The hairspray didn't seem to budge the ink at all. That's one of the first things I tried - it has worked on regular ball point ink before and I had hoped it would work on this. The gel ink is maybe different. Just having the shirt soaking in water lightened the stain some, but I don't think I'll ever get it all out. I've tried several things, but nothing really seems to work. I sure appreciate your help, though. Thanks, Cindy

I have had good luck with cheap hairspray for ink....spray and soak up with a towel several times...but please try it first where it wouldn't show...and probably the best would be to contact the manufacturer.

I've tried every solvent and chemical in my house and nothing worked. So, I contacted Colonial Patterns where I buy my patterns. Here is their reply: Dear Deborah-------Transfer ink does not wash out of all fabrics especially polycotton materials. Most of the time it will wash out of 100% cotton fabric, but sometimes individuals transfer too much ink to the material to have it wash out. There is one secret about transfer ink that most people don't know about and that is that it hates direct sunlight. For some reason, direct rays of sun will cause transfer ink to fade away. If you can not cover up your transfer lines with wider embroidery stitches, we suggest that you try exposing the lines to sunlight. Thanking you very much for the opportunity to help you, we remain, Sincerely yours, Bud Price, Colonial Patterns, Inc.

You do need to talk with your husband to let him know what's going on and to see if he has any ideas, or is able to pick up more often. It's not fair for you to be open to harassment when you're doing him a favour. Is there some way you can approach the school and ask what they could do to minimise bioMom coming into contact with you and harassing you? Obviously it would be awkward for the school if you had to get a restraining order against bioMom.