Men dont get it,they think it will hurt us less by stringing us along and if they can treat us like crap long enough we will get fed up and go away.It seems they can open up on the phone or e-mail...but face to face they loose the courage to be honest.I am so sorry for your disappointment but maybe in time you will feel lucky .

flowergazer -- women, too, are somewhat famous for this kind of thing.

gabrielesgarden -- the guy's a flake. Move along. Find a man instead of this teenager. He does it because you let him. You should have cut him off many discourtesies ago. Age is no barrier to bad behavior.

this relationship was just a practice run, use it as a learning experience, move on and stay optimistic about your future dating experiences. you are a stronger woman for it.

asolo is right, women are also to fault for this sort of behavior. you just may find yourself being the dumper instead of the dumpee with the next guy. :)

This happens with guys sometimes. I know that I would go through this period of needing some space and quiet time then the relationship would resume shortly after and in high gear. Just give the dude some time to sort things out. I think he'll be back.

Does happen with both guys and gals. Sometimes expectations become a nuisance and people don't want to respond to that directly so they evade instead. However, still appears to me to be very discourteous given even the short track record described. A bad indicator. I don't keep people like that in my life.

hey, thanks for all your reponses. ~quirky, nice thought, but I seriously doubt it, and anyway, it's too late now, too much time has passed and I already said goodbye. I'm with you ~asolo, as much as it hurt, I really dont need people like that in my life. Hey, atleast I found out that I can still date, that I still do want to date, I was a little concerned there for awhile cuz I hadn't dated since my last relationship ...something like 3 years. ~single2long, I figure this must be my karma, I dumped 2 guys in my past, I guess it's my turn now. Well, it's a new year now, time for new beginnings! Happy New Year everyone!

Sorry....but 4 weeks isnt very long to date before beginning some exclusive relationship. You hardly know the guy...as you have found out. Consider yourself lucky that you didnt invest anymore time on this "infatuation" (your words...not mine)

He's working for the Mob. Or aliens.

Any you ladies have a single daughter over 18?

People give lip-service to "honesty" and "openness". However, when it's OUR turn to end it, many of us turn into wimps. Common as nails. I've done it. I've had it done to me. Disappointing but nothing to get excited about. The message is the same. We're not entitled to absolute clarity -- although it would be nice.

Wattaya gonna doo when the hammer drops, argue over it? It's over.

What do you mean, girls have no problems telling me no or it's over.

I can understand why that would be the case. Happens more often to trolls than others. Something you should know by now.

Hey I'm a happy troll. Who wants pudding?

Sounds like maybe you quickly overwhelmed him. Guys have guy stuff to do and their friends add a lot of remarks and talk pressures on them when they arent doing it suddenly.

If you really want to know if he is interested,.......don't write or call him. If he doesn't contact you, then you know he is not interested. Some people can't tell you they are not interested, they just beat around the bush. I don't know how anyone can get so attached and demanding in 4 weeks.

funny that this thread is still going on. I am so over that guy by now! hahaha...funny how that happens, time heals all.

But, to give you an update on the situation, he did call 4 months later, I did agree to go out to dinner with him, we had a good time but no g-bye kiss, just a hug. He said he wanted to be friends, said he wanted to help me with my kitchen faucet. I said ok, fine, I called him a few days later for the help he offered and he blew me off....then writes another email sying how his son was a problem and his dog died!

sorry, but i'm laughing my a** off by now!

ok, on to the next guy, maybe he'll be better than the last. I'll tell you though, I learned a thing or two from this experience.

The writer who suggested that guys are afraid to tell a woman it's over is correct. In my marriage I waited until my ex told me she wanted a divorce. I just couldn't tell her and hurt her.
I went through the same thing in a relationship...just kept stretching it out and putting off what should have been done. I've come to learn that it hurts a woman more by not being direct. They end up going through months of agony rather than an intense, but probably shorter period of "getting over" it.