Just taking a minute to say 'hi' to my KT friends!

11 years ago

It has been quite awhile since I have been on this forum, but wanted to let you know some "good news" in my life for a change.

I finally got our (well, now it is mine) house sold...closed, and check in the bank! The Amish builders, who my DH liked so well, has a spot they are going to work me in because their next build didn't have all of their financial arrangements made.....so I am now back in the building mode and he gave me good (or at least, I was happy) approximate materials + labor estimate. He said he thought that he could build it cheaper for me this way than a bid price because contractors always add in quite a bit should the "unknown" come up on the build.

I trust this contractor so much. They do extremely good work and I believe him to be very honest. DH was an architect/contractor before his death and he said that when/if we built this contractor would be the only one he would use. He has inspected his work and totally approved.

I had a complete melt-down last Sunday...I looked around this house that DH drew and built just for us about 12 years ago and it felt like I was leaving him here...but Monday I got ahold of myself and decided that although I am leaving his hand-print here, I am taking his spirit with me to the lot we have had for over 4 years on our little lake that we both loved.

I have to move Saturday....have no "home", but a dear former classmate, who is also widowed recently asked me to come live with her until I bought or built a house. I am extremely thankful for her generous offer.

So until the next time I stop by at KT, you all be well and stay safe....blessings :-)

Sort by:Oldest

Comments (17)

kacram
11 years ago
((((((phoggie)))) Oh, Phoggie! thank you for checking in. I'm thankful you have such a good friend! Maybe you will like having a room mate? all the best.....
marie_ndcal
11 years ago
Just those special thoughts for a new home and be sure and keep us up on the details of the building.
Related Discussions
Just take a minute to reflect....
Q
Comments (12)
Yes, thank you. We were visiting Pearl Harbor just days before and DH & I were profoundly affected standing on those hallowed grounds. That site holds a lot of energy. I do not know anyone lost on 9/11, being a west coast resident my entire life, but I do recall that exact feeling of the world going mad. This just does not happen on American soil! But then I did think of the people who live in war torn nations and thought of how very proud I am to be an American. How really special it is to live here and to have been a safe country for as long as modern history recalls. And I realized on that day that Americans really CAN rally together if we're tested. 9/11 was THE most important day of my life. I'll never forget.
...See More
Just bouncing in to say hi!
Q
Comments (8)
Brenda said: I miss the accountability and think maybe I need it in order to keep everything moving in a positive direction. I think we ALL need the accountability... and it makes it more fun! Who else but you guys would care what's in my closets? LOL Welcome back! Julie
...See More
Just to say 'hi'
Q
Comments (7)
Building a home for you should be fun. If you have never done it, let me warn you that at some stages the house looks too small, and you fear that you won't be able to fit your furniture in the rooms or even turn around. I don't know what it is, but it is some form of an optical illusion going on. Then the next stage, it will look just right, and then it will shrink again with the following stage. Have a good adventure!
...See More
Just saying hi
Q
Comments (18)
There's our miracle babies! My, they are so beautiful/handsome and have grown so much. I, too, miss you and Steph. I can't do "Facebook," so it's a real treat when I get to see photos. How's the new grand-pup doing?
...See More
terilyn
11 years ago
I am so glad things are working out for you. Saying goodbye is the most difficult, be happy in your building process and know that your DH is with you in spirit.
User
11 years ago
Your progress is a blessing and a reminder of how much better off we are when we push ourselves on to the next passage even if we stumble a bit. Your future sounds very lovely. Really it does.
petaloid
11 years ago
I wish you all the best, and the strength you need to carry you through these challenges.

Please keep us posted when you can.
gemini40
11 years ago
How nice to hear from you again.Your future is looking brighter and how exciting to be able to build a new home on a lake that both you and your husband loved.. very special story Mary. Good luck and as others have asked please keep us posted.

June
katlan
11 years ago
Stay strong. Move forward. Bless your friend. And Bless you.
gemini40
11 years ago
How nice to hear from you again.Your future is looking brighter and how exciting to be able to build a new home on a lake that both you and your husband loved.. very special story Mary. Good luck and as others have asked please keep us posted.

June
susanjf_gw
11 years ago
enjoy your new home..i'm sure that you'll have lots of ideas from your dh that you'll use, so you'll never lose his spirit...glad you have a contractor you can trust, too...

please do like everyone mentioned and keep up to date on the building process...
phyllis__mn
11 years ago
So good to see your happier posting, and do keep us up to date on your progress.
chisue
11 years ago
Thanks for 'checking in'. Nice to focus on all this good news: House is sold; you have a temporary home with a good friend; your future home is moving forward.

Once you're established at your friend's home, might it be time to rest a little? It's been a hard road -- and it was so even before the shock of your DH's death. It's possible to 'gear down' without grinding to a halt!
sjerin
11 years ago
You probably needed a little meltdown--so much change for you after losing your dh. I'm glad you have a great contractor and hope you'll also take advantage of the other Gardenweb sites that have to do with building, remodeling, etc. There are many of them and have been invaluable to me as we begin a kitchen remodel.
User
11 years ago
Thanks for checking in, I missed hearing from you. I hope all goes well in you new home & with your friend. Keep in touch.
joyfulguy
11 years ago
Thanks for letting us know how things are going, phoggie.

It is really great to have friends make a major offer to help, especially when we are in need, up in the sir, etc.

I hope that you have some breathing space and can get settled down better into your new lifestyle: it is such a huge adjustment, and I think often goes better if we have a housemate to help us relate to varied thoughts, offering intellectual stimulation along with companionship.

ole joyful
mary3444
11 years ago
I was just thinking of you the other day. Both of us lost someone so special to us in Dec. I feel we have a lot in common. It is good to hear you have decided to build a home. I wish you all the best on your new home. Glad you will have someone to stay with for now. Please keep in touch. The other Mary
phoggie
Original Author
11 years ago
Oh your wishes means so much to me...you are such great friends.
I am exhaused packing by myself. I don't know how I could have gotten so much in these cupboards and closets! And I thought I had gotten rid of so much stuff at my sale.
The 26th is moving day! and it is supposed to be 100 degrees!

You all take care and blessings to each of you~
joyfulguy
11 years ago
Hi again phoggbound,

Well ... at least you won't be "homebound" tomorrow!

Good thoughts being sent your way and hopes that things will go smoothly and just the way you'd like them, tomorrow.

ole joyful