. I am lucky to live so close. Thanks again. The greenhouse will be sort of a potting shed/green house. Tim plans to give it a translucent roof and mostly screened walls. That spot never really gets full sun but has filtered light through most of the day. It will be a place for potting plants and starting seeds and a way to get my sprawling gardening supplies out of the garage. The flooring and part of the walls are from salvaged wood so it will not be really super expensive to build. I hope it works out. It is sort of an experiment.

Its been months since I posted but I find myself struggling with issues that the long distance may have started but I just don't know what to do now! Upon my arrival it was apparent that he had fundamentally changed in his feelings towards our marriage and so his attitude towards me has been extremely hurtful. Its long so please bear with me as I really need help. Just before I came back he told me he had only 1 hour online access at work and no access at his Moms, and he blamed this as the reason he didn't respond to my messages and emails, but as soon as I arrived at his Moms he said 'you can go online and tell the kids your here safe' I asked him why he had told me he didn't have internet at home and he flew off the handle denying ever having said any such thing! I logged onto our yahoo account as it is more reliable in the middle east, he has never been tidy with the yahoo account so it was overloaded with old emails spam and the conversation list was pages long. I started to delete and generally tidy up the account when I noticed that he had over 30 emails from a woman I didn't know, I opened a few of them and they were love/friendship poems and pretty gif art featuring hearts and romantic settings. I don't know why I did it but I forwarded a few of them to another account. after an hour or so he came over with a coffee and nearly dropped it when he saw I was using the yahoo account instead of my msn. neither of us said anything. Later the same day I logged on again and All OF HER EMAILS HAD BEEN DELETED nothing else just those and she was no longer in his contact list!! rightly or wrongly I said nothing for a number of weeks as I didn't want to put even more pressure on what was looking more and more like a marriage he no longer wanted. Over the next few weeks he was so changeable he would either be emotionally shut down towards me or very loving, he became very negative about our years together saying it was a mistake for us to ever be together then he would say things like your different I think we can make this work only to change his mind again a few hours later. He started asking strange questions like 'do you think I will marry again?' or 'what should I do if someone else fell in love with you?' what kind of questions are those to ask your wife???!! I still tried to stay calm and would answer things like that by saying ' I'm not sure I understand what your asking, why would you be thinking of getting married again? I'm here with you" but no matter what I did he would become frustrated with me. One evening he was particularly hurtful and I tried to reason with him but eventually we ended up in a terrible row and I let him know that I knew about the woman at work and had seen all the emails before he deleted them. He told me I was crazy he had never received such emails and certainly never deleted them!! He was visibly shocked when I told him I still had copies and that I knew her name her facebook account and so I also had a photo of her. (where we live adultery carries the death penalty) and I keep wondering if this was not the case he may have been honest about this emotional affair I don't think it went further than sharing a private office together but I cant be certain as he will not speak of it. He then later said he should be allowed to do what he wants as I used to have a work friend that called me a lot. the guy was gay and proud of it and I always took calls from him in front of my husband. His family have all been very different towards me and I have since learned that just before I came back he talked openly about me not coming back and 'moving on' they of course all said what he wanted to hear at the time things like: you should have children of your own/ you need a Persian wife/ it was never meant to be etc etc. and now they seem embarrassed to be around me unlike when I used to live here and they came to us every week for a get together. His mother was very very rude to me throwing things at me and when she realized we were moving into our own home again she kept saying things like you can go but he owes me his life he has to stay/ she would make hurtful comments like 'he wants his own children and a new wife' my husband never told her off for any of this not even when she threw things at me and so it got to the point when we did move out that I asked him to have no contact for a while as I belived she was not good for our marriage. of course the first opportunity he got he went to her and this caused me such emotional termoil, when he came back he could tell I was unhappy and he just kept saying 'I can leave if you want' or an hour or so later ' I think you want me to leave' I ignored it for as long as I could and after a drink or 5! I finally snapped and said yes just go back to your Mom! and so he quickly packed and did!! I immediately felt that I had blwn it so I called him and said I was sorry for getting so angry, he got his brother to call me from USA to tell me to leave the country as my husband was never coming back and didn't want to see me!! My husband texted me the next day saying he felt he couldn't come home but didn't want to go to his Moms I told him to come home and we would see what we could work out. After work he came home but was very very cruel and said things I never thought I would hear from him, and in the middle of saying such things he would look at me and say 'I could never have said these things before as I know it hurts you' but it was as if he was enjoying hurting me. later the same night he started having sex with me but he was very drunk and he forced me to have anal sex which was so very painful!!afterwards he just said 'go shower' and then went to sleep. I cried all night and all the next day I tried to make a joke of it! I know that sounds stupid but I didn't know how to deal with it. I blamed myself as throughout our marriage he has 'tried' but it has always been too painful for me and so he has always stopped. But I feel that because I've always been willing to try maybe he thought it was OK or I tell myself he was so drunk he didn't know what he was doing...but he was sober enough to tell me to wash. If Im honest my gut feeling was that his cruel words before and this forced sex act were a punishment!! He wanted to hurt me??? This was 2 months ago and we are still together, he still is very loving towards me but then doesn't want to be with me, he will often just come home get drunk or stoned and go straight to sleep, but other nights he is lovely to me. If I upset him at all he repeats things like I will only stay if Im happy./ I want a perfect marriage/ if I get to 40 and this is no good then I have no kids of my own etc etc I never promised to stay with you forever!! But then the next day he will say things like 'please don't leave me/ your amazing/ I love you/ I adore you !!!!!! Please help me I dont know which husband to belive? I feel truly suicidal at times Im so confused.