I am saying it's a non issue.

Asolo - bite me.

I would prefer not to intrude on the fleas' territory.

Well, this forum is at least moving a little.

Blacknumber1 - are you looking to stay home, cook, clean and have dinner ready when the "little woman" gets home from work? Do you do windows, laundry and walk the dog too?

No, not really, I don't mind doing said tasks when the need arises. Right now my house is a mess because its only me living here and I don't care. There is a weight bench in my kitchen and it isn't going anywhere anytime soon.

WOW!Such a simple question, and such a variety of answers!
I think when your young you don't think about what you should look for in a realtionship. All there is is "love". However, as we get older and go through some really tough times and are treated really bad by someone you learn what kind of things you are willing to put up with! You learn that you have a choice! Whether you a guy or a girl? Right?
I simply want a partner. Someone to share things with. The good times and the bad. Someone who will work as hard as I do to have the things we want in life. Someone who will contribute as much as I do to the realtionship!

I like girls that weigh less than I do.

Blacknumber1 you are a hoot! You made me laugh, what a good way to start a day! Of all of the tings that people look for in a mate, I don't think I've ever heard that one before. Have a great day!

Sharon, I try.

Hey can I borrow $20.

No fat women, no poor women. What else?

I like girls who like horror movies, death metal and hanging out at Home Depot.

Dream date. Hopefully you'll find all you are seeking. Hopefully you've had a vasectomy.

Dont worry I hate kids. And I think I have done too many drugs for me to worry about kids.

{{!gwi}}

No horror movies, no death metal, and I love Lowe's, not Home Depot. I don't believe your as bad a guy as you try to make yourself sound like! And NO you can't borrow $20.

You are funny though!

Oh no I am every bit as bad as you think I am. Now I am off to smoke crack and worship S8n.

I totally believe you are as bad as you say you are....you scare me!

financially secure is a bonus, but I agree with asolo, be competent and have your finances in order.

dating sux! it's the same thing over and over again. I like going "solo"! It's less complicated, but I would like to have someone if....if only.

I'm sick of liars and cheaters like the rest of the women. Respect is right up there on the list. No whistlers, no smokers, and for gawdsake they have to have equipment that works and know how to use it well and in an unselfish way!

"I'm sick of liars and cheaters......etc.."

I'm familiar with the stories. However, be assured men haven't cornered the market on any of it. Self-interested opportunistic people come in every configuration. On the bright side, there are some awfully nice folks out there, too. Recalling an old Gerry Rafferty lyric: "After a while you get to recognize the signs. And if you get it wrong, you'll get right next time. Next time."

believe me I know women can be liars and cheaters too! it's sad that I fall in that gender...though far from that category.

Sad to be a good woman? Surely I've misunderstood. Be proud of it. The world needs more of those. Men, too.

yes, you misunderstood, i'm not sad to be a good woman of course, I'm sad to be within the same gender of the bad ones. Perhaps I could have wrote that sentance better, but I didnt'.

It's sad that people in general have to have all these bad qualities. My mother can tend to be a man basher and somewhere along the line I picked it up too....until one day when a male friend of mine said to me "why do you say those things, I've never done any of that to you" Ever since then I became aware of what I was saying and stopped. The fact of the matter is, for every negative thing a person can say about a man, it can also be said about a woman. We are different, we act different, we think different, we feel different. It's a fact.

There's this great book out called "what could he be thinking" by Michael Gurian. I think it's a great book for women to read who just cant understand why men act the way they do sometimes. It all boils down to the differences in teh make-up of the brain and of course the hormones.

It's help me a lot! I'm sure there are books out there for men to help understand women better to if any of them are interested.

*yawns*

*microwaves TV dinner, again*

if you're so bored with microwave tv dinners...again...why not try to cook something? you have the internet, look up a recipe and try to cook it! it could be fun! :-) you might learn something...you might even like it. Then when you do meet a nice girl who doesnt mind the weight bench in the kitchen, you can cook for her, she'll be impressed and wont care that you have no money. :-)

I hate cooking and I hate grocery shopping. If it was up to me I would eat out every night but its too expenaive.

What about a cooking class so that you might enjoy it more? There are usually single women there too!

No, I am too lazy to cook. I don't mind cooking when I have alot of time but I hate cooking when I am tired and hungry. Besides, classes cost money.

Im not cheap, I'm just broke.

You certainly have an excuse for everything. I give up.

I dont have excuses, I just have very limited resources.

Any recognizeable degree of maturity being among them.

I love how this thread has turned into "it's all about blacknumber1"

so it sounds like you just sit around and feel sorry for yourself becasue you have no money. you're too lazy to cook, maybe you're too lazy to go out and make improvements in your own life too.

what do you do for a living? do you even have a job? how old are you? do you have a diploma or degree?

I will answer your qestions in the order you asked them.

NOYB, yes, under 30, yes.

I think you all are being scammed - so called blacknumber is probably somewhere between 12 and 15 years old and enjoying being obnoxious and thinks it's fun.

SA Rose, you're probably right. Gosh, I hope you're right. If not, he's got more issues than Newsweek!

nope, I'm 25.

And you guys take everything here way way too seriously.

yer just an odd one, but 25 explains alot! you are the one who seems to be uptight about a lot of things....everyone else here has lived long enough to have learned not to take things so serious., some of us were actually trying to inspire you a little bit but i'm beginning to think you are bored out of your mind and here to f**k with us by making us believe you are some kind of freak....hey...maybe you are! :-)

Bored - yes.

A freak - yes as well.

hmmm.....yeah, well....good luck with that!

I don't take this stuff to seriously! I've been way swamped at work and haven't had a chance to log on lately. It's been a long week. End of the semester and students grades were due today. Now I can finally chill for awhile! You guys always make me laugh......

blacknumber1, it's simple if you are so unhappy with your life, change it! You can do anything if you set your mind to it! Think positive........

So, I am new to this organization. I joined after reading all of your postings about finding a good quality mate (which didn't really include many traits, but I still found interesting). I guess a more important question than that is... DO WOMEN REALLY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT? I was in the middle of having a conversation with my husband about our relationship when he said, "What do you want from me?" I didn't really have a specific answer. I couldn't find the words. We decided to work on one thing a week that each of us wanted the other to improve but I didn't even know where to begin. (Not because he's perfect, but because my list was so long.) Obviously, I need to improve on seeing his good qualities. But in the meantime ladies... What do women want?

Communication, compassion, truthfulness, respect, patience - you know, all the positive attributes a human can possess, and I want it RIGHT NOW!!!

Women want whatever their last boyfriend lacked...

Carla35...from my own my own experience, I'd stop with "women want".

If I'm to believe what I'm told, men are the same.

And the dance goes on.

Yep, Carla - you are right!

asolo,

I must be having a brain freeze day...not understanding your comments... can you spell it out differently?

My attempt at humor is apparently insufficiently clever. What I meant was that both men and women "want" things. Exactly what they want seems to me ever-changing depending on how the relationship develops. By saying "the dance goes on", I was referring to our never-ending attempts to couple up regardless.

"Communication, compassion, truthfulness, respect, patience - you know, all the positive attributes a human can possess, and I want it RIGHT NOW!!!"...LOL Jo!!....been reading a book "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps"...very entertaining...I'd recommend it, thus far.

Michael, why not give us a synopsis of what you have read thus far? I have wondered, for years, why men don't listen!

just to hold on to life and to share with someone.

Right, bookest. Very profound. Easy, too. If that's all you require, I guess anyone will do.

Why not hook up with blacknumber1? It's only been four years since he last posted and I'm sure he's still available.

Yes sirree....hold on to life and share. That's the ticket.

I am not looking for a permanent mate, but if I met a man that I wanted to date and travel with his financial situation would be very important for the reasons Aslo mentioned.

Financially secure - I don't think it's being a gold digger, but realistic, especially as you get older.

I met my (then) FH when I was 39; at the time that I met him, I also met a guy who said that he did "yard work" when I asked him what he did for a living. *Yard Work!* I mean - I imagined him in his high school letter jacket, trundling his lawn mower from house to house - at the age of 40! Maybe I read too much into it, but that sounded neither mature nor financially secure.

Now I'm married to dh; of course, I married him for reasons other than the fact that he is financially secure. But it means a lot to know that although we will never be wealthy, we will be able to retire in comfort in another decade or so.