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Decorating and Life Changes...

southernheart
15 years ago

In my 20s and 30s, I was in love with color and pattern. My rooms were painted in different colors, mainly alternating neutrals and strong color, and I often used strong pattern and color in my fabrics, also (often almost necessitating strong paint color as a companion).

Now in my mid-40s, with a lower-key home based job (telecommuting), kids almost grown, and surely perimenopausal ;), I find myself being drawn more to neutrals, tone-on-tone, and more natural elements, with my stronger color and pattern mainly in my accents and collections. Similar to the home in "Something's Gotta Give". Still very interesting and layered, collected-over-time, but more calm and serene.

I had to laugh while writing this post, picturing myself as the Kathy Bates character in "Steel Magnolias", knocking through that wall in search of "light and air". Yeah, I must be hitting that point... :-)

Have any of you had a similar experience with your surroundings, and your desire to change them as you experience some of life's changes yourself?

Comments (45)

  • yayagal
    15 years ago

    You sound like me. Our home was filled will collected antiques, beautiful orientals and art work from around the world. Recently I sold all of it at auction and started all over with a more urban organic look. I was always a maximilist and now I've pared way way back using natural linens and softer colors. I feel much more calm and less distracted now. I was always looking at the items around me and now I just relax and enjoy the lack of items in the rooms. I think its just a growth process, one I'm with which I'm very happy.

  • alex9179
    15 years ago

    yep, me too. It was "Fried Green Tomatoes", though. I only point it out because I idenitified with characters in both movies. :)

    I think I needed outward stimulation in my early years to feel certain things. Now at 38, I feel and have experienced so much more than I was prepared to, I've felt a need to make my environment is calmer.

    Age isn't the issue, only what you have experienced and how it has impacted what you want to feel in your surroundings.

    I used to crave color around me, now I look for some semblence of serenity.

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  • perky_2
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  • User
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    I'm 51 now. Yayagal's dad hit it right on the head. I see my daughter-in-law "nesting:" collecting little knick-knacks and mementos for their home, shopping, creating, decorating, collecting.

    Me? I'm purging. The more I can give, sell, recycle the better. I hardly go into stores anymore. I really don't need a thing.

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  • Ideefixe
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    Mine's sort of the opposite--now in my 50s, I like more color, more mixing, more modern designs mixed with the old stuff I laboriously found. I might even succumb to the lure of the catalogue room.

  • yayagal
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    Welcome FlyingCarrot, Once you've been reading the threads for a while you get the feeling you know each other well. It's a great forum and I've enjoyed it so much. Nice to have you join us.

  • runninginplace
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    Flyingcarrot, yayagal beat me to it-welcome! Please don't hesitate to jump in. Everyone you are perceiving as part of an online family was a newcomer once. It's good to have fresh viewpoints, so don't be shy about sharing yours.

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  • User
    15 years ago

    We started out with very modern furniture and I kept accessories to a minimum, as we lived in a 3-bedroom, 2 bath apartment in New York with three children and I saw how unbearable life could be if it was really cluttered.

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    We're now in our "forever" house, which is big and is on a fairly big property, and our style is very traditional. We've had the good fortune to inherit some nice pieces of furniture, and I love our home, but my secret wish is to turn the key in the front door lock, drive away and live in a tiny 2-bedroom cottage I pass almost every day.... tiny, perfect yard, historic restored house, quiet street with neighbors...

  • Bumblebeez SC Zone 7
    15 years ago

    I am drawn more and more to happy colors than traditional decorating palettes. I have always loved clear, vivid pinks, purples, greens, yellows, blues, magentas together but rarely see them used except in children's rooms. So basically I am regressing to an 8 year old girl who loves purple. I'm usually annoyed when someone says "look at my purple room/house/chair!" and it's some gray mud brown.
    Someday I will decorate the way I want and ignore all the taupes in the world.
    And I still like traditional decorating though. Hate mod and most contemporary. I want a rock cottage with gables and a periwinkle door and an apple green sofa.

    But for years I decorated like a grown up.

  • susieq07
    15 years ago

    Absolutely! as probably everyone goes through these changes, we started our married life 46 yrs. ago in the NE with "early american"- some antiques until we built our first big home, then the living area went with "mediterranean" style furnishings, and downstairs family room went modern,but always darker warmer tones, hubby's midlife crises brought on the move to FL. and slowly got rid of darker colors and went with pastels or lighter cooler colors more popular in the hot south..in Traditional style mostly..

  • craftymeca
    15 years ago

    I have noticed several posters 50 and over that like myself are leaning toward the darker colors in thier homes.Two years ago we started doing a little cosmetic decorating, painting new tw etc. We have done a complete 180 in the greatroom fom dark wall paper (bottom of wall)and pastel furniture, to no wall paper, neutral painted walls and dark navy and red furniture. It continues to be that way with our current Dr from all over floral paper, to a graphic black, grey and copper paper only on one wall.

    Choice of furniture has always been traditional/transitional, and a little lean on the accessories.I also seem to be throwing out more as heaven knows the younger generation does not want fine china and crystal anymore.

    When we go away for the winter the house we rent is almost a quarter of the size of our home, and it seems so much simpler. Like others, I often ask myself do I really need all this stuff. Perhaps it should be like a piece of clothing, for every new piece you buy you get rid of an old one.Rather than spending more on the house I prefer to spend it travelling and having the big house ( which we do)just want to maintain it until the time we decide to downsize.

  • amck2
    15 years ago

    I'm in my early 50's and an empty nester (DD gets married this coming Friday!)and I find that I want to have less stuff around me these days. Now that I can indulge in activities of my own, as compared to the decades I spent (happily) supporting those of my kids, I don't want to spend my time cleaning and dusting knick knacks, etc.

    I'm liking having fewer, but nicer things. Besides my wedding set of dinnerware, which was rarely used, I never owned good china for day-to-day. Now I'm collecting pieces of a set that I would never have chosen in my 20's when I married, and I enjoy eating from those plates and drinking my tea with a cup & saucer even when I have breakfast by myself.

    I think every stage of life has its rewards, and that your true self unfolds as you age. It's fun and interesting to see how my daughter is feathering her first nest, but I wouldn't trade places with her. I love where I am right now.

  • pbrisjar
    15 years ago

    When my mom and dad retired they sold their home, gave away most of their stuff and moved into an RV full-time. Mom still has her cherished knick-knacks, though. Every time they move she carefully packs them away in her two large Rubbermaid storage containers, then brings them back out once they're settled.

    As for me, I'm turning 41 this year and I still love tons of color and detail. Maybe that's because I've lived in white-walled rentals most of my adult life. I don't have a lot of "knick-knacks" but that's more due to the fact that I've lost them throughout the years due to a not very stable home life.

  • estreya
    15 years ago

    "Maybe that's because I've lived in white-walled rentals most of my adult life."

    That statement really resonates with me. Having purchased my first home at 35, i feel like i got a very late start on the whole process of caring for and feathering a nest. Prior to that, each apartment move was like a "forced purge," so i'm only really left with the things i cared enough about to keep track of.

    Having said that, Good Will ended up with a few items i really wish i had right now. But mostly, i'm happy to live with minimal "clutter" around me.

  • stinky-gardener
    15 years ago

    bumblebeez,

    You might enjoy the book, "The Illustrated Cottage" by Nina Williams. In the book, the colors are really the centerpiece of a world artfully created in a cottage in Provence. Lavenders, pinks, greens, & blues abound, & are used in the most creative, idiosyncratic manner I've ever seen. Your post brought it to mind. I checked it out from the library recently. It was such a feast for the eyes! Stinky

  • Ideefixe
    15 years ago

    My kids must be swimming against the tide--they have lists of what they want from my vast arsenal of china, silver, and so on. I warn them (21 and 16) that they might find that what they like now won't be so desirable by the time they inherit it (at least another 50 years to go, right?) but they insist.

    I think I was far more "correct" in my 20s and 30s, but I still have and enjoy things I bought back then.

  • Bumblebeez SC Zone 7
    15 years ago

    Thanks Stinky! I'll look for it.

  • texashottie
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    This is interesting. Some of what you all are describing as your current taste compared to what your "old" taste used to be really seems more in line with current trends in magazines, rather than your current age. And your "old" tastes are what used to be popular a decade (or whatever) ago.

    I see myself collecting and attracted to some of the same "looks" that others are describing and we're at completely different life stages and ages.

  • ratherbegardening
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    I usually lurk here but wanted to get in on the action. So interesting hearing about everyone's transitions!

    I'm 35, but I always thought I was weird because I would go into these beautiful houses full of interesting knick knacks or antiques, and while I admired them I knew if I lived there I would have to remove nearly everything in order to be able to "rest." Same with colors. I love all the deep rich shades people paint their rooms, but when I get home, all I crave is tone-on-tone or low contrast with lots empty spaces to rest my eyes.

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  • Ideefixe
    15 years ago

    Sometimes current trends point out things that I didn't know about years ago--although I can't think of any right off hand, but designers/innovators can bring something back. (Although avocado green isn't worth reviving.)

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  • luckygal
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    I am a person who does not like clutter, my younger sister is a slob ... she has no space that is free of clutter anywhere in her house, and it's not organized clutter, it's a mess. I get rid of things that have outlived their usefulness or are no longer interesting to me.

    I've sold little antiquey things on ebay, and given away things on freecycle.

    People always tell me they feel very comfortable in my home, that's the best compliment I could get.

  • des_arc_ya_ya
    15 years ago

    At 58 I've found myself at exactly the same stage that many of you are talking about. Still love to antique and junk shop, but just don't bring nearly as much home as I used to! Also, when I bring things in I try to get things out - right away.

    Am sure enjoying our bedroom - cream and white panels on the windows, old furniture all painted white. Quilt is a white one that my mom made for me 10 years ago. It's a cool and quiet looking haven.

    Now with my kitchen...I still haven't gotten there yet! LOL

  • IdaClaire
    15 years ago

    What an interesting thread!

    I'm another one of those embracing color (I hesitate to add "late in life" - I'll soon be 46, but I think I've still got some mileage left in me!) -- and often, the bolder and more vivid, the better. My little Tudor-inspired cottage's exterior doesn't give away what lies inside, and that's a colorful feast for the eyes. Well, I think so anyway. ;-)

    I lived for quite a few years in a big house that was decorated in browns and terra cottas and other earthy "dirt" shades. I think I was trying to capture the essence of the desert southwest, the redrock country of southeastern Utah, where my father and I spent many hours backpacking together over the years. It ended up more like monochromatic dullsville, and got to the point that I actually felt depressed in that house. It should be added that at the time, I was married to someone who strictly outlawed freedom of expression in many ways, and he limited my decorating choices by putting his foot down and stating that we just weren't having this or that.

    OK, so I divorced him. ;-)

    Fast forward a few years, and now I'm in this little old cottage that I adore, with a wonderful new hubby who makes me so happy, and I've infused our home (and our life) with color. Bright, bold, and beautiful -- it makes my heart sing to live inside a little jewelbox now, and is somehow reflective of the changes I've made in my lifestyle over the past several years.

    I hope to never lose my craving for creativity and art and a sort of bohemian expressiveness in my home, although I'm sure that the way I demonstrate such things will continue to evolve. It is very interesting to me that all of the homes I've lived in have reflected, more or less, what's been going on in my own psyche at any given point in time. I guess "who I am" just naturally comes out in my surroundings. (So I'd better just decide to be as happy as possible, right? ;-))

  • southernheart
    Original Author
    15 years ago

    I've loved reading everyone's responses! You know, the one thing we all seem to have in common is that we're all evolving, and tweaking things so that they reflect the true "us" (at least, who we are at this moment ;). That is what decorating should be, in my mind...and expression of the people who live there.

    I didn't mean to lead you all to believe that I'm now a minimalist (I'm from the South, you know! :). I guess I'm just clearing out the things that I'm not in love with, or that hold little meaning for me. And, I still love my touches of color.

    Once again, I enjoyed reading each and every post!

  • pennylaney
    15 years ago

    Hi,

    I'm almost 49, and we just moved into a new home. We took the opportunity to pare WAY down, because we moved from a large house to a relatively small house. We chose to incorporate things we want (exercise room, office, big porches) rather than things that other people think we should want (formal dining and living areas, huge master bedroom suite, etc.).

    Many friends and family members have thought our choices "strange", as they seem to be more impressed with lots of space and lots of stuff. I'm done with that. I've been working very hard to decorate simply and to get rid of clutter and things. It is very liberating!

    I've been a regular reader of this forum, as I try to find ideas for decorating my small rooms. Now I'm looking for SIMPLE wall art/decor. Glad to hear that there are others out there like me.

    PennyLaney

  • johnmari
    15 years ago

    At 37 I think I'm probably hitting the "paring" stage a bit early, although I've always been pretty brutal about getting rid of extraneous things because I've moved SO many times. I'm also just not a terribly sentimental person when it comes to material items, just because someone gave something to me or I made it in kindergarten doesn't mean I have to lug it around forever, it's like a millstone around my neck. When we started packing for this latest move last year and realized that the smallest bedroom, which we had been using for storage, was mostly boxes which had not been opened since we moved there in early 2004, and some of which had not been opened since the move before that in 2002 I said "to h*ll with this" and got rid of 90% of it. We ended up getting a very nice tax refund because of how much we donated to charity.

    A few weeks ago we cleared out the guest room which had been the repository for the boxes we didn't know what to do with yet. Lots of "why did we move this?" and another two station-wagon-loads off to Goodwill! With a 1250sf house (the RE agent had calculated it wrong) there just isn't room for any dumping grounds.

    I too spent a great deal of my life in white-walled-rentals, urk. I am looking forward to getting some of the wall work done so I can paint the PO's dull white walls. While I respect others' need for restful, serene, airy interiors I just get bored and a little depressed, and always have, although I did try it in a couple of apartments because I thought that was what I was "supposed to do"; being very much a homebody I need the stimulation of color, judicious mixture of pattern, and some interesting objects I've chosen because I love them. Sort of a medium level of busy-ness and lots of cozy feeling (my rooms are small and conducive to "nesting"). :-) Almost all of my accessories are still packed away and I do miss them, my rooms feel naked and dull.

    BTW, my mom is 61 and my grandmother 85 and I don't think either one of them would give up their tchotchkes in favor of "serenity". Mom's very much like me, has to have color and fun things to look at, although her decorating taste is completely different from mine - she's English country/cabbage roses/Laura Ashley/distressed painted furniture, I'm quartersawn oak/William Morris prints/melange of antiques.

  • mzdee
    15 years ago

    Very cool post.
    I'll be 50 in the Fall. Used to cling to neutrals. I now love color. I've got yellows, oranges, greens, autum rusts and baby baby baby....
    RED GRANITE.

    Now I don't cling to anything. I embrace. In one room, I have traditional furniture. Downstairs in the rec room, I'm working on pure funk and fun. In this phase of life, not everything has to match. It needs to be of quality and most of all, I have to love it.

    I am less inclined to buy things. There is a Proverb that asks why we chase that which is not bread. I take it to heart and "chase" far less than I use to.

    Thanks for post.

  • mahatmacat1
    15 years ago

    Fried Green Magnolias?

    Steel Tomatoes?

    The most prominent way my tastes have changed is from wanting black as the dark grounding color to browns and greys. Many of the pieces I left back on the east coast would fit in today, with that one little change. Industrial age deco to organic modernist (way before it was popular, btw, texashottie :)).

  • runninginplace
    15 years ago

    "being very much a homebody I need the stimulation of color, judicious mixture of pattern, and some interesting objects I've chosen because I love them. Sort of a medium level of busy-ness"

    That may be part of the appeal for me of a quiet, neutral restful home...I am not a homebody; I work at a job I could not love more but which is busy, full of variety and jammed to bursting with dealing with people all day, every day. And dealing with them in a counseling/advising framework at that.

    By the time I get home I do NOT want any busyness anywhere.

    This actually came up once with my sister in law. She is a SAH married to an engineer with a civil service job. They really enjoy having people over on the weekend, and she was drilling me about why my husband (who also deals with people all the time and teaches on the side to boot) and I don't have a very active social life outside of work. My response was that if I was sitting at home alone all week, and my husband was sitting alone communing with a terminal at the office all week...we might love to see people on the weekend. As it is, we cherish peace, quiet and no company!

    I also cherish a house that makes me feel relaxed, at ease and not obligated to deal with a lot of details. I find a lot of 'stuff' makes me feel jangly and not placid, to say the least.

    As the sayings go, just my .02, your mileage may vary yada yada yada...:).

    Ann

  • newdawn1895
    15 years ago

    Ya'll got me hungry for fried green tomotoes. The restaurant that the movie was taken from is about 15 miles away. Not the actual restaurant they used in the movie.

    It's sort of a greasy spoon but I like their green tomotoes and fried chicken. And I love to watch the trains go by.

    Fanny Flag's autographed picture's hang every where when you walk in.

    Has nothing to do with the decorating change subject. I just thought I would gab for a second. Incidentally the restaurant is not called The Whistle Stop it is called the Irondale Cafe. There never was a Whistle Stop, only in the book and movie.

    .....Jane

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